UPDATE: Not looking anymore. I've met an absolutely wonderful, delightful lady that I've fallen in love with and hope to spend the rest of my life with.

I've written a unique 130+ question overall compatibility test I call "Are YOU a Sexy Conservative?" (Sexual compatibility is only 1 of the 8 topics in it, if a longer one.) Anyone who wants a copy of it just send me an e-mail address. I'll send it right out. (Yes, I'd like someone considering dating me to take it, but you knew that.)
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I'm looking for the right lady to share lives with me, as best friends in love. I'd like to have children with her (make a family together with her) if possible, but it's not a dealkiller if that's not realistic. I don't do "overlap" in relationships, expecting mutual exclusivity from the beginning of intimacy until the relationship officially ends. I'd love to be with just one more woman the rest of my life, by growing old together with the right woman.

I keep running into women that really just want to be friends for 18+ months before actually dating. I would rather meet someone who's gotten out of their system the first 17 months of reluctance to genuinely date before she and I start spending time together. Life's a bit short for relationship games, IMO. A fairly serious exclusive relationship (trust, friendship, caring, talking about everything, much time together doing lots of fun things, lots of affection, and, yes, wonderful but monogamous sex) is what I want us to share, and have to offer. As in, we both all but forget the word "No" with our partner, able to trust that the other won't ask beyond our limits. I know that you've been disappointed, even betrayed, in the past (me too, God knows), but I can't comfort you and keep you warm at night, if we don't let each other past all our defenses. Oh, and yes, a real relationship to me means that we go to each other's social functions, help each other with projects like house moving, can call the other anytime day or night if our car breaks down during lousy weather in the middle of nowhere, all with certainty the other will come through -- basically have ONE ally we can absolutely count on, in an uncertain life in a world that is rather indifferent to our happiness.

I'm divorced 4 years from a 10-year marriage (no kids from it). It was reasonably happy much of the time, so I'm not bitter about marriage. I have more like a widower's attitude about it, as in, I believe marriage or something close to it is how we're meant to live. I have a science M.S., extensively travel for my work, N/S, basically a nondrinker, quite well-read, not into crowds/concerts/spec sports/TV/bars/gambling. A good sci-fi movie, bookstore, Oriental restaurant, cooking up a comfort food or novel treat, going for a long walk somewhere interesting are my idea of nonhorizontal fun. I'm blond, blue-eyed, wear glasses, no facial hair, a touch stocky but very strong, 5'9" tall, with a short normal-looking hairstyle. I enjoy long-distance hiking (hiked the whole Appalachian Trail from Georgia to Maine in 2006, & did half of it, 1100 miles, earlier this year), occasional fishing, reading serious books, cagebirds, nontiny dogs, a few vintage video games (yes, I have that under control). I'm politically conservative, vote Constitution Party, & greatly respect Ayn Rand's books. I'm Christian, but was nonreligious for many years, so believe I understand being nonreligious. Am prochoice & attend church (Southern Baptist) when my work and travels permit me. Honor is very important to me, such as courage, industriousness, honesty, prudence & keeping my word once given. I am naturally faithful and expect the same (have no tolerance for infidelity). I've lived over 5 years outside the U.S. I don't believe in debt, such as credit cards. I have an incredible repertoire of jokes & stories; I'll keep you laughing for months (and, hopefully you'll be emotionally attached when I start to run low on material). ;)

I used to play Dungeons & Dragons in college & for a while after (the scientist/engineer groups, not the weirdo loser groups), as well as the more complex military simulation boardgames (Avalon Hill, etc.). My father was a career military officer; I think that someone who also moved a lot in their youth would be a better match for me.

I'm quite stoical about physical discomforts, nearly immune to cold temperatures, & have a great deal of physical stamina in all areas. I don't believe in astrology, "crystal power", "vortexes", reincarnation, the occult, creationism, etc.

I'm very interested in Alaska, having worked there a couple months in 2005, & want to go back to visit sometime when possible. I am pretty down on public schools, so private schools/homeschooling would be the way I'd want any kids educated.

I'd prefer to meet a fellow Caucasian or perhaps a Eurasian. I don't mind a certain amount of weight on a woman that I get involved with; I believe a woman should look like a woman (neither a concentration camp survivor magazine model nor Roseann Barr), & she preferably doesn't let her weight interfere with her being able to do things. I'd love to have someone in my life who would go hiking with me, but I'd settle for someone tolerant of my hiking. (I don't plan to go on anything much over a month duration ever again, & that rarely.) I eat very healthily (lots of lowfat/ whole-grain stuff), but am not vegetarian. I love Japanese/Chinese food, as well as Middle Eastern. I am a reasonably adept cook & not at all helpless in a house. (Ask me about my "Big Deal Dinner" I'll eventually fix you, if things are going well with us...)

I'm pretty good with yardwork. I have a history of figuring out just what fertilizers, etc., a family member's or close friend's struggling lawn needs, & applying them for them as a favor. I'm also something of a rough carpenter, occasionally making shelves, bookcases, pantries, or clothing racks for people I'm close to.

I don't much like cats indoors, see no point to fish/gerbils/snakes/etc. as pets, but dogs and cagebirds are OK. I have handfed close to a dozen c*ckatiels in the past. I don't have any pets right now due to my work travel.
I am unpierced/untattoed & prefer the same. (1 pair discreet earrings on a woman is OK.) Makeup & perfume on a woman don't really do much for me, so you wouldn't have to worry about those. I've been really good at avoiding ultraviolet weathering my skin, & hope for the same in a woman I date.

I prefer a relationship to include a lot of mutual, spontaneous affection (not major PDA, though); I'm likely to provide long backrubs for the woman I'm seeing, if she enjoys them, especially early on. I believe a relationship (a marriage even more so) should involve both people being very giving of themselves, both in and out of the bedroom.

Musically, I like classical, some older ro

I'd love for us to wander around a bookstore or library, where we showed each other great books we'd read; that would be a winner IMO. Above all, we'd talk and listen. While finding out if our values and interests were aligned enough that a relationship (or more) could work, we'd flirt a bit in between the joking. If you like this idea for an evening, that'd be a good sign that this might work for us.

Or, we could take this compatibility test together I wrote up. (Anyone that wants it, message me, and I'll send it to you.)

Alternatively, if we'd talked on the phone a number of times, exchanged lots of photos, and been communicating by e-mail extensively before we'd yet managed to meet in person, and it was starting to look as if we'd found our missing soulmate, another idea would come to mind. I'd then suggest making the core of the evening my giving you a long backrub (nothing more) while we talk about anything & nothing. That would get us past the awkwardness of the first meeting very nicely, not risking our losing a promising budding relationship, yet is still "safe" enough.