I just want to know that all might be ok with the world after all... that there might be women out there who have brains and a body and aren't afraid to use them in a non-manipulative, simply enjoyable way. I need to see that there are women not ruled by their demons, defenses, ghosts or traumatic echos. All that and can relax without fearing or pushing down the demon's cell door and wasting energy that could be put into enjoyment.

I'd like to think I've made some good progress on the above kind of stuff. I'm also in good shape, attractive, etc. Unique? Moi? Dunno where to start with that one. How many PhDs do you know who are really comfortable on a crotch rocket? Or could build an airplane? Or teach you Quantum Mechanics? Or Western History? Or Evolutionary Psychology? Or take on his daughter's black belt friends in a wrestling match at her wedding? Music?... what I like most is appreciating it - seeing into it, whether it's Mozart & Beethoven or Madonna or Ry Cooder.

Just a coffee or lunch will do for starters, but I want to see your "soul" - your spirit... are you full of energy but at peace with yourself, who you are, happy with where you're going? Can you give and receive without getting all tangled up? When we talk, are you intelligent? ... not just trying to prove something, but someone who really has fun with their brains. I do, and if that's scary because I might invent some different ways to enjoy sex or think about unusual relationships, it could be a problem. If your body language said you're uncomfortable with yourself, I'd hate to imagine dealing with that (because we do, and don't find it pretty... and most often, it's much more about self-image than whether I like how your jeans fit... so often it becomes a "thing" and skinny isn't skinny enough or toned isn't toned enough...for a woman whom I would consider attractive). And I believe in giving as good as I get - see who I am. I know it's not fair in a way, but it's real. Nice bodies are pretty essential to chemistry. It is fair in the sense that I wouldn't ask you to be any more attractive as a female than I am as a male.