My first profile was very short and simple. I never met anyone and got comments that indicated people were getting wrong impression of me. I keep changing and adding to it.

Here it is:

I am an easy going person that likes to have fun and enjoy life. I like good company and can have fun doing most things. I'm glad to learn about other peoples interests and try something new and have a new experience especially with someone I like. I like to learn about and do new things. I love live music and other performances. I like nature and books and art and just so many things and am always ready to learn about and experience something new.

That was it. I keep adding.

I think you can only really know a person from spending time with them, but this all they have to judge my by until they decide to meet me.

The thing is, that if you can't get their attention enough to meet them how can they judge your merits? The only 'merits' they have to judge you buy, unless you meet and spend time together, is what you say on here. But it is very frustrating to try to represent myself in this way.

This was the first change here: Guess I should have annotated them and explained them! lol


It seems like I need to change this. People are getting a mis-impression from what I had written. I get, "We aren't looking for the same thing" from people a lot. I think most of us--at heart--ARE looking for the same thing, although many of us may have given up or lost faith in it. I am not good at knowing what to say. It seems that no matter what you say it isn't 'you' and gets misunderstood. I feel sort of that way now. I want to describe myself and why I am here, and what I am looking for, but don't know what to say. I am going to try to explain more clearly.

I think everyone hopes to meet someone special and be happy together, everyone normal anyway, but I don't like to have the attitude that I can't be happy until I do and make meeting new people an all or nothing thing. I don't think, like many people seem to, that the internet is some magical thing that is going to produce the right person. People you meet here are the same as people you meet elsewhere, but it gives you more opportunity to meet people and find that special someone. I think you look for people as friends who you would enjoy knowing. If you have good friends that you enjoy knowing and doing things with then you can be happy I think. And I think that if you can find that special person you hope for that among such friends is where it is most likely to happen and the best place to find them. Also, if you define what you are looking for you fall in love with someone that is the complete opposite! lol So, I just want to meet some honest good people and be friends and hope that one will be that 'one' I am looking for and I will be that for them. So, I can't define exactly who I am looking for and don't want to limit myself my doing so, but I will know it when I find it. And along the way I hope to also make some good friends while I look for that one BEST friend. =)

Also, even if we aren't right for each other we might know people who ARE right-hanging out with good friends and people you like and meeting each others friends is the best way to meet people.

SO...when I say I am looking for friends, it does NOT mean that I wouldn't be thrilled to find more. I don't want to have such big expectations and hopes in such a way that if we meet things are not my every dream come true I will be disappointed. I DO hope for this but if I meet someone nice that FOR SURE I can enjoy knowing as a friend I will have had a success. Even if they are not that ONE SPECIAL person, they can be A SPECIAL person. I don't feel I would go wrong to find a special person for my friend. I know I miss a nice experience in life when I dont at least have a friendship with such a person. So, I am hoping to find some great friends to add to my happiness in life (and I hope also theirs) and if one of them becomes a 'friendship on fire'--EURIKA! (I took that phrase for what love is from someone else's profile because I liked it very much.)

So, if I choose you as someone to be 'friends' with, it does not mean I have ruled out more serious relationships. If it becomes a 'friendship on fire' that would be wonderful, but I wont be disppointed if it isn't either. I want to have realisitic expectations that can be met and be happily suprised if it turns into even more than I expected rather than have have such high expectations that I am too often disappointed and miss enjoying the good things I have because of expecting something else.

If I choose you as someone I want to become friends with-IT IS A COMPLIMENT! I think you are someone with something special to offer and I hope to share in that through your friendship. And it also means that you could also be that most special of friends and that you are someone worth making time for in life.

I promise I'm NOT married and have not been yet. I wonder if I ever will be but when I look at other people's lives I wonder if that is so bad unless I find the right person. =) So, I would like to find a 'right person' but I also know that people you meet here are the same as the ones you meet anywhere else and this is not some magic system to find the right person, but it lets you meet some interesting people you would not otherwise and perhaps one of them will become the 'right one', but friends is a good place to start.

People I meet tell me I don't look like my pictures, but all but one are recent-1-4 years old-three are from the past year. I had lunch with someone yesterday and she said I looked least like the most recent one! lol Oh well. At least they say I look better than my pictures, which is good when I meet someone since they liked me as my pictures showed me and now I look even better than believed! lol But bad for getting someone to meet me in the first place. Oh well.

I think how you look to someone is related quite a bit to personality. I have known very beautiful women that stopped looking good to me after I knew them and people who were 'appearance challenged' but with such great personalities and confidence that you saw them as very attractive. I've also noticed how someone I didn't much notice physically can become very physically attractive after I know and like them and the reverse can also happen.

I can plan something or we can plan it together. I can have a good time doing most things and I want the person I am with to also be comfortable and have a good time. Mostly, it should be relaxed and comfortable for us both to get to know each other. I'd like to meet some nice people and get to know them. I like doing things with fun people and can have fun doing most things if I have good company. It is interesting to try new things and learn new things and I like to have a friend who is interested in doing this with me. If there is a live band, play. museum, park,club, restaurant, segway ride (that photo is from such an experience of doing something we have always wanted to try with a friend) or whatever you would like to see or do and want someone to share it with that sounds great to me. If you share some joys and good conversations together you find out about a person and develop a relationship. That is what I want--some great relationships--and hope that one of them will become that relationship we all hope to find. I don't want to have too much expectation and be disappointed. I'd rather be happy with good friends and fun and be surprised if one of my friends and I find out we are our special someones. But, I will be happy to make some valuable friends and enjoy good times with good friends.