"You can tell me your troubles, I will hold you when you are crying. I can listen and be there for you when you need a strong shoulder to lean on . Or I will make myself look like a clown if it will chase away the black clouds and a frown. :)

I am who I am, formed by my beliefs and experiences. A Helper, a Shopkeeper, a disabled Veteran, and a gaming enthusiast who can fix train engines and kids dreams. A writer,a former Emergency Medical Technician and Paramedic who often chooses to help others however they my need it,rather then taking the easy road to fix himself.Finally,more often then not,the big brother/close friend rather then a boy friend. Thank you for doing me the honor of visiting, and PLEASE read all of my profile. I was always taught that it was polite to thank anyone who gave you of their time and self, so here are my total thanks-though most of us will never meet,tho ever it be my misfortune.For I have sinned and written mail in the Intimate Encounter area to a friend who used to hide down there-Sniff snifff-waill-the shame of it ZORK.That means that the computer will never let me talk to you,unless YOU talk to me FIRST.
I am on this site looking for close friends that I can talk to and socialize with, and at least one very close personal, physical friend that I can share much more with. I have been separated from my wife for over 8 yrs, due to her smoking, and my bi-pap machine interfering with her sleep. Divorce is currently not an option due to finances,and religion, and insurance.As I practice a blending of several religions, that can be a bone of contention. I do not care how you worship,or who-as long as you respect others and treat them as you would have them treat you.
I am unfortunately for me, honest. I believe that everyone deserves respect, and the same and far better treatment than I would expect. I believe that happiness and gentleness is almost always better then roughness and pain(there are some that that is the only avenue), tenderness and listening is often better then 10 lbs of meds, and freedom from abuse is something that everyone has a right to,and that someone needs to stick up for those that need it.

I've learned to be discreet, (or tremendously loud as needed) to sooth, or protect the person who shares their secrets or fears, and only as they dictate. Or it can arrive somewhere like a warm rain from unknown lands,giving nutrients,sharing information,healing wounds laid bare by harsh unthinking words, presenting views from direction not thought of, or to explain things not understood. It simply means truly listening, and trying to make life better for others--real actions as opposed to lip service.

I have been called a sage, a teddy bear, an uncle, a brother, in a normal mode, by women who have referred me to others that needed help. I can be loyal to the death without the slobber (purrs and tongue licks available upon request-think carefully
-barking a very expensive option-except under full moon. If I Twas, I would be a cat.)

I am used as a sounding board, an ear to the tears in the middle of the night, or a shield to ward off drunken blows. But somehow my need to love, to be a holder, a lover, a special friend to draw that special strength that you get from that ultra-closeness with someone special, has become a magnet for untapped wishes.
You are; someone or those who could accept me as is, and form the special physical bond I miss. And need.And do not have to worry about crossing the line between helping-and making them feel like someone has helped-to hurt them once again.

My sense of humor is dry and strange enough that I stash it with my Hitchhiker's Guide To the Galaxy and "Thanks for all the Fish," with My D&D books, and Monty Python and the Holy Grail, My Sci-Fi, my Dresden Files, and the Wargaming miniatures in the back of my hearse to the left of the coffin (LOL, No coffin-yet-though I do own a hearse.) I have written a hobby column in a well read fantasy magazine, worked for and owned part of a gaming company. I run a safe shelter hobby shop where adults and kids could find fun,safety, companionship and a friendly ear for 30 years.

I have lost 100 lbs since I came off medication for my lungs, so formal clothes are out. I am comfortable in sweats and shirts with shrinkable waistlines, (besides my large colorful formal clothes made great tents!!)

I do not drink, though those that drink socially do not worry me. I started to say no heavy drinkers, but if you TRULY WANT TO CHANGE, I will see what I an do to help.

I love the outdoors, concerts, parks, open air events--but they hate me--and attack me with heavy perfume, cigarette smoke, and cleaning odors. So I fort down and work with my painting, repairing railroad engines, or bookwork, currently at all hours of the day and night. This makes my gaming crew at the shop overjoyed as this means they can game, or talk to me about problems at any time. It also makes me an easy one to find. Almost the only 24-hour family hobby store in Lake County, convenietly located next to a Metra.

Geez, I do have a real Van though, and I am neat and clean--except when storage needs to be done, or the store needs cleaning. Funny how a business domesticates.

Well, here is hoping you found something of interest, and can assist me in my search, or I in yours. If so, please feel free to contact me with any questions you may have (bunches,) or comments (what the heck?) Or if you want to get together let me know. Or for friendship, let me know--no one can have too many friends.

May your day be blessed by whoever watches over you,,And may the most important and needed of your Wishes come true, and the most Beautiful and beloved of your Dreams become Reality.

I have no preset first date. I learned long ago that any date requires two-person planning, so that both people enjoy themselves.

My main hope and goal is that both people will go home happy, and wish to date again soon. And with a little luck, happy again and again.