I am looking for a lady that has a love of life and enjoys having fun most of the time. I am a retired police officer and its time to have some fun. That is what I do some of the time now that the job is DONE.. Life is too short, so have as much fun as you can and if you can't find any let me know and I will bring some sunshine in your life or "your money back"...

A Little about me....

Self-Confidence

As someone with high self-confidence, I feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, I find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. My relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around me comfortable too. Perhaps because I am comfortable talking about myself, others tend to enjoy being around me and perceive me as socially competent.

The confidence that helps me feel comfortable talking to people also spills into my own personal beliefs about myself. Although I have several strengths, it’s likely that I also acknowledge and accept my weaknesses. But unlike some people, I take full responsibility for my actions—I rarely regret things I’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily.

Perhaps the defining feature that sets me apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that I set for myself. My competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to me for advice and generally think of me as someone with leader-like qualities.

Family Orientation

As someone who respects family values, I tend to enjoy the company of family-members and are open to living a domestic life. I do have children already, and enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent, but may occasionally wish to “cut-loose” and let my true colors show.

If I didn’t have children, I would probably desire having a family sometime in the distant future. Although I really enjoy cooking at home, I also like going to restaurants. This does not create added stress as I transition into parenthood.

I am attracted to the idea of having a family and I am willing to work hard to achieve this, although not necessarily any time soon. This conflict is illustrated by the fact that I don’t mind doing things around the house—like cooking and entertaining guests—on the one hand. But, on the other hand, I also like going to restaurants and parties. It’s possible that in time I might prefer spending time at home more because I won’t feel like I'm missing anything when I don’t go out.

One aspect that makes me likely to become more family oriented is that I generally know how to manage my frustrations and work well on my own. This means that I have some of the basic ingredients to enjoy family life. Maintaining a tidy home, keeping a well-stocked kitchen, and making sure the kids are safe is a tough job. So attending to these things, while also taking care of myself, may prove somewhat difficult at times.

Self-Control

The self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and my degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, I might find that I do or say things that may be inappropriate at times.

As someone who exerts little control over my actions, I may find that I may commit social blunders that might offend other people and get myself in trouble. For example, if I am given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, I may be likely to overlook important details because I have difficulty staying focused if my heart is not in the project. Consequently, I might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in myself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage my own stress level.

Low self-control may diminish my effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for me to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, my ability to accomplish may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that I might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, I still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.

Openness

As someone high in openness, I have a strong appreciation for beauty, both in art and nature. Indeed, it’s likely that I am easily absorbed in music and art, as well as natural phenomena. Another aspect of my openness is my emotional insight; that is, I probably have good access to and awareness of my own emotions.

Another aspect of the openness dimension is the tendency to think about abstract concepts and ideas. This thinking style may take the form of artistic and metaphorical use of language, and/or music composition or performance. Thus, it is likely that, either in my work or spare time, I enjoy activities that get my “creative juices” flowing.

My tendency to be open-minded can have advantages and disadvantages. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, my openness makes it easier for me to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as yI am. In contrast, I may be bored easily in situations that lack high amounts of intellectual stimulation. In such cases, I might have difficulty excelling on projects that do not provide much stimulation or require much creative thinking.

Easygoingness

Easygoingness refers to one's ability to relax. Based on this, I work and play hard. The benefits of being moderate in easygoingness are that I achieve success through hard work, but I also know when and how to relax. My colleagues and friends likely consider me as reliable and fun to be around.

Being moderate in easygoingness can cause me some stress, however. For example, I may sometimes find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently, which can cause stress for both me and the people around me. I may occasionally experience stress by working hard to reach my goals, but I value having fun and just relaxing. Knowing how to balance both work and play is a gift, and I have the key ingredients for doing this.

I have enough mental flexibility to think creatively and enough focus to implement those ideas well. This might be epitomized by my occasional difficulty focusing o

I now work as a contractor (Bodyguard for Corp. clients)and I am out of town most of the time. So a good first date would be a paid trip to my current location, such as Hawaii, Mississippi. Florida, New Orlands. ect. I go where the money is, so I go every where in the US. My 4mos. stay in Hawaii was the best. It would have been much better if I had someone to share it with. Looking for someone that is very smart and has alot going on upstairs if you know what I mean..(Brains) gotta have that...smile will talk about that more if we meet..

Female
Age between 29 and 49
Live in United States