Okay, I have added to an already lengthy profile, so here it goes...

I enjoy living life with a positive approach. I am by no means a model or Joe Stud, however, I am not appalling either. I am kind, considerate and passionate in all I do. I believe in being who you are and being honest with yourself and the right situations will come your way. I am open-minded in pretty much all areas of a relationship, except dishonesty. I enjoy someone who is comfortable with themself and willing to explore life together. I am looking for someone that is articulate and has principals. I am a person that believes a relationship should not be forced. If our enjoyment of each other during our times together develops into a relationship, that would be terrific :)

I am an average looking guy with an above average heart and mind.

I am focused and confident yet understand my place in the grand scheme of things. Being honest, while I am not opposed to women with a FEW pounds, I definately have a preference for slender or thin to medium women. I know that everyone has value but this is my preference. Oh!, and a few pounds does not mean 40 or more ;)I know many of you have your preferences as well, some of yours, men can not change ;), although millions is spent on pills, creams and pumps to do so lol.

I,certainly, am aware that there is more to a person than weight or looks but mutual attraction and desire are a part of what I am seeking as well.

I would be considered more spiritual than religious, however, I do attend church, on occassion. I do beleive that many have been hurt and helped by institutional religion and approach a faith as an individual pursuit.

I value those I am involved with and require the same. I am a guy that will show my interest in you, yet, if you are interested in something, as well, then just say so.

I do not push the situation. I am sooooo not into the games that many times seems to be present with dating. I believe I, clearly, show my partner my feelings and I am very capable expressing emotional matters...therefore, no need for someone to be asked over and over to see what I think or to wonder about my motives etc. I feel that; if I can not freely express myself and my partner cannot be honest and do the same...then what do we really have? Shouldn't a relationship be special and honest? doesn't that seperate it, as unique? I'm not looking for just a "notch in my belt" physically or even for bragging rights about how many dates I go on. I am a very passionate and sensual man and love the same in my partner I like a balance of nice and naughty, equally. Contrary to what many may think, I do turn down physical opportunities, however, do not confuse this with a man that does not have a very normal and active libido :) I love a passionate woman.

Let's face it: we all are busy, we all are vulnerable when we seek out a partner, and we all hate rejection. So, frankly, unless you just love the "chase" or being "pursued", and some apparently do...then it is costly to date and draining. If what we are, sincerely, seeking is that "special someone"; then can't we just save a lot of hurt by just being who we are and say what we are looking for, without the silly and juvenile tactics? I am very aware that most women on this site get many replies each day and if you are good looking, even more. I am not in a competition to be the best man available, I am me; and hope, very simply, to be the best man for you. I will not win the looks contest, or even the hard body contest, I,certainly, will fail miserably in the full head of hair category :) What I am is sincere and try to better myself as a human each day. If that is what you are looking for then maybe you would find me enjoyable. I probably will not open the door to the car on the first date because I probably will not continue doing it for the remainder of the relationship. I probably will not bring you a rose on the first date or spend 300 dollars to take you on a Hot Air balloon, just to impress you. There will always be someone with better looks, better money, a nicer home or a nicer car...I am not trying to "win you over" by impressing you with anything, but me. Can you do the same :)? I will, forever drive the car to the door if it is raining or hold your hand so you do not fall, throughout a lifetime. I will scrape your windshield so you can stay warm. I will adore you and be fair and always think about you in every decision that I consider. That I can do.

I try not to give up believing that she is out there, and I can't be the only one that shares my fears and insecurity about this mess called "the dating game".

I am not a negative guy...just wanted to say how I feel after being on here for a while. It would be nice to find someone who wants to just be themselves...if our date does not lead to more than a first date and a nice conversation then we can both feel it was still worthwhile. I get a kick that sometimes the best looking ladies who talk about how they want to be valued for more than just their looks etc. are, many times the ones that take one look and delete and unread the messages sent to them based on my looks only :) I do like a pretty, in shape lady...yes I am shallow, and I like to say yummmm about my partner and will not get jealous if other men say the same thing about you:).We all have the opportunity to cheat; it is the value that we have for what we have with each other that prevents us from doing so. Perhaps, is an unfair expectation on my part, but at least I am honest about it :) Thanks for reading this LOOOONG disertation, if you are still here, then it seems that you have the substance that I would be attracted to :)

Honestly, I am open to most "first date" scenarios. I enjoy seeing my partner have fun so whatever she enjoys usually would be fine with me. I am not a heavy partier and enjoy more quiet evenings at home than alot of going out. I do enjoy venturing out occassionally, just do not need to do that on a weekly basis. I travel a few times a year within the United States and would enjoy someone that may enjoy going with me. I am not into drama and I really am a very straight-forward male who enjoys the same in a partner. I want someone that desires being valued for who she is; and is willing to value, as well, what she has with me and who I am. There is no need or desire for any dishonesty in my life. I prefer not to go to a smoke filled,, loud bar for a first date...I'd like to find out about you. The smoke filled bar thing doesn't do much for me, even once I know you. On occasion but coughing and smelling like an ashtray usually does not rank high on my list of fun things to do.