I want to begin by stating that I am a minister and humble in heart. Forgive me if I come across as conceited in my writing style; for I am not, I just have a very dry sense of humor that people sometimes miss. When I say certain things about myself on here, I am just being totally honest; I am not trying to indicate that I think I am better than anyone, for I certainly don't think that. I believe I possess a healthy sense of self esteem, as a precious child of the Most High God. But, I don't believe any one person is better than anyone else. For, I am also basing the things I say here, on what others have told me about myself. For I receive hundreds of positive replies a day on all of my websites...and from other sources as well. I feel this profile reflects that.

Being both feminine and a powerful force in others lives, I must say, I absolutely adore men. That is good, since it seems to be raining men in my life!!! It always has! And NO, I haven't had "a better life than most" because of my looks; I've probably had a harder, more difficult life than most, because I've had to overcome a lot of prejudice in my adult life, based primarily on my outward appearance. But, I feel life is all about attitude. My life has not been great because of my beauty or young looking genes, but its been great, in spite of having "the looks thing" to cope with..lol..I have also had to overcome losing my parents and family at a very young age of two. So, I grew up without unconditional positive regard and love.....and I endured alot of instability in my early years, which included abuse and disrespect, being in and out of orphanages etc. Additionally, I overcame the trauma of almost losing my children in two custody battles. Also, I overcame a number of serious health concerns all alone, with no family support....cancer was among those things I've beaten. The next time you get up in the morning and feel muscle aches, think of me....I have lived with MS on a daily basis for years....but I've learned that having a positive, upbeat attitude overcomes a lot. I tell you these things not to gain sympathy, or to depress you, but to let you know, that despite it all...

I love my life, and birthday wishes! I love the SOUND of rain, laughter, electric guitars and birds singing. I love the SMELL of barbecue smoking, crème brule candles, and hazelnut coffee. I love the SIGHT of clean dishes, colorful sunsets, pale pink roses, and my man naked. And yes, ministers are human and have the ability to express themselves physically in ways that other normal people do. I love the TASTE and TEXTURE of, dry red wine, fish of any kind, and dark dove chocolate. I love the FEEL of skin on skin and velvet kisses. I love the SECURITY in my mind and heart, knowing that there are those who really love and value me, like GOD. I feel safe with me; I don’t fear my own vulnerabilities. I feel that laughter combined with deep continual prayer are good for the soul. They've helped me successfully overcome unbelievable life challenges. I know I'm imperfect, yet I find that I’m very self-accepting. I love myself, so I can love others. I live in the moment, counting my blessings.

I am all about my emotions/feelings and expressing them when they arise. I feel there is a big difference between "drama", which all men fear in women, and in expressing oneself, one's feelings, even if that involves crying. I am not about drama, for I see it as insecurity and a form of manipulation. I am a very secure person, through my faith, and never do I seek to get what I want by manipulating others. I feel honesty and openness are the best ways to get one's needs met.

I am a professional songwriter (from a family of Grammy winning songwriters)/prof writer/singer/dancer(modern with a latin twist)/poet/philanthropist/entrepreneur/private investor(not an investigator)/public inspirational speaker....shall I go on???

I have raised three sons myself. They are grown at (35, 25, 22)... married and two have children of their own (5, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12). (They call me Glam-maw instead of Grand-maw). They also call me a Cougar. When I am out with them and their wives, I always get mistaken for their kid (someone in their twenties). At times I feel as if I am in a time warp of sorts. Yet they encourage and support my dating choices. We are close, but I do live a very independent life from them.

The type of men I am attracted to...the extremely gorgeous GQ Model type men which I currently date (I'm not superficial, I'm just looking for my IDEAL match among them, and I feel I have to admire the package a man comes in for the CHEMISTRY to be there for ME). I like a man who possesses confidence (not the kind of men that pop off with sarcastic remarks or show over-confidence), one who has a good, sincere, humble heart. A man who is kind, tender, loving and most importantly...does what he says he will do. Not to sound negative, but I can't stand the guy who says he will call, and doesn't.. for weeks. I see that as being undependable, untrustworthy, and somewhat selfish. Contrary to popular belief; this does NOT make me want the man more, it makes me want him less. I feel I want openness, directness, honesty and sincerity from a man. I want a man that eats well, exercises regularly, and takes care of himself, but LOVES taking care of me, when I want him to, as well. I am looking for the most important qualities a man can possess: a strong faith, a fear of God, eternal loyalty, fidelity, and the ability to not only love, but respect and appreciate this diva. Bottom line is that I feel I want exclusivity, commitment and marriage with Mr. Right, but until I find him, I will continue to share fun, intimate experiences with others. Although I am called a Cougar, I don't want to leave you with the impression that I am only on here to date, because I date some 23 to 38 year old men already, as well as some older gentlemen regularly. For I am only on this site in hopes of finding my Mister Right, upon the recommendation of my married friends who met on here. I am not on here to waste our time, by texting, calling or emailing men that I am just not into, for politeness sake. Sorry! Not to offend or hurt anyones' feelings. If I don't respond; please keep looking...

Something easy, light, carefree and simple feeling....I feel it would involve laughter, and talking... like walking around in a mall together....arm in arm (I am an affectionate person).... talking about people, life and ourselves...or eating a bit here and there.....afterall, its really NOT a job interview, its just a snapshot in time to make a connection.