A bit about me: I am extremely individualistic, iconoclastic, affectionate. I am into extremely catchy music such as Britpop, psychedelic, glitter, post-punk, trip hop, big band/swing, rockabilly, etc. I am also strangely indestructible. I'm a non-jealous creature; I'm not into possessing anyone. I have a decent job, a decent car, a bunch of musical instruments you are welcome to mess around with, a love of cooking, a fairly varied collection of music I love to share, an appetite for new and interesting adventures, and a nice place to live in a very nice neighborhood. Want to know more? Ask!

I need someone who is as irreverent, playful, and free-thinking as me. But I really need someone strong. Not just confident. But physically strong, as in the type that usually breaks her playmates. I need someone who loves to wrestle in a playful, affectionate, but full strength manner. I'm not talking WWF stuff here... I am into what is more like rough cuddling I suppose. You know, listen to music and get entangled and roll around and squeeze the life out of each other. So I need a girl who is NOT a waif. I need someone who likes this sort of mischief; not someone who just pretends to be tough. I seek a big boned girl with strong legs. VERY strong legs. Insanely strong. Someone who can handle a creature as impossibly unbreakable as me. And it should go without saying that she should be very sincere, and reasonably sane (i.e., most people have some mild neurosis or another, but if you are psychotic or have some serious personality disorder, please stay away, I am allergic to you and it will only end badly).

I wish I could find someone to romp with who is

-- Severely physically strong and durable (and honestly aware and confident about it)
-- Sincerely fond of playing rough.
-- Mentally sharp, fully-formed and fierce of mind.
-- Emotionally mature (a must!), psychologically stable and secure (within certain acceptable tolerances).
-- Sincere, non-flaky, non-patronizing.
-- Free-minded, eccentric, silly, and understanding of others who are that way too.
-- A practitioner of common courtesy, decency, and respect for others' feelings, and not just pretending to be that way.
-- Self-aware and up-front about her desires, kinks/preferences, and fetishes/needs; and aware that there is likely to be a learning curve for BOTH of us that will require patience and feeling one another out.
-- Truly interested in me and not just looking to try out a disposable alien boy for a brief fling.

* Monogamous commitment acceptable but not absolutely required. I am flexable and adaptable to whatever your needs and wishes might be.

** I refuse to take the "PlentyofFish Compatibility Predictor" test because some of the questions are very poorly chosen and don't have any answers that actually would apply to me. Take question #9 for instance. "I want my children to speak English." I don't have children, and I don't want children! And even if I did, *I* speak English, so of course I would want them to; how the hell would we be able to understand one another if they didn't? I would also love if they also spoke other languages too, but that's optional.

I don't know what I'd do on a first date; it would depend on our chemistry, preferences, whims, etc. I'm not interested in constraining ourselves to the typical "nice dinner someplace"... I'd rather do something non-forced and spontaneous. I'm 36, I'm not interested in pretending to be someone I'm not. I'd rather chat online/on the phone for a while and get to know one another, or maybe just say "what the hell" and meet up and hang out without making structured plans, so that we can be spontaneous and adventurous and make decisions on the fly.