well i had found someone that i guess worked for a little bit, but alas. it wasnt a match.if you dont take a chance tho you cant .. well you know.oh , and save the headgames for the kids please, acting like an adult is mandatory.im only looking for one special gal that will be able to put up with me ,im not into quantity , just quality
*if i send you a flattering message, it isnt to butter you up , its because its true. so dont take it to mean anything more than a compliment****

-my words of wit will be replaced by something i have just learned
my father passed away on august the 9th 2009, we werent very close , due to past issues,however, even tho while he was alive, i didnt feel he filled much of a hole in my life, due to his participation, since he is now gone, i feel a great loss.its quite sad actually , that it isnt until someone has left us forever, that we begin to notice how great an impact they actually did have on our lives. how much they really did mean, even though our personalities, werent properly meshed . and perhaps our personal values may have differed. i realized then, that even tho we may not be perfect for one another or we may not see exactly eye to eye. if we struggle , and fight and work our azzes off to make it right, in the end we may very well see the value in a relationship/friendship.
it took alot of work for me to begin to understand my dad, to try to look past my own ignorance and prejudices. however in the end as he lay there, and i held his hand and said a prayer to the one he had ultimate faith in, as i forgave him for all the things i felt he had done to injure me in my life. i felt happy and i felt horrible at the same time that i didnt do it sooner.
this is true i think in all types of relationships.
i started out not liking my dad, then i grew to like him and his company. in the end i realized that i really did love him and i do miss his presence and his company
well i planned to write more. but , space and time are limited , and my story will be completed one day.

Fallin in love- a manipulation of reality. personally i prefer to fall into like, and grow to love someone, its less manipulative and in the end , it doesnt ever fade.

if you arent capable of conversation, then just keep on moving , frankly im not able to relate or up to wasting time trying to communicate for 2 people. if you say you appreciate honesty, then try to practice what you preach please

ok well ill start a list here of those that need not apply .
-dingbats ie people that even though they have achieved a certain age , still havent got a clue as to what is going on or what they want in life
-hard drug users, addicts of alcohol or heavy smokers im not sure if theres a difference tho , whats an occasional smoker after all?lol
-people with diseases, ie stds, terminal patients,mental problems, etc
-people just in it for themselves
-party people,ie the all nite bar closers,
-bullies and violent people.
-A girl asked a boy: "Do you like me?"
He said: "No!"
She asked: "Do you think I am pretty?"
He said: "No!"
She asked: "Am I in your heart?"
He said: "No!"
The last thing she asked was: "If I'd leave, would you cry?"
He said: "No!"
He held her hand and said:
"I don't like you, I love you.
i don't think you're pretty, I think you're beautiful.
You're not in my heart, you are my heart.
If you'd leave I woulnd't cry.
I would die
I dont play that hard as im gettin to old lol but i do like to b active and well i wont risk life or limb for fun .no i dont wanna skydive or bunjee jump but i will watch others do it from a safe vantage point on the ground out of the line of fire.i dont expect u to b perfect as well even though i know im close im not exactly perfect either.
i like the forums. in the interest of honesty im 215lbs so im like 20-25 lbs over what my ideal weight would b
i like kids and im a pretty straight arrow type of guy, im not into bisexuals or threesomes or wierd stuff like that. i have never cheated and im happy with the one im settled with .i try to b as honest as possible .
so if u got pictures of u suckin face with another gurl prolly best dont message me either as thats just unnecessary if u are looking for anything serious, then theres no real reason to post stuff like that unless thats your lifestyle, in which case ya wouldnt b messaging me anyways
the kind of woman i want? well i thought i knew what kind of woman i wanted and i must say ive met some that truly have fit the bill,and some that havent as well. honesty communication, sense of adventure,romantic, seductive, hard working, energetic,must want children in the future and want long term or marriage minded as im not here to just get a quick roll in the hay.must be compassionate, love animals and children, and above all else must be able to look me in the eye as they talk to me and be open to talking about themselves freely . as i try to be as open as possible i expect it in return, i wont judge someone on their past or the steps in life theyve taken to get to this place in their lives.
im not looking for someoen who is perfectly fit and a barbie doll, lord knows im not the fittest person around,i amnot however into women who are obese, nothing personal,just it doesnt do it for me .i dont judge people on their appearance, and i have no problem at all forming friendships with people im not sexually attracted to , (just so you know thats not what im all about.)

oh and im not into piercings or tattoos so chances are i wont b opting to go get any anytime soon , i dont mind if you have em however thats your choice lol
guess i want a rational smart non ditz (with a wee amount of bitter baggage lol) i dont wanna b compared or analyzed although if it makes for interesting conversation between the 2 of us then im ok with that

well the first date comes after the original meeting i assume the first meeting is usually coffee shop or a mutual interest .as far as the date well how boout a picnic or a nice meal out n then have a big old bonfire n lay on the grass n yack all nite

to b honest nothing amazing pops into mind for someone i havent met
i think the first date should b unique to the person ur goin out on the date with , not just me writing some bullsh*tdown to hope to impress someone . all this wine n dinner n crap sheesh im as romantic as the next guy but dont we all think wine n candles are a lil overplayed
and really how many times a week are ya gonna have wine n candlelight dinners after the first date is over n done with
personally id prefer u dazzled me with your brilliance than your bullshit, how bout first date the man cooks the meal and prepares it , then then woman plans the activity
2nd date the woman cooks and the man plans the activity
3rd date well sex in a public restraunt sounds good to me lol