I still believe in the magic of falling in love, not naively but hopefully - a realistic adult (not expecting perfection), but also not willing or ready to settle for less than take-your-breath-away passion. Hard-to-describe intangibles count for a lot. Facial expression, tone of voice, turn of phrase, body language--those are the ingredients of chemistry. They are the essence of a person and I believe, they are what allow us to fall in love (or sadly, not). Want to know more? You might enjoy reading my daily posts on http://markmusing.com ...

Warm with an edge, I am hoping to meet a sensitive, warm, loving woman with an artistic bent or a business angle or an intellectual streak - or 'all of those'. She's smart, a dreamer, but a do-er too. She's gentle but challenging. Most importantly, the same things make us laugh. Not jokes, but situational humour, self-deprecating humour, humour that pokes fun at the absurdity of our modern lives that sets the stage for real talking on a 'real me' to 'real you' level.

Yes, I am looking for a 'thrill me to the core' person, but in the meantime I would be happy to hang out with someone who fits my criteria, enjoys laughter and wants to explore playtime and serious time with an interesting guy . . me !

when I find someone who interests me . . similar likes & dislikes we begin having fun but I often find that somewhere between 2 weeks and three months I find my level of interest falling off; the reason is not as simple to explain as 'intellect' or education, but rather it is 'whether or not I am intrigued by how your brain works'. That matters as much as a healthy libido and love of golf.

my needs are:
- big brain
- big libido
- big sense of ha+ha
- big heart
- big bed

...oh . . and, I should mention I am direct

perhaps these words (above) do not fully explain; I DO want to meet someone where the magic lasts & lasts; I was simply pointing out that I often find that impressive early connections have a short shelf life - not because I don't want them to last, but because the 'secret sauce' or 'fairy dust' is absent - that mix of brains & caring, the mix of lust & learning, the laughter & play . . on a very high level is challenging to find.

I don't want to settle, I don't want to have half-measures for me or for a partner; I want the full meal deal. That said, something that looks really good in the beginning must be an incredible combo to pass the early tests any budding relationship is put to. That means getting deeply to the core of someone, and . . letting one's guard down so a counterpart can get just as close . .

I've had the bar set high . . found the magic 3 times in my life. Having recently revisited 'possibilities' with one of them I am now convinced that memories are an illusion based on who we were back when - I am interested in that brand of magic with someone where we are sure of who we are right now. Microscopic truth telling is a must - and in a spirit of reciprocity . .

uh . .huh .. that's it !

care to explore if you 'n me might be it?

I am intrigued by interesting people with a grip on life who are comfortable in their own skin - stable is good, free spirited is good - so is spelling and grammar. I write every day and publish my writing on a blog; I publish a weekly business newsletter and write a monthly column for a business magazine. I am doing a book that is a work in progress. My business interests are shifting from commercial real estate brokerage to development work which is a lot of fun. Transitions in my work and pleasure pursuits is deliberate based on an analysis of where my future will be spent (location), how I will spend my work time/play time together with some pretty clear ideas on the lifestyle I want to create with a partner.

I am currently in Calgary, Alberta (western Canada)but spending an increasing amount of time visiting Maui. I expect, over the next 3-5 years to make Maui my primary residence. I've stated Kihei as my location because that has been my 'place to stay' each time I visit but I am leaning more toward Kula country in terms of where I would like to live once I move. My last visit was October 2009 for a couple of weeks ... next trip ... to be announced . .

my musings are posted daily at: http://markmusing.com - you can follow me on Twitter @ http://twitter.com/MarkIsMusing ; also, daily thoughts @: http://frameyourmessage.com/home/dailythought.html

walking a beach, a round of golf, dining in/out, movies, live entertainment, coffee and a lemon square at Grandma's cafe ...