My name is Ray. Im a single father of two kids. My son (15)and my daughter (13) . I am tierd of the usual ways of finding a mate so I thought I would try this. I have entered into a ruteen that has dug a rut so deep that I feel the only way out is with a helping hand from someone special. I am looking for a stable woman that knows what she wants and is willing to let me be the man I am but is also willing to help me be the man I need to be. Not to change me but to compliment her. I would like to find someone who will open herself up to me and share her life with me so I can be part of it and not just a casual part time friend. I am looking for lightning to strike but with out the dark clouds. As for me I am a stable guy that(I am told) has a good sence of humor. I am laid back and dont get exited over the small stuff. To tell you the truth I can be down right goofy. On the other hand I can be serious if the time calls for it. I like doing things with family and friends whatever the occation may be or for no reason at all. In the end I just want to be happy and content with my lady by my side.

I think first time meeting would call for meeting at mutualy agreed upon resturant or coffee house to talk and and see if there is any chemistry. Then if the feeling is right set up a second meeting. With some long phone conversations in between. I find it easier to open up over the phone. Helps to get to know someone better.