I like a leader. I am a leader in some ways and a follower in others. I am looking for someone who can be both. I am also looking for someone who can have a good time. I am 32 and work in research. I have worked very hard to get where I am and I am not done with education yet. I hope to continue to move forward and learn more and maybe even get a PHD. That would be so awesome. I enjoy all the normal things I am not much into sports I love cooking and I love chatting. I tend to think of things in shades of grey as opposed to black and white although i act as though they are black and white. I have received some messages from people on here. Thank you to those that understand that a conversation is a team event. For those that do not understand this (your loss). I seek intelligent people who can be honest with themselves and with others. If your not interested say your not interested. If your interest changes do not play games be honest and just say it. *the last statement is directed at a select few you know who you are*

I first date for me normally means someplace we can talk and chat. Get to know each other. Hopefully as people. I like restaurants and parks. Evening works better just because it is nicer out in my opinion although the bugs can get in the way. Music and dancing is okay but I find that as a first date it is so hard to talk.