THIS WILL BE LONG, BUT IF YOU CAN ACTUALLY GET THROUGH IT, YOU'LL PROBABLY FEEL LIKE YOU KNOW ME BY THE END OF IT. WHY? NO HOLES BARRED. IF YOU DON'T HAVE THE PATIENCE TO READ IT ALL, WE PROBABLY WON'T GET PAST THIS 1ST STAGE. BUT HEY THAT'S OKAY TOO.

Happy reading...

- I have no grey zones
For better or worse; you see what I have noticed and learned over the years is that b.s and liars end up living a paranoid life, always doubting themselves and those around them--usually for mistakes and lies they committed themselves. I would rather just be honest to myself and with people. It's much easier and really makes us stronger people.

- I love the duality of opposites
I think that duality makes our beings balanced and equal. I love the night, and the hustle and bustle of night-life (dance-clubs, raves etc EXCLUDED!) but I also love the day and crave the sun. If I love the day and night, you would assume I hate to sleep. You'd be right...but I also hate being awakened from a great sleep! See what I mean? As much as I hate to fall asleep because I will always feel that sleep takes ways from something else we could be doing, I also hate to be disturbed from a good rest. I love to laugh (especially at my own expense) and crack people up, but I know that my serious side is the most productive and intellectual. I hate deadlines, but I work really well under pressure. I like my suit and tie but I must admit I am not shy about wearing my ripped jeans around you--obviously pending the occasion. I love talking and having great conversations, but I love listening too, because I truley believe that from listening (not just simply hearing), comes learning. I am analytical and sometimes stubborn, yet very open minded and understand that others can be right. I prefer being in control but do understand that to have complete control of situations we all need a little help sometimes. I am very spontaneous, but plan the important things in my life meticulously. I believe that we create our own destiny, but fate has a funny way of modifying it sometimes! I believe people--myself included--do not change, but we do always grow and growth is inevitably a change of sorts.

laughter and conversation
Have you ever been so attracted to someone that the opportunity of meeting them sent sparks prematurely flying all over your body and mind? Then upon meeting them, the more they talked, the more duds start spitting off in your mind. The sparks flicker, dim and burn out and suddenly your God or Goddess from a distance becomes less interesting than staring at a blank white wall. What happened? Many things could have single-handedly gone wrong, or a myriad of things turned you off at the same time: They talked to much--so much that you couldn't get more than a breath into your reply before they were off onto some other tangent. Perhaps they were just bland or had nothing to say that peeked your interest. Maybe you were just dying to laugh and they were miserable company on a night you really wanted to smile. Maybe as you approached you notuced he/she still had broccoli bits stuck in their teeth...

These things are all imprtant to me (yes, even the broccoli!). Yes appearance is important, and to say we are not shallow we'd all be lying I am no exception. We are all shallow inasmuch as we all have our "type" of initial attraction. Let's face it if my(hideous!)picture did not attract you, you would not have read this far in the first place. Now, what I have to say either keeps you reading...or surfing to the next profile! That said, there is so much more for me. That initial spark will only ignite another spark if you can make me smile, keep my curiosity peeked and carry a conversation as well as you can listen to mine.

My Life Today

I have lived a great life so far. A lot of hardships, but ironically the hardships gave me my sense of humor, my drive and my passion and positive outlook on life. I have had everything and lost it all, and began rebuilding it all over again at age 35, when most who went through what I did would have given up. I refuse. There is something more and I know it. Convincing ourselves of otherwise would depress anyone from carrying on.

I went from studying law and getting two degrees simultaneously (political science and marketing management) and soon after becoming a bank manager before age 25, to giving it all up to pursue my dream at age 31--and it worked! I built, opened, operated and owned a music studio and booking agency up until 2007 only to give it all up--including 75k a year and a business I created from the ground up to take care of my son full time. Fast forward to today, and my boy is healthy, happy, strong and smart. That said, no I am not here for him, I am here for me, so please do not let that deter you, if I have aroused your curiosity. I am now on the early stages of re-opeing my studio as well as writing for Canada's largest music magazine and sound technician for any and all major shows that come to Montreal.

what else; I love music, I play and listen to everything from rock to jazz, from funk to Latin (Sorry as much as I can appreciate elements of hip hop and techno, for the most part I can create music and lyrics like that on my laptop in 12 minutes and those styles get on my nerves more than anything else.))But in genersal, music is what keeps me young at heart, I love good gatherings, oh and I really can cook up a storm...

Wouldn't it be refreshing to meet someone who says they are real and actually is?

The Ideal Match
Ok, here's where more honesty is important. You'll note the first 3 qualities are visual, and that has nothing to do with being shallow, it has everything to do with the fact that we SEE each other, then our minds take us to the next step. If there is no visual or physical attraction, then there is probably little chance of a relationship (other than a friendly one) developing.

So here's my Match:

Eyes to kill for, a great smile and sensual lips, someone who takes care of their physical being (however, if you do that "little girl pout" and/or kiss the camera because you think you're "sexy"--you're probably not for me) Intelligence, an incredible sense of humor. Someone that can crack me up too. Devoted, driven, independent but not afraid to share and give as much as she can receive. Social and not afraid to have fun.

I am a social chameleon, and I do believe that it's never about the place but about the company. I love spontaneity, so anything is fine by me. How' bout sky-diving, hey I'm game if you are!