I truly believe in love and feel as though I have a deeper understanding about the abstract emotion than many men will care to venture. However the problem lies in finding and securing a woman who is unbreakably feminine and knows how to maintain her behavior and traits as a lady and NOT those of a man. You may laugh and snicker, but it's true, and the current success rate of loving and healthy relationships are near doom as a result; just like the industries of entertainment that help promote and create relationship demise.

Yes, maybe we are loving each other, but NOT long enough…just long enough to love until something intervenes and destroys the foundation…ultimately giving something else higher-power and allowing it (the "intervention") to define the overall chemistry of the love and foundation we're supposed to be building while disallowing such interferences to bring down the entire kingdom. It is as though history itself has not taught us a thing or we're refusing to learn from it. I speak of "we" because it obviously takes two to make it happen, and as long as I am right and you are wrong or vice versa—the point is that it still has no life or energy and "we" are not working.

That's okay (in truth) because it takes time to work out the bugs and get things in line with one another and the universe…However, there's a problem with being able and willing to work it out and not sabotage one another due to failure of speaking the truth through expressions. Most of these so-called truths come out as angry, hurtful and NOT what one truly intends to say…but the heat still rises and "the emotional and physical state" totally removes the "rational and logical state;" and we end up somewhere like here (the "Personals") sharing façades and half-truths with the idea that someone will share their 15 minutes (or so) of fame in the name of finding someone new and interesting.

About Me: I am logical and rational, and the last person to give up on love. I can associate and differentiate when bad emotions and vibes lead to misunderstanding(s), and advocate that the problem needs to be handled and squashed "when it appears" rather allowing it to grow into something that over-exaggerates itself when one has one too many drinks and feels that it is time to finally handle the issue "after it appeared," and by that time it is normally too late. Therefore, I am NOT the drama! I believe drama is a category that is broadcast on television and in movies, and that is normally where it remains as far as I am concerned.

My Interests: Easy…someone who can read and understand what I just stated; and understand that it has nothing to do with the "act" and everything to do with the "action." A woman may state how much she desires and wants a good man, but when and if he enters her life—something else happens and the desire slowly fades into comfort; and that comfort slowly leads to abandonment, disrespect, cheating and everything that initializes her desires for the excitement and the thrill of the catch again. A woman may also state, "Say what you mean and mean what you say!" BUT she falls into breaking her own bylaws and tries to escape the crime by emotionally stating, "I don't know why I did…I'm sorry!" or tries to flip it to something else that has no association (even by principle) to weaken the man's understanding via knowing he does not want another man getting any parts of his love with her.

In essence, using what she has between her legs as a weapon!!! Snickering again…Well, I personally don't believe I am a rabbit (because I am a man) and waving a carrot on a stick doesn't appeal to me because that unique part of a woman's structure is only heaven to me, and a place that gives and also takes life. It's beautiful work of nature and it should be respected…when she uses it for a weapon she has lost respect for herself and her integrity and value lessens each time she commits the act. I actually want the same thing(s) you want (but from a man's prospective!) Yet the problem also lies in "wanting" rather "needing." Therefore when you "need" a good man…I'm waiting in the shadows. If you "need" a great male friend…look to the same shadow.

Maybe your situation needs only someone with ears and someone who can and will provide intellectual advice and suggestions that may heal your damaged relationship before it is too late.

Talk about something extremely interesting. I'd prefer my date dress down and not exploit her body so that my mind stays on her mind and not her features. I believe if one can have a wonderful day by simply being plain; it is possible there are lasting qualities that real relationships need there. I would also participate by not "blinging" and taking her focus from who I am (and not what I am wearing, money and what I drive--as if any of those things have stopped so many women from getting screwed, played and dumped anyway! Do the math!!! In the words of Dr. Phil: How's that working for ya?)

Such a non showboat date would produce and effect that wouldn't end with "getting laid" due to physical attraction along with a boost from an alcoholic beverage! It produces the kind of moment where both know they have to respect themselves and earn their way honestly into bed with each other by deserving it (meaning: loving each other)--rather just doing it because of being impaired or too excited too soon!

Trust that Lust is not the answer and never a solution to a problem. A first date is a problem because it is not a solution nor answer. The solution to the problem stems from the results; then the answer to the problem changes it to a situation. The situation itself is the outcome that is excepted or not. In essence: Do the math now so that you don't have to later! Math will always be there whether you accept it or not--it is also known as "Chemistry!"