Where to begin... I go to school full time and work full time so my time is precious... I have amazing friends who are my family who I enjoy doing just about anything with... I am looking for more than a casual hook up. Is it too hard in the gay community to find someone of substance who is looking for more than a quickie or a one nighter? I am looking for something that has the potential of being long term. I need someone driven and intelligence who is just as hard working as me. I need someone who is willing to go out and have a good time at the bar/club but the next night is fine with staying in and just watching a movie on the couch.

What to do one a first date?? Coffee or dinner is always ideal. Something casual with no expectations after. Some place where conversation is possible. How can you tell if your a match with someone if you aren't even able to talk? Also no hooking up on the first date. I do have some sense of moral values. A hug or kiss is all your going to get even if we do hit it off.