I consider myself attractive and in good shape for my age: also usually somewhat mature, worldly, decently educated and sophisticated! I work out and watch what I eat. I have two smart, cool kids who live with me. I have been divorced for about a year and a half, and am interested in meeting men who will respect me, appreciate my uniqueness and all that I have to offer. I want to meet someone who is honest, attractive, and fun to hang out with! Passivity is a real turn-off, so please do not be afraid to speak your mind. Communication is very important to me...
I am fairly new to dating since my divorce, but have been around a bit. Still, I am cautious, and, like most people, have a busy life. My kids are 10 and 14, very cool and fun, smart and adaptable; we like having people around, and I personally love to entertain and meet new people, so meeting someone else's friends is appealing as well.
I am looking to meet someone "real" that I can connect with. Am not interested in being played with or lied to (been there, done that). I am a very honest and real person, almost to a fault, and am looking for that honesty in return: hope so! Also, I feel that I deserve it, and am a giver: but only to the right person!
Physical attraction is also very important to me, not to be shallow. I went a long time without it in my marriage, and want (and need!) to feel that attraction to someone. I know that it is possible, have experienced it, and it is fabulous.
I prefer city-dwellers, but am open-minded to people who live in the suburbs. I've already said that I'm an urban girl, and that meeting someone in the city would be convenient for me and my schedule, but if I connect with someone who lives outside of the city, just be prepared to show me unfamiliar territory!
I am about as honest as you can get, without getting into too much trouble, and would like to find someone who is not afraid to express their feelings, both good and bad, and stick around to see what the outcome might be. Let's just talk things out and not waste each other's time!
I am mostly drawn to creative, intelligent, sensitive and artistic people (which is, in essence...me!) It is not a requirement, but any of the above is good (and sexy with a sense of humor also rates rather highly!)
I can actually be witty on occasion, enjoy having my friends around me, but do like and need my occasional solitude: or one on one time with someone awesome. (And true intimacy does not scare me: I am ready for it!)
Please don't write me if you don't think we'd have anything in common, or if you live out of state or are way older than me (and if you're really 60, please do not say that you are 42!) Truthfully, I am used to and generally attracted to younger men, although I know that age can be just a number; and a sign of maturity!
I grew up in Hyde Park, listening to r & b music, which I still love today. I love what the city has to offer (diversity! The lakefront! Public transportation!) I thrive on my city existence, my pilates and hip hop classes, the free trolley to the beach, Maxwell Street, art openings in Pilsen...
I am not at all just interested in Jewish men; that has never been an issue for me (in fact, have only had one Jewish boyfriend!) I am much more interested in the person, do enjoy differences, as well as commonality, and was raised to be open-minded. However, I am also fairly opinionated, and have preferences and standards. Mostly I am looking for respect, consideration, and the ability to communicate well: honestly, openly, maturely,
and with some degree of humility (we can't both be right all of the time. In fact, I've come to learn that being right is not really the point: it's being able to talk, and listen to each other.)
I would love to trust someone completely, which has (so far anyway) been rather difficult to find. However, I can wait (can try to be patient anyway--not an easy feat!), and take things one step at a time, one date, one phone call at a time....
I crave a good conversation, and would love to hear from you, if our needs, interests and desires seem like they could mesh.

A first date should be a chance to talk and look at each other (check each other out!), to see if there are sparks and find out if there are things in common. A drink, coffee, possibly dinner if it seems right; just spending enough time to know if you want to see each other again. A fantastic date would be instant chemistry, great conversation, physical attraction, and a feeling that we'd known each other for a while already--or more importantly, that maybe we would. This sounds heavenly. Walking, talking, a restaurant: it doesn't matter to me.

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