OK I'm going for the longest post ever! Not really, but I'm gonna put several separate posts of mine here so that I can stamp out all the ambiguity.

I am looking for a needle in the proverbial hay stack. Maybe not just because she needs to meet my expectations but that she would need to be special enough to except the gaps between her expectations and the reality that is me. I'm not seeking perfection, just that connection that we all seek, that balance between what the primal force in us that defines what we find appealing and the need to connect with the intellect of another person. We've all been there, he or she is so attractive but has the personality of a pit viper or the mental acumen of an inbred republican president of the genus Bushes. I do go on. Or they are really nice people, possibly even interesting but some physical trait or traits that offends our subconscious so deep that we cant bare to spend time with them because we know that there is no physical attraction what so ever and prolonging the acquaintance with out completely dispelling the possibility of a romantic outcome right away will hurt their feelings in the long run. Why is it so difficult???? Well, better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong reasons, said the stoic, lonely, semi neurotic, self righteous, empathetic, good natured, well meaning single guy.

I have had several relationships in my life, not too many and some were special. I don't regret that they didn't work out for the reasons that they didn't . I do regret not finding that one woman that it will work out with YET. I would have to admit that early on I was not of the mindset that long term was a true consideration and I sought relationships where that was the unspoken but mutual agreement, it was only later that I turned my attention to trying to find the LTR and all that comes with it. And of course those were the ones that when they didn't work hurt.
I continue to meet amazing women that for one reason or another things don't seem to fit quite right for the LTR and I know that we've wanted things to work so badly because when you meet a quality person that has so much to offer and yet, ultimately it's just not meant to be, it hurts. I will admit it that it hurts me and I'm no pansy, I'm a steady guy with a no bs attitude about people with a little too much empathy for my own good. I will continue to subject my self to the discomfort of loss as many times as it takes for us to meet. I promise not too take your feelings for granted and to put patience and for thought before lust, however if we eventually agree to agree; lust will not be a problem. Help me, help you, help us stop the hurting and start the loving. Ok so I goy a little cheesy there, shoot me:) What can I say that might catch the eye of a woman that I would be attracted to mentally and physically? I only have the truth. It's done me justice on occasion but more often I would say that pure unadulterated truth can intimidate people. I love my mom and can't imagine the world with out her. I love my sister and I try to get along with my father as difficult as that can be but I think that we have come to agree to disagree, I love my niece and nephew and extended family for the most part. I am loyal to my friends, few that they are, as I have traveled quite a bit and doing so has a tendency to cut down root setting of that nature, however I regard those who I call friend as family. I want the the excitement, passion. I would find you intellectually attractive if you are smart,funny,witty,earthy, socially conscious,nice,sweet,sarcastic,shy(not too shy) or not shy at all, like to dance, enjoy the out doors, people watching. If you are smarter than I am, or you are as smart as I am, or nearly as smart as I am, how smart am I? I didn't vote or George Bush in either election. I would find you physically attractive if you were shorter than I am (6') and were on the lean side and are my age or younger. Also please be a non smoker.

Did you think that you could never meet an awesome person on craigslist? Hmm, I would say that you are just as likely to meet them here as at the super market, night club, gym, or the foot doctor, oh god please don't let me meet you at the foot doctor:). I am rather certain that posting again and again and yet again will eventually lead me to you. You most likely will be searching through the ads as a distraction reading through the many ridiculous ads for entertainments sake or with a morbid curiosity and then you will happen upon my listing and say, "Hmmm, maybe". And this time it will work, we will both feel the magic and it well sustain past the initial attraction, not only will we share an appreciation for the absurd but well most likely pray for a alien brain disease monster to descend from space and invade the cerebral cortex of certain political figures/criminals that are currently our shame and give them looong lasting inhumane karmic justice. We will share a love of animals, the environment snuggling and passion.

I like hiking a lot, I enjoy comedies, Sci-fi, drama, action, even the occasional chick flick, I'm a confident hetro, I have no problem admitting that I have a sensitive side. What do I want more than anything else? A partner, a woman to share my life with, the good the bad and the ugly.

I work out regularly and I'm a pretty good cook but I hate cooking for my self all the time and I really hate doing the dishes. I am very handy with tools and I'm an excellent problem solver. I go for long walks in the city but prefer the mountains when its warm. I love my family. I am a creative and produce flash animations for the purpose of political satire and social commentary. I am also a web designer by hobby and I study programming, currently I manage an apartment complex in Queen Anne wile I continue with my studies.

I am sooo tired of meeting women and falling in like with them and vice versa and ultimately not having things work out, it's not a fault thing it’s a right thing, in that its better to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong reasons. Not really much of a conciliation but it will have to do.

I am a great person, friends, family and even former partners give that accolade, hell, I'll even give it to my self. I feel that since I acknowledge that I posses short comings and try as hard as I can to over come them gives me ground to pat my self on the back a bit.

My greatest natural attribute is my wit, my worst attribute is my occasional self doubt and that spell checker is my super nanny.

I am extremely empathetic, compassionate, semi neurotic, misanthropic, sarcastic, loving, even tempered, dry, passionate, creative, well meaning.

I long for the memories we haven’t shared yet. - 39 (Queen Annw)

Most people would probably say that Craigslist isn’t the place that you would expect to meet a significant other. I have been extremely lucky with Craigslist in many regards so why not this one.

I will attempt to define my self without sounding egotistical or self deprecating, ahh the fine line.


Some of the best memories I have.

1.Time spent with my mom and the way that she was
always there for me.

2. Time spent with friends laughing, exploring,
debating, partying.

3. Sharing a flat in England with three other neon
glass benders while in neon school.

4. Good times with a great woman that unfortunately
ultimately we were not meant to be.

5. Time spent with my niece, she’s the sweetest
funniest ever and she’s a huge pain in my brothers
ass, ha ha her attributes are never ending.

6. My days doing murder mystery dinner theatre.

Some of my worst memories.

1. The day my grandmother died.

2. Not getting along with my father.

3. Putting my dog Charlie to sleep.

4. Ending a relationship with a great woman for the right reasons.

5. Having one of my best friends sent to prison for activities that I wouldn’t have ever imagined him being involved in.

6. George Bush in office twice.


My best personal qualities.

1. I am funny, dam funny if I don’t say so my self.

2. I am extremely creative.

3. I am intensely loyal to my friends and family.

4. I was never one for lying much and by my best
count haven’t lied in about 17 years.

5. I am persistent.

7. I am open minded and empathetic.

My worst qualities.

1. I am a little self defeatist.

2. I can be hard on my self.

3. I am rigid in my likes and dislikes.

Random facts.

Three great movies: Ground Hog Day, Pulp Fiction, Unstrung Heroes.

Some great artists/bands.
Portise Head.
Jimmy Hendrix
The Beatles
Annie Lenox
Lenny Kravitz
Eminem
Just to name a few.

I like sci-fi.
Horror without gore or at least gore light.
Comedies
Action

Great pass times.
Hiking
People watching
Spending time with friends and family.


Obviously we all have our physical preferences.

Mine lean towards slim-ish = to + 15lbs.

Everything else being equal if any of what I have said resonates with you, and you are 39 years old or younger, I would love to investigate the possibilities over a drink, bowling, hiking, people watching, art show etc.

I currently manage an apartment building in addition to flash/php/mysql/css and html programming and flash animation and web design.

I'm in Seattle at the moment but I'm dying to return ro Santa Rosa

Female
Age between 28 and 38
Must not smoke