Are you as tired as I am of being here?

I want to be able to come home… put my arms around you… so we can look into each other’s eyes, and melt our hearts with… ‘I love you’

I am European born and raised, 'selective' gentleman that loves American Style Ballroom Dancing… Searching for that very rare… 'Classic’ lady -- Your ability to dance is NOT a requirement

Would that be you?

I know you’re skeptical… anybody with even a shred of common sense would be… but I promise not to insult your intelligence with impressive sounding, but empty words like honesty and integrity. You and I both know… “Talk’s cheap,” and I don’t expect you to be that naïve

And since I am a realist… I will not bore you with a long list of ‘things’ I like – they are meaningless… and hardly the basis for a loving relationship. In fact, at the risk of sounding out of touch with the times… I’ll write about real values… and reality

What I will tell you is that I am ‘real’ and to me… this is NOT a game. It is also NOT about walks on the beach, wining, dining, travel, or adventure

It’s about something much deeper than that – it’s about our future -- something I take very seriously, as I’m sure you do as well

To me, it’s about love, respect and commitment. It’s about being there for each other… always! Yes… I love dancing, dining, the beach -- it’s all there for us to enjoy, but if you got sick tomorrow… would you still care about my taste in music?

I think not… you’re not ‘that’ superficial

These are the ‘hard’ questions that need to be asked and answered. At least for those of us who are ‘real’

And so if you are ‘real’ and if you share my beliefs… if you can love, accept and respect me for the ‘manly’ man that I am… without trying to change me into something I’m not, or someone I’m not meant to be… I will love, accept, and respect you for the special girl that you are

You might as well know right up front that I have faults. In fact, I am grossly inferior to the new, modern man that can now cry on demand, and share his feelings with you. My outdated programming is only capable of loving you. Unconditionally. Always

Are you the girl I’m looking for? I want to fall madly in love with you

My wish list is short:

I would like you to be HEALTHY, please don’t have ANY tattoos (even if they’re not visible), no belly-button rings, tongue-studs, nose-studs, or ANY artificial, after-market parts (mastectomy and necessary reconstructive surgery excluded), but please... should you decide to contact me... please keep it within the limits of integrity, and do it ONLY if your pictures are current, reflecting you the way you look today

Listen… I’ve attempted to describe myself but must concede defeat… and so I’ve asked a long-time friend to help me out. Here is what she wrote… word-for-word:

“Hi, I’m Diane -- I met Lou almost 23-years ago.

What I loved about Lou is that he’s always consistent, eager to help, and you can always count on him. You’ll love his positive attitude; he’s confident, perceptive and unselfish (not braggadocios, or arrogant)

He takes life seriously, but has a tremendous sense-of-humor. He’s loving, caring and understanding… Loves to cuddle and hold hands, and he knows how to make a lady feel special

At first glance he’s very misleading – sounds like a very simple man… but you’ll quickly see the depth, sophistication, and complexity of his mind... Yet you’ll find him down to earth… connecting with people easily

He’s very direct and to the point. Says what he means, means what he says straight shooter. No excuses. Holds himself accountable for his words and actions -- he has no use, or tolerance for unethical people who don’t stand by their word -- his handshake is his bond

NOT A PUSHOVER and not easily intimidated. Take charge, but not controlling kind of man -- and just between us girls? If you don’t like a man with a backbone… he’s not for you. He’ll adore and respect you, he’ll treat you like a lady and will never abuse you, but you will never lead him around by the nose like a puppet

Great conversationalist. A realist. Can, and does communicate intelligently. He’s well informed; up on politics and world events. He’s spontaneous and flexible, witty and sharp, adventurous and curious

He can be firm and serious, but also gentle, easygoing and forgiving. Never dwells on the past, always looks to the future. He’s well traveled and has great appreciation for other cultures

A family man. His friends are welcome in his home anytime, day or night… without a phone call, or an appointment

Do you like dancing? He’s a great dancer and if you like attention and feeling special… just follow his strong lead – all eyes will be on you

He loves to cook, eats healthy, and never frets over the small stuff. He’s fun to be with, has many corny jokes to tell, a man with a very open personality, and you’ll never have to wonder what’s on his mind

Every word is true… Diane Ryan”

Thank you Diane for your kind words

And after all this reading… what can you expect from me?

I’m a dreamer, are you? Can you close your eyes and imagine… what would it feel like to be in love again? Can you picture having a loving friend to come home to? And do things with? Together?

Isn’t that what you and I crave?

ALL of us here have the same burning desire, but only the lucky few will find that elusive ‘perfect match’…

Will it be you and I???

Please read the “First Date’ section below carefully

Hmmm, first date

I recently traveled 1250 miles to meet the love of my life just to find out she didn’t even remotely resemble the person in her profile

And so… How about we start with being honest about who we are

I am just a shade over 6’ tall, 223 lbs. And my picture was taken last June by an amateur – no air brush

Please be honest about your age – **I WILL WALK AWAY THE MOMENT I FIND OUT**

And to reduce the volume of email from women I have nothing in common with… here is a very clear description of my match: You are a girl that possesses that ‘inner’ class -- the kind of class that can only come from within your heart… as in the way you speak, the way you act, and the RESPECT you treat ‘EVERYONE’ you come in contact with (not to be confused with someone with proper table-manners that sits straight at a restaurant table looking down on people… that’s not it) You are intelligent, *responsible*, easygoing, not petty or controlling. You are attractive, but not a Barbie. Your body is slim, average, or a few extra pounds (height, weight proportionate). You are between 5’4” and 5’10” and you are able to tell the truth, without being cruel. You believe in God and you will respect my views on the subject, as I will respect yours. I do enjoy lovemaking, and hope you do as well

Listen… I really don’t mean to sound like I’m ordering something at a deli counter, but I don’t know how else to do this. In fact, this makes me a bit embarrassed

Please do not contact me if you are ‘argumentative’ liberal. I’m a conservative and do stand by my convictions. I have a very open mind, am perfectly willing to be proven wrong via intelligent conversation based on documented facts, not by hearsay and opinions -- I will not argue about politics

Why did I invest the time and effort to express myself in such a detail? Because I am dead serious about this, and don’t want to be here forever -- I want to meet you while I am still able to enjoy your company.

Please don’t take this the wrong way, but due to time constraints, I am unable to exchange very many emails before we get on the phone. Please be prepared to talk to me on the phone soon.

And now that you got this far… and you’re on your 2nd or 3rd cup of coffee… (smile), and if you think you are a match to this very shy, and timid (wink) gentleman… please don’t say… “If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be” and move on. Nothing happens, unless we make it happen… Please email me right now

Lou

P.S. I want to thank each and every one of you for the countless positive comments on my profile, and a very special thank you to those of you that placed me on your list of favorites. I’m honored