***** UPDATE/UPDATE*** OH YEAH !!! **** 11/01/2009
Informed by my daughter who is 25 that I will be a Grandpa late Jan 2010

***UPDATE** 10/1/2009
If you do illegal drugs or misuse prescription drugs stop reading and find someone other than me !!!! Thank You

well here is a not so short list of what is missing...
* my heart racing when I see you......
* love and passion.........
* you singing along with the radio in the truck.....
* holding your hand during Sunday Morning Services.....
* the scent of your hair as we slow dance
* the look on your face when the flowers are delivered
* the sound of your laugh
* being there for you on a bad day
* moonlight sparkling in your eyes on a clear Spring night
* drinking wine from Dixie cups while watching the sunset over Lake Michigan
* Sunlight dancing off you face
* unplanned road trips to where ever
* trying not to laugh when your laughing
* the weekend looking for Covered Bridges in Michigan
* Discovering a new place to eat together
* your touch as you brush by me
* candle light diner and roses for you birthday
* enjoying a cup of coffee or hot tea while watching the thunder storms together
* the back yard bonfire with friends
* flying a kite with you
* snuggling like a couple in ......
* kissing like teenagers .......
* being told to "..shut up and kiss me.."
* your clothes in a pile next to the bed in the morning .......
* last but not the least missing , is the reason to delete my profile from this site forever and being able to say those three little words again........ Are you this reason ?
Don't be afraid to contact me, I do respond to emails but not always right away.

****UPDATE****

After a few small changes to my monthly expenses I realized I do not have to keep pushing myself to work nearly as many hours as I in the past, now if I it is going to be because I want to work, and it will not a position that demands 50 to 80 hours a week from me, I know that my past work addiction is a factor that crippled, damaged and even prevented me from having a healthy and joyful relationship.

Non-abusive by nature, with what some would say is "to giving of a heart" , compassionate and very passionate, protective of those I care about and those in need by no fault of their own. Not the type of man that hits the bar and comes home and hits the wife, smacks the kids and kicks the dog. Basic karma what you do to others comes back to you. {Basic disclaimers and full disclosure may or may not apply and writer of this material can not be held legally or illegally responsible for any miscommunication either implied or not )
And another news flash, if your a porn bot or have think I am just an easy target for a porn site lead, don't waste my time or yours. I don't read or go to sites of that nature, I am not a bible thumper but I believe in God, Heaven and Hell, and I do attend mass. I try my best not to cuse and swear but I do slip up every once in awhile.

Now to add a little humor to all this ! !! !
at last a guy has taken the time to write this all down
We always hear "the rules" from the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side.
these are our rules!
Please note. . these are all numbered "1"
on purpose!
1. Men are not mind readers, most the time is has to be spelled out for us.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
you're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
we need it up, you need it down.
you don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Stop taking the vehicle with the full tank of gas and leaving us with the one that is on empty, you drive by at least one gas station every time you go out.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon,
or the changing of the tides.
let it be.
1. Shopping is not a sport.
and no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Ask for what you want.
let us be clear on this one:
subtle hints do not work!
strong hints do not work!
obvious hints do not work!
just say it!
1. Yes and no are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do.
sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 39 months is a problem. ... see a doctor. NOW!!!!
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
. .. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria 's secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
1. Rosey O'Donnel is a fool and an Idiot and John Wayne is next to God!!!
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done.
not both. if you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself and prevent frustration for everyone.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did not need directions and neither do we.
1. All men see in only 16 colors, like windows default settings.
peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched.
we do that and do it often....
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing is wrong.
we know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. .. Really.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as sports, cars, hunting
1. You have enough clothes.
1. The radio station in the car is controlled by the driver, not the passenger
1. You have too many shoes.
1. Text messaging does work , it is always quicker than voice mail.
1. I am in shape--round is a shape! never did say it was a perfect shape but it is still a shape.
1. Those clothes you have on do look good but they would look better in a pile next to the bed ;)

First date ? prefer to figure that out as we get to know each other ....something on the fly.....unplanned, unstressed and unpretentious.... a walk, some small talk and a chance to get to know one another..... go ahead listen to the song on my profile..... you just might like it !