*****a quick note******if you see me as online, and i dont answer,, I'm unable to use the IM feature.. so if you wish to chat, drop me a note, and I'll send you my yahoo adde.

Hey all!!!Well, I'm a fairly well adjusted fellow, balancing being a responsible adult while looking at the world thru the wondrous eyes of a child. Ask me anything,, I'll answer any and all questions. I suppose a short history is in order…I was diagnosed having ADD about 3 years ago.Since then, I’ve made major advances in getting my life back on track and in order. I’m not the hyper, super-spaz most people think of when they hear the term ADD. Besides that would be ADHD.Yes, I do take meds to help keep me functioning, but all it does is balance out the brain chemistry from multiple fractured skulls, blunt force traumas and concussions. The worst of the damage was serving my country as a US Marine in Beirut Lebanon from 82 – 84. Being in combat and surviving fort apache (the barracks bombing) will kinda do that to you. That, and 2 pretty bad mental breakdowns. The first finding a drunk driver killed my fiancée and first true love 15 days before our wedding. The second was witnessing the north tower strike on 911, then being on site for three days helping in the rescue efforts. My doc thinks that these key events and injuries brought this to the forefront.But I’m not complaining or making excuses…..There are pro’s to having ADD as well. But if we ever meet or talk.. You will see them for yourself lol At the present, the first lines you’ve read are the “NOW” me.I’m rather laid back at times. And when the need arises, I can be like a ferret on speed lol. I’m not the kind to fly off the handle. Truth be told, it takes a lot of work to get me angry, lol pretty funny for a red head!! I’m really not a drinker, and when I go out I prefer to be a designated driver. And when I am in a relationship. I’ve always made it a point to give what I receive. I’m intelligent almost scary smart, but yea, I’m still a guy and I have lapses of common sense (oh God,,, don’t strike me dead for letting that secret out!!!) not the bad or hurtful lapses,, just the kind that make you roll your eyes, laugh and say “ oiy vie…..What a dufus…..

But in the past month or so,, the veils have been pulled away from my minds eye and I seem to be having a wild personal growth spurt of what my freinds have been blow away by what I"ve dubbed as" intulectus proufoundi" . a term I've lovingly , yet tongue in cheek use to discribe the sudden rush of deeply profound thoughts ive been having about myself, the world and those around me. And no,, its not quite religious revalations, and its definetly not voices in my head ( Shh,,, WE'RE not done talking yet!! hehehe!! LOL)

And yes,, if your have'nt quite figured it out, I am the consumate communitactor. I have no fears in talking about the weather, or my deepest hopes, dreams and fears. And in being such, if you can hear me, but more importantly, respond and act upon what im thinking and saying, I will in kind, always do the same. I am one who trully belives in my heart of hearts, that if two people can communicate, and come to a middle ground, anything is possible, love will florish, and the dreams of both can be achieved..

New good news!!!As of now.. the clock is ticking down till on my last vice…SMOKING!!!My doctor is getting me ready for the new smoking suasion medication chantix!! Today is the first for the new pills, and am i glad my insuarces covers them!!!!! So this time next month… I should be smoke free without the cravings and withdrawals.. ive been trying to quit for too long, and its time!!! 7 DAYS AND COUNTING!!!!!


I know I don’t have to say any of this. I could just put my game face on, hide all of this, and try like hell to keep you from finding out. But then, I'd be like sooo many other men. But I see no reason to BS you. I’m looking for a smart lady to be a friend, perhaps more. And the truth always comes out in the end. I am ME. For good or bad. But I’m working on being the best me I can be. Who wants to be the lucky person to be there when I’ve gotten to my goals?? still typing lol sorry bout the novel....

Hmmm….. a first date eh?? Well to be honest, people who expect or demand a huge production for a first date have unhealthy expectations. Those who put on huge productions are either insecure, or have something to hide. Or have the need to show off. Any which way,, that’s not me. I’d prefer something simple and quite. Coffee. Going out for drinks or a light meal. A walk or picnic. Pretty much anything or anywhere that’s quite and not a lot of distractions so we can get to know each other.And when I DO pull all the stops, it may not be a first date, but it WILL be for someone I KNOW DESERVES IT!!

Female
Live in United States
Live within 75 miles.
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not do drugs
Must not be married