What I Seek:

I believe in love and soulmates and I'm looking for something that could potentially lead to longterm. I think the best relationships start out as friends so I'd like to get to know a person first before things turn physical.

If you're looking for a fling or something light and casual, please click on through. I'm really only wishing to speak with those who are feeling their lives are missing something. I seek someone who is like myself - discontent, restless, wanting to fall in love and spend a lifetime making a great happiness together. I don't believe love is just an accessory to an already satisfactory life, I believe it is the best part of life. If you don't have love yet feel your life is completely full and meaningful then I don't think we would be a good fit. If you're too damaged to love, if you're too jaded, cynical, broken, I feel bad for you, I feel bad that someone somewhere along the way robbed you of your innocence. I believe it is a person's true nature to love and to be loved. It's the most human thing in the world. Don't allow the emotionally bankrupt to rob you of this precious experience. Reclaim it, even in the face of all objective evidence to the contrary, rediscover it, nurture it, cling to it, make it the centerpiece of your existence. The things that hurt you most are also those very same things which make you feel the best and are the most valuable. Remove your fears. Love is beautiful. It is not a four-letter word.


Who I Am:

i·so·la·to
[ahy-suh-ley-toh]
–noun, plural -toes.
a person who is spiritually isolated from or out of sympathy with his or her times or society.


»» minimalist self-determined poverty.
»» isolated/reclusive/antisocial.
»» dreamy escapist indulgence.
»» nothing half-way - all things extreme.
»» emotional | philosophical | introverted | artistic.
»» previous reader of big books, current rambler of writings.
»» abhors the mundane.
»» sensory pleasure glutton.
»» self-sacrificial nurturer.
»» unapologetic romantic.

I possess a vast reservoir of love to bestow upon the right person. I'm extremely warm and affectionate and enjoy doting and sweet gestures. Just as comfortable engaged in profound conversation as I am snuggled in bed all day, I feel things on a deep level and desire immense emotional resonance with another. You'll discover I'm unabashedly honest, I believe in full-disclosure and expect the same in kind. Provider of world-class massages, I am highly sensual, attuned with remarkable intuition and awareness towards my partner. I'll be your best friend, your lover, your partner for life.

This profile is but a caricature of my awesomeness. It's an exaggeration upon an archetype which I encompass, but should not be taken as the totality of all that is me. It's a narrow view, focusing on those aspects of myself which I feel it important to find akin in my other half. This is Hades; darkness, depression, depth. However, as Heraclitus writes 'Hades and Dionysus, for whom they go mad and rage, are one and the same.' Within me likewise is that Dionysian spirit; light-hearted, immature at times, comedic, impulsive, spontaneous, life-affirming. So while the tone may be somber and serious, be reminded that a humorous, warm, smiling person exists behind the text.

I won't continue this section as I find it distasteful speaking on my 'positive attributes'. I'm more modest than this profile would imply. Consider this an appetizer to (hopefully) whet your appetite to further engage me towards the facilitation of a broader knowledge.

Who You Are:

I seek a fellow bohemian. If you don't understand the meaning of this word you probably have wasted far too much time already reading my profile - move along. I will offer you the benefit of the doubt however with this definition:

bohemian:
A descriptive term for a stereotypical way of life for artists and intellectuals. According to the stereotype, bohemians live in material poverty because they prefer their art or their learning to lesser goods; they are also unconventional in habits and dress, and sometimes in morals.

While I prefer speaking with like-minded people, I am intrigued by all forms of life. It is about chemistry afterall. Perhaps my soulmate is one of those all too common 'dull, shallow, materialistic chickas.' Wouldn't that be a cruel trick of some devil god? That being said, I'm not your average guy, your pretty face will not be an acceptable substitute for an enchanting personality or stimulating mind. Aesthetic sensibilities are sexy but this does not imply a body covered in tattoos and piercings. Likewise, depth and passion are appreciated but this is not code for alcohol/drug abuse. I seek a loner who is curious about the world around her, who loves existence yet is plagued with darkness. She has always felt she was somehow different from others. She is well-read and has an eclectic understanding of a number of subjects with primary focus within the Arts. She is an independent thinker who has thrown off the shackles of the consumerist material society that the Others have attempted to thrust upon her all her life. Strong in her convictions she feels isolated from the vast majority of her peers. She values knowledge and beauty over wealth and circumstance. Being a true romantic who wants to fall in love, she feels things on a deep level. She wishes to experience a fascinating life of exploration with a special person whom she will recognize instantly through his similarity to herself.

Like a dating site Flaubert I seek that 'mot juste' of females. Special mention to those who are of a generous ilk, open-minded, compassionate, flexible, the ability to compromise and discuss, calm composure but not emotional detachment, clingy in a sweet way but not possessive or controlling, jealous but not paranoid, trusting and not suspicious, warm and cuddly, feminine yet strong, courageous yet not reckless... the synonyms could continue forever.

Walk away right now, ye consumers, ye dullards, ye common folk.
The homogenized, the mediocre, the uninspired - keep your crumbs.
For that soothing shade from loneliness yoke.
I'm waiting for the miracle, the miracle that comes.

I should stress here that this is by no means a checkmark list of 'requirements'. These are broad-strokes to allow the right person the opportunity to recognize themselves, however vaguely, within this montage. It is also hoped to dissuade the completely wrong people from contacting me and wasting eachothers time.

I don't date. I am very selective about whom I will actually meet. If we intrigue each other enough we will be enthused enough to continue a correspondence exclusively online and by phone. If time passes and the anticipation to meet reaches a crescendo then I would be encouraged to spend an afternoon with you.

Come chant with me: http://picosong.com/Th/
Sing badly with me: http://picosong.com/TD/

I think I have some remaining character count with which to waste even more of your time.

Typical female profile:

hi guys dating sites are ridiculous im just here cuz my friends put me here, its not like i would actually online date lol. BRB need to check my cellphone. im a very unique girl, my interests include cooking travel and photography, sometimes i think i might be too unique to be interested in such esoteric subjects! i am very artistic i have 10 tattoos and 12 piercings, i like to work hard and play harder, seriouslies. i'm looking for a man who is kind-hearted, virtuous, sweet and most importantly.. ambitious!! afterall, you didnt actually think i wouldnt parlay this cosmetically enhanced face into a free ride now did you?? BRB need to check my cellphone. im just like one of the guys, i guzzle beer and watch football, afterall why would a guy want to hang out with a girl when he can hang out with someone who behaves just like his smelly hairy guy friends! im just on here to make new friends and i think the BEST way to make new friends is by posting pics of myself doing sexy poses in my bra and panties! sometimes im so scatterbrained i forget where i am, is this facebook, plentyoffish?? this is why i have photos of my mom, my dad, my dog, my favourite coffeeshop and all 10 of my exbfs on my dating website profile. i have a confession to make, i know i put down 'dating' but im actually looking for longterm, now im going to change that to 'hangout', all the cool kids are doing that and i dont want to appear desperate lol, that's just how independent _i_ am, take that you wimpy long-term wanters! you didnt actually think i'd take the time to develop a personality or curiosity about the world around me when i derive my entire sense of self-worth through the constant male-attention i receive on the sole account of being a non-fat female. Did you???


*** Yes I do know male profiles are even worse, I just have less experience in viewing them.


DO NOT MESSAGE ME ON THIS PROFILE I WILL NOT RECEIVE THE MESSAGE. I HAVE CHANGED MY PASSWORD WITH EYES CLOSED SO THAT I CAN NEVER LOG INTO THIS ACCOUNT AGAIN, IF YOU WISH TO SPEAK WITH ME YOU CAN EMAIL ME -- existence@live.com