I'm looking for a very stable, mature, old-fashioned-mannered man between the age of 45-60 who will treat me tenderly and with affection. A former military man who is not controlling or domineering and is authoritarian without flinching at my feminism. He should love children and want them in his life always.

I'm almost 41 years old, tall and attractive, I'm kinda thick bordering on fat but I have a decent shape and you'll be proud to have me on your arm. I dress well and prefer skirts and heels. I'm something of a brainiac and enjoy stimulating conversation. But I don't like 'debates' for debate-sake. I'm a big smiler who loves to laugh and I'm really talkative. I'm hard on the outside but a loving, sensitive person as soon as I'm interested in you. I love arthouse movies and am a little bit of a tv-head! I'm looking for someone to be affectionate with, have fun and maybe more. So, if you are something of an intellectual-but still cool and interesting, if you're well-read but not an elitist, if you're mature and old-fashioned, dependable and solid, please contact me. If your politics lean toward liberalism and you think like a citizen of the world..email me. If you love your family but don't spend every waking moment with them, if you like sex but aren't a deviant, let's meet. Please don't ask for sex in the Instant Message.

Let's meet at the park, try some cool ethnic restaurants or funky bookstores - I love trying new things (within reason). There's fun stuff to do in the spring/summer so let's find it! Let's take a long drive with a good book-on-cd and spend movie nights at home (but not EVERY night and NOT on the first date).

Please have time to spend together.