Hello, =)


I want some new people to hang out with & expand my social circle. Open to meeting people for any type of relationship so long as it's a good mutual fit.

Note: One exception to the above^ If your intentions are to hide behind your computer and Never meet then move along please.



About me:

Working my @$$ off trying to learn about the family business within the next year so that my parents will be able to retire & I can take over. I also do sculptures, paintings & building for fun and extra profit (mostly fun). I make enough time for fun & friends; it's important that the spare time I have counts. My friends keep me sane. I wish I could say that I return the favor. :)

- General attraction is more important than just looks. Looks are important, but if that's all you're bringing to the table, you'll be eating alone. You don't have to be beautiful to anyone else to be beautiful to me.

- The first step to getting who/what you want in life is to be the sort of person that attracts them. If you think you're owed something, you should be able to produce a receipt.

- I like being the first to offer respect & kindness to people. How people react to being treated properly tells me a lot more about them than how they react when offended. How they react also determines whether or not the kindness & respect will continue. If one continues to be nice to people that don't earn it, how are those that do supposed to feel special to you? Things that come from people who feel they have no other options just don't have the same value...

- I love dancing :)

- I don't really have a "type". The case-by-case approach is best. Whether I like or dislike someone, it's personal & they earned it. What others think of someone is taken under advisement, nothing more & nothing less.

- Honesty is obviously important - I don't mean never ever lie for any reason, that's just foolish. I mean be genuine. If you don't like something, speak up & it will be dealt with. I'd rather deal with one thing now than a dozen little things all at once later. If you like something, it's good to know so that you get more of it. I want to really know the person I'm with, good & bad, and them to really know me the same way. Falling for someone that doesn't really exist is pointless.

- I have never actually been asked the "Do I look fat in___" question. I'm sure my time will come... A Lot of the messages I get include this question. While it's a cute icebreaker, it doesn't quite count :) When I'm with someone, my answer will always be "You look beautiful" & I'll always mean it.

- I'm social & go out a lot to be with friends & meet new people. I worked in nightclubs for a while so the whole bar scene is long out of my system. I'd stay home more if I had the right person to stay home with.

- I do a mean Gollum impression. Both voices. Singing. What you're imagining is very likely what it sounded like. Long story. Well, actually it's a very short story but... yeah, next topic....

- I rarely ever raise my voice. I can get every thought & feeling I have across just fine without relying on volume. Not a big fan of yelling as it shows a level of aggression that has little if any place in any relationship. I'm almost always calm & polite when dealing with even the worst sort of people. It has nothing to do with avoiding conflict; it has to do with dealing with it directly & effectively.

- I went to university for Theatrical Special effects. I specialized in Prosthetic Makeup & Design. Proud of the Zombie costume, it won me a Coors couch. :)

- I am drug, disease, dependent & debt free

- Being wanted is way better than being needed. Wanting is a choice, needing implies desperation. A little need is like a little jealousy. It's ok in very small amounts, like salt. Anything more will just raise your blood pressure & lead to heartache. I'm not saying that I won't decide to make the main person in my life my world, but too much jealousy is a great way to get me to look for that connection elsewhere.

- Partial to dorky humor but any will do.

- Trust is something that should be earned every day & tested as rarely as possible. Think of it like money. Spend it on stupid things & you max out your creditworthiness mighty fast.

- I give as good as I get in the dedication department. If I feel I'm one of many options to you, expecting to be my priority will be disappointing.

To clarify: I'm not talking about family or friends here. Obviously family comes first & the type of person that will forget one's friends will eventually forget anyone. I'm referring to those people that seem to need a large quantity of the opposite sex constantly paying them inappropriate amounts of attention. If my company isn't enough to satisfy your needs then I won't take it personally when you leave to pursue other opportunities; in fact I will insist. I offer quality time & attention & I want the same in return.

- Adding to that, if you're married, in a relationship, confused about the status of your relationship or are unsure if you're in one then I don't see anything happening between us romantically. I could be absolutely head over heels for someone but being the other guy just won't do... Nothing at all wrong with making a graceful exit to pursue something better, but running around on people is cowardly. If the person you're with isn't getting respect then I won't be counting on getting it either. One can have every lovable quality in the world but if respect isn't there, everything else in the world might as well be nothing at all.

- I live on a 99-acre farm. It beats living in the Toronto.... lots. The only gunshots I hear are hunters :0 My nearest next-door neighbors are cows & a strange swarm of birds that live in the trees beside the house. Just finished building a 72' x 48' barn. Luckily only 1 accident with the nail gun... Canes are stylish, but not when you actually need one. (Only needed it for a couple of days. Totally fine now & thanks to those that showed concern) ;)

- I give respect & kindness freely, friendship pretty easily, close friendship ... not so much. For someone to be "the one" I'm going to have to be sure but I'm willing to take the time to find out.

There you go, no laundry list of likes & dislikes. I am unwilling to settle, but not unreasonable.



Looking forward to hearing from anyone who thinks they'd be a good match.



PostScript:

I think adding someone to your favorites list is just a nice way to say hi without obligating the person to reply to a message. To me it says "Hi. I saw your profile and liked what I saw..."
Sometimes I'm just too busy to write so I'll add to my favorites so I don't forget to write when I have time.

First Date
If I make the time for someone I make sure that I can spare my undivided time & attention. Creativity is great but it's even better once I know enough about you to know what we would enjoy together. One of the best dates I was on was the Moose Hunt. We roller bladed all over the place & took pictures of each other riding all of the Moose statues we could find. Took all day & we found 26 :)

I can teach anyone to sculpt. Maybe a couple of blocks of clay in a coffeshop?

For a first date with someone I haven't met before it would be a good idea to keep it simple & short, like meeting somewhere for coffee or a walk to see if we click. If we don't, there's not a lot of awkward time wasted. If we do I'll have a couple of other ideas planned to keep us entertained while we get to know each other a little better.


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