To start, some general thoughts: I believe cliches are only phrases that are only true if put into practice. Many use them but are you truly willing to make them reality? It's a choice to not just say or write them; but to actually live them in reality. Also, I am seeing more and more women stating they are seeking 'Friends'. Hmmm, I realize each person has her own reason she states that as versus 'Dating' or "Long Term Relationships'; and no, I don't mean to imply you mean 'Friends with benefits', okay? IF a person already has several opposite sex friends and the answer is to 'start' as a friend then should he/she just wait until one of those friendships moves into a relationship? Fascinating eh? They started as a 'friend'. Another thought: I continue to see more and more profiles from women stating they only want to meet a guy that is employed because they don't want to support anyone. Isn't that a bit judgemental on how a guy you never met, that happened to suffer the effects of the economy or otherwise, is regarding his motivation and ability to support himself? Don't generalize, it's all so individual, right? But then again, don't many assume based on a guy or guys that they had been involved with before? Not quite sure how that even makes sense when not even knowing a new person that way. Hmmmmmmm...so much for girl seeks boy/girl likes boy..ahh..I guess many just can't let the past be the past and realize it ended because of specific actual dynamics between you and he..right? Does it even make sense to associate him/them with a new person in general? Hmmmmmmmm,,fascinating. Sooooooo much psychology in even girl meets boy/girl likes boy and vice versa.

Do you want a man who is very easy to talk with, intelligent and confident, can have lighthearted and intellectual conversations, can be silly and serious, wants to communicate, wants to empathize with how you feel, is highly affectionate, sees the good in the bad no matter what, stands up against injustice against adults and children and is not concerned about self over those that hurt, has a nutty sense of humour and who wants to find what humour makes you laugh or crack you up which is such a great part of a relationship, who just senses how you’re feeling at any time but realizes you are the only one who truly knows and realizes that at times all you want is a nice loving hug, to listen and say nothing and to 'shut up and hold you'? Do you want a man who understands that love is not selfish and has nothing to do with what has happened in the past; but is a choice to give to you no matter what happened in the past? Do you want a man who only knows an attitude of life as to what can be; not what hurts and can’t be..you know, that positive sort of focus? I can honestly give you all that; not just say it but live it. Basically I would rather wear my heart on my sleeve as I do because that means I am not holding back for any reason sharing with you which is what a loving relationship truly is, right? A relationship truly is about a team; not me or you putting ourself above the other, or shutting down, and working together to meet each other's needs and dreams.

I’m 53 years of age, 6’0”, 210 pounds, a Christian with a strong faith and motivation, and moved to Chatham-Kent in April/09 to be closer to my 6 year old son who lives with his mother in Chatham (not reconciling). He is with me every second weekend, one night a week and I attend his sports and activities of course. An additional thing of a loving relationship is showing him about relationships, how to properly treat women with respect and how to work through challenges; as with all aspects of life. I'm highly affectionate with you (hopefully) and divorced from a previous relationship many years ago. I am financially okay and seeking work not just for more income but 'purpose' as well. I am university educated with an Honours Bachelor of Physical and Health Education and a Bachelor of Arts (Social Sciences). I have worked in helping people for many years in social services, social assistance, teaching Physical and Health Education (for one year) and have coached teens for years including one year with the Special Olympics. People passion is huge for me. Oh, I guess I better warn you; my son's miniature dachsund lives with me and the concern is he may lick you to death; so beware. Oh dear, I lied in my caption. I don't own him; my son does.

Now..tell me about you. Yes, I do wish to find a Christian woman too.

I believe the most beautiful setting for a first date is something very natural; however, this would be what you and I would discuss we wish to share together. Sitting or walking by water or walking in the woods and just enjoying our company and nature gives that wonderful environment that is so peaceful. Just imagine if we had a bottle of wine to add to the ambiance. Many can feel very awkward just sitting and having coffee for the first time (only looking at each other 'can' be awkward if not that immediate chemistry of course and sometimes even if there is depending on personality) and additional stimuli such as water, a park, etc. can make it more natural overall. This can still be discussed, of course, by you and I in setting up the meeting and how we both feel is what is most comfortable.