...Most people have chosen the options of staying alone, hang out with a bunch of annoying friends or the four walls; remainning very depressed and afraid, keep going to bars, selfsexed, teasing and harrassing others. Although it does not always happen in that order, but that's usually the outcome. dont believe me? look at your life!
My description, is totally opposite however.
There are better options outthere people. Wake up and smell the folgers.
How can one raise his or herself above the influence, with those options. It's not possible.
Instead, become an individual, get on the less traveled road, find yourself, serenity, spirituality, and you should find what you're looking for.

And to all the girls who looked and did not say hello or could be a little hostile.... well, that's all a good recipe for counter productivity to your sincere search. So talk to a men, and let him know how you feel and be a friend and so forth. Smile more, be more tender, be a good conversationalist, leave your past where it's at, chill out, this is life and it's live. You got this, dont be so scared and skeptical questioning everything believing the wrong and doubting the right. Mingle! that's all the honey and the more FLIES. Put away the vinegar!
And, Oh.... dont forget to take your pills!

I'll take be happy, be myself, calm and collected for 300!