**Do us both a favor and read this profile before emailing me, please. Because if you don't and you email me something stupid, I am going to Read/Delete. Sorry, if you can't be bothered to read the profile and annoy me by writing me an email that you wouldn't have written if you read the below, then I'm not going to waste my time responding. You invest a few minutes, I'll invest a few minutes... works well that way.**

Divorced mom to two, writer of short stories and more (I do have a deviantart.com page for those interested in *some* of my writings www.jayderaven.deviantart.com), learning how to play bass guitar, have three tattoos, nostril piercing, do kickboxing two-three times a week and Jiu Jitsu once a week. I am polyamorous - please do not email me telling me how awful I am because I'm poly, do not email me convinced that once I meet you, I will see the "error of my ways" or other misguided attempts to enforce your morals on my life. I do not email serial monogamists trying to convince them to be poly, so do me a favor and show me the same respect. I am not a swinger, either, so please do not email me thinking that I'm going to join your orgy or meet you in a hotel room somewhere for a quick bang. Not being rude, just laying it out on the line.

Looking for someone open-minded to be FRIENDS with (I am not your average woman and like to commune with other open minded people, especially others who are polyamorous). I stay here mostly for the forums and because I have met some really interesting people.

About the "undecided/open" choice under "Want children?" - I do not want and can not have more children biologically; however, I have an open heart and mind towards other's child(ren). Understand that because I do have children - one of them 24/7, my time isn't as free as a childless person's time is - I have to make arrangements to have time without my younger child and that kiboshes quite a bit of spontaneity.

In regards to the Body Type thing up there - I have eyes, see my body type as average (though, I am am anything but average... *laugh*) by the choices offered, but if given the option - "voluptuous" would be a far better description (IMO). I am a woman and a mother - I have hips, thighs, ass - I'm not, nor will ever be, someone with the body of a prepubescent boy with breasts. I posted a full body shot (from summer 2007, I am about 45 to 50lbs lighter as of December 08 - I don't see a huge difference, but other people do, and I've lost 6 to 8 dress sizes) just so no one has any unrealistic expectations.

I love going to the Renaissance Faire (Mount Hope Winery) and love dressing for fun (was a pirate in '06, a Lady in '05...). Love sci-fi, fantasy, horror (books and movies). Love long hair on guys. Enjoy camping, amusement parks, race cars, motorcycles, rock/metal music, ink, etc... I really enjoy going to see friends' bands (Angry Vic, Hangman's Cry, Jekyll's Hyde, Kartune and so on).



Say hello and I will tell you more.

Hmmm, this is getting long, but felt the need to say this:
I've come to the realization that I make an awful "girl" - don't like talking on the phone, rarely wear makeup and am not all that great at applying it, never carry a purse, don't care all that much about jewelry (its nice to have a few pieces, but who needs more rings then they have fingers?) and have just as good a time going out mudding in t-shirt & jeans as I do going out dancing in a skirt and heels... *lol*

Seduction style:
http://www.plentyoffish.com/seductionresults.aspx?result=52g2p5ejx3xpb3unrwakasyb84334

One last thing: If your initial message to me is "Want to meet?" (and I do mean before "hello, I am...") the answer will be no. I don't meet strangers - I don't give my number to strangers. Talk to me, let me get to know you and feel comfortable around you before mentioning meeting or phone number - otherwise, you come off kind of Bundy-ish (and that would be Ted), if you get my drift. :) Thanks!

Hmm... depends. Wouldn't be a "date", but a meeting of the minds... *evil grin*

I enjoy a variety of things and I am very laid-back and easygoing, so we could go with the flow and just do whatever seems like fun.