| | Spices change the way things taste. So what am I looking for here? I'm still not sure. Thinkers, deamers, someone who may show me new ways to grow, listen, provoke, shake my soul. Someone who I can grow to trust enough to bare my soul, or at least show how dumb I can sometimes be.
First and foremost, I’m looking for friends only. Our circle of close friends recently disintegrated with 2 break-ups and an emigration. (No, we weren’t swinging, and have no interest in that lifestyle.) Just friends!
Retirement from a lifetime in academia leaves me with a little more time to play and opportunities to broaden my horizons. As a scientist, I’m fascinated by how things work and a career in neuroscience inevitably leads to questions of consciousness and God. Don’t take that in a religious sense – more as something to think about. There is so much to learn from people-watching, listening and talking.
I grew up a country boy in Northern England, moved to the city to study and work, traveled for my career, married an artist (more than 25 years ago) and now plan to sail away with her to spend a few romantic years exploring the South Pacific.
Life seems to have been good to me, but I think I helped – and I certainly didn’t expect this. Childhood dreams of living in a warm, sunny place like California or sailing off in boat were dismissed as foolish fantasies, yet here they are in reality. The journey was sometimes rough. I still struggle to come to terms with other parts of my life but all of this has made me realize how important people are – not just family, but the supportive friends we meet on our journey through life.
There are plenty of people who have overcome greater challenges than mine – even some stories on POF. The point isn’t the suffering. It is our response to it. Give in to it, or rise to meet it. Each challenge is an opportunity, not just for one individual but for the entire community to help that individual become a greater person. Friends who love us – not for anything in return – just because. What IS this love?
In addition to the above, my interests are very eclectic. Growing up in the countryside meant getting dirty hands and I still enjoy doing that. Growing things, building things. I suppose academia is considered white collar - managing research projects, raising funding, teaching, although I still enjoyed building things and discovered a great deal of satisfaction in computer programming. A partnership with an artist opens up a whole new world of images, sound and words that I enjoy. In a nutshell, I guess I just enjoy creativity. Is that a form of worship? - bringing into the world something that has never existed before? |
