First: I probably didn't contact you because we were a match. I like something on your profile, thought you'd make a good model, or just wanted to say hello.

Second: I'm seeking a younger woman -- to start a family, lead a quiet at-home sort of life, with all the benefits and comforts of an older, settled, man. She needs to be my muse, and enjoy being the center of my attentions, and she needs to make me hers. A *little* kinky and exhibitionistic is good, wild and irresponsible is not.

Third: I'm an art photographer, and I might contact you if I think you'd make a great model or be right for a project, but can't contact you if you have too many restrictions, so you'll never know what you've missed out on. Not everyone who would like to talk with you is trying to "match" ... they just might want to talk with you. But if you block by age, or photos, or whatever, too bad, some of you would have been great subjects for stunning photos.

Now...

I'm a retired professional, financially secure, and enjoying life without the stress of a 9-5 job, or even having to get out of bed in the afternoon if I don't want to ;)

I've spent the past years raising kids that weren't my genetics, and I realized I want my own, and my own family. So, I'm looking for a younger woman who wants an older man, who's been there, done that and who wants a stable, quiet family life. Realistically that means someone in the 28-36 range. It's just biology.

The simple things should appeal to her, quiet times, small groups of friends, family always first, and a desire to build a life that is centered around the family, not going out, partying, socializing, etc. Designer labels should give her an anaphalactic shock, diamonds are someone else's best friend, and fast cars or thrills are simply something to watch on TV. In fact, wearing cloths at all, or going out should be OPTIONS not requirements in the relationship.

Forget all the buzz words and such. Real is real, and if we match, we'll know. But you won't know, unless you contact me, respond to an email, or go out for dinner, lunch, or dessert.

Usually go for food and a place to talk. Sometimes, to a park to photograph you. Depends on the person, the time of the day, season of the year, and what seems to make sense. But never to clubs, noisy places, or places where conversation is impossible.

Every profile seems to say the same thing --- *BUT* I'm not looking for someone "fun" to "hang out with" and go clubbing, or "have a good time." I'm past that, and have to say, was always a bit more serious than that. Relationships don't involve hanging out with friends, going to bars, or such. They require more work, time, and effort than that. I'm looking for a soulmate, a muse, a long-term lover and mother to my children. I don't care if you have children, bring them along -- they are a part of your life, and if we click, will be a part of mine.

That said... if we realize we are not a match up front, just going out for food, fun, movies, or such is a reasonable way to spend a day/evening. Until that person comes along, staying at home, alone, watching TV is not the best way to spend a life.