Ahh yes, I looove to have fun in a relationship, but a heart is vunerable when you give it and your trust to someone, so I seek those who have strength and courage.

It's a wonderful thing, and without it one cannot have integrity, or claim to be an effective communicator. Being an effective communicator means a lot more than telling your partner how much you love them, It's easy to say what's on your mind when things are going well. What if they're not?? Do you clam up? do you see dealing with a problem as a "confrontation"? Do you spend hours talking to your girlfriends about your issues, yet do no more than drop hints at your guy?????

Integrity is something people often claim to have, but integrity means being true to yourself, true to others, and true to the truth. If you perceive something as wrong in your partners behaviour, do you talk about it, or do you see that as "confrontational", and choose to be quietly angry instead because it's easier.

I only talk about this because I can't tell the difference between someone who is sweet, and someone who is weak, a trait which often rears it's ugly head only when things start to go wrong. In my dating life I have been seriously heartbroken by three particular women due to this passive agressive behaviour, other negative traits I can spot, but this I can't, and I don't wish to be with someone like that again.

Here's my last crazy experience,,,
I met someone online a year ago, I spent a lot of time getting to know her, and eventually had her over for a candlelit dinner. We had a wonderful time together,we had wine, talked, a bit more wine,a little Sarah Brightman, eventually the night was getting on, and as she left I sensed all was not well. It was late, maybe I was wrong, I didn't want to push her, maybe it was nothing.

Turns out she left my home mad because at some point I didn't offer more wine, and she had decided in her head that I had cut her off, then on top of that she stewed some more because I didn't "offer her a blanket". Was I supposed to read her mind??

The final kicker was she got lost on her way home, somehow my fault again for not knowing she was lost and not phoning to check on her(yes, she could have called me).

Ok I was up for twentyfour hours,I fell asleep, I worked a ten hour shift, grocery shopped, came home, lit candles, made a fire, cooked a huge roast dinner, set the table so she had the view of the fireplace, and generally created a very romantic setting, being a complete gentleman the whole night.

In the end I was a jerk for not being more "attentive" and defending myself just got me in more hot water.

The lesson in this story???? Don't get mad, passive agressives quickly turn the tables and label you as having anger issues, the next time someone slams me for not reading their mind, I will politely tell them to talk to me when they learn that guys aren't born with telepathic abilities, and when they have found their backbone I might still be available.

I know there are many out there that really do have integrity, and can be sweet without being weak, and can ask for a refill or blanket if I am forgetful at three a.m. , I'm looking for the one that has the courage to treat a relationship with integrity and knows the true definition of effective communication.

And now,,, a dirty joke, ahem,,,
Don't ya hate it when you're minding your own business going to the bathroom,, and everyone in the elevator gives you dirty looks??? geez I hate when that happens!!

Not much point writing a too much here, the more you write the more is scrutinized, let's just say that if you're still here after viewing my pics (Plenty Of Fish profiles reveal that looks are just as important to women, some even more so than men), where was I? Oh yeah, let's just say, I have all those standard attributes everyone wants, honesty, loyalty, sense of humour,yadda yadda,, I'm totally a one woman guy looking to give you butterflies and sweep you off your feet, so wherever you are, come find me and I'll give you a reason to say goodbye to POF!!!

I am a romantic, i can find romance in anything from a walk thru lynn canyon, to a trip up the grouse nest for appies, or an invite for me to cook you a candle lit dinner,,,but if your the type that would rather meet for a coffee to see if there's a match,,,i'm ok with that too