I'm a one woman at a time kinda guy, but I'm definitely not interested in those types of relationships that "Have to be going somewhere"... You know the kind I'm talking about... "Look... you need to make up your mind... We're either moving forward or backwards... which is it???" Society tries to stamp us all to fit in the same box dictating how relationships should be....kids, rings, weddings, honeymoon's, money, pets, cars, bedroom sets, etc. Well, how many relationships work under this tiring schedule? The answer is....look around at some of your friends who have these things. Think about this, how many relationships have you been in since high school? Well that depends on your age of course but if your 30 and single now then we can assume you can be about 0-10 in relationships or in that ballpark. What's gonna make number 11 be the one?...I'm not saying everyone is unhappy with it but most are not content.....I work with 30 guys and if one of them shows up genuienly happy and I ask why....they never say, "becasuse im so in love with my wife". Now if they come in upset, 9 times out of 10 its because of the wife. Not saying the woman is wrong in the situation cause it always takes two! Maybe we all just need a different approach...who cares what others think! I hate to sound negative but this is reality...

That type of stuff has nothing at all to do with love... How come you never hear that type of comment from good friends or family members that truly love you?... That's just a power move by one party in the relationship... trying to force something they want on the other party...

What surprises me is the number of people who readily buy into that garbage... I enjoy my life and my freedom too much to step into that pile of dogshit. Most people set themselves up for failure from the start. Guys are just trying to have their cake and eat it too and the girls are pulling power moves to try and reel the fella in. One thing to think about before you commit to a serious relationship is that 3% of all mammals naturally choose and have one partner for life. Beavers are one.....not sure of the others animals but the point is that humans are not in that group!!!!! Soooo, be careful who's star you hook your wagon to.

Call me selfish if you want and mostly I'll agree... It's not that I'm afraid of commitment, I'm very commited... to my own happiness... and I can't be responsible for yours.

Here's where I'll disagree about calling me selfish... The same things I want for myself... I want for you as well... happiness, independence... and all good things... Relationships should enhance your life... not define them...

Here's another assessment... marriage is a contract between two people... So, if marriage is a contract, why are so many people against a pre-nuptial agreement?... Shouldn't one of the most important contracts in your life be clearly spelled out? I would say a prenup is a must for a first marriage/ starter marriage anyways because they last on average under 4 yrs. Argue that all day but those are the facts. be

Of course a pre-nuptial would dampen the romantic fantasy and very few people want to trade romance for reality. Usually it's more women than men who don't want the pre-nuptial paperwork in place.

Couples should not get upset over little things that one or the other does or doesn't do or say... unless those little things were done to intentionally hurt the other person ( which happen alot unfortunately)... There will always be some things that you don't like about your companion.

So if the good outweighs the bad then stick with it and have a BLAST! But if not, maybe consider moving on... Continuing to relive the beatdown over and over again is what often happens and its too bad. That's a true sign of co-dependency. I firmly believe that if you can't be happy when you're not in a relationship... then you can't be happy when you are in one... Learn to be happy all alone... it can be a good time...

Remember, each person loves their significant other in his/her own way. This means I won't love my girl in the exact same way she loves me and vice versa. Some people mistake that by thinking they are receiving no love at all.

Embrace the good times... If the good times for you mean something different then they do for your partner, realize we are all a little different.....so blaming others because they aren't how you want them to be is MY meaning of selfish and shows a severe lack of creativity/ accountability and personal identification... If you're not happy in your own life its easy to blame people, places, or situations for your unhappiness.

Of course I have my own issues I hafta deal with that i'm working on. Sometimes I don't have enough compassion for certain things and I occassionally cheat myself with people because I am scared to open up sometimes and therefore send the wrong signals. Even though I feel I communicate well, I think there is room for improvement. I have been known to pre judge but I think we can all do that every now and then.
A female friend of mine put it best... Couples should be intimate friends 90% of the time and intimate lovers 10% of the time... I really like that kind of thinking... I really love that kind of woman... Strong and independent!!!

We all love the infatuation stage of a relationship... and no matter where we may live there are probably countless people who we could "fall in love" with... but for long term commitment... it's not who I love the most... it's who's bullsh*tbothers me the least...

I realize and graciously accept the fact that some people agree with my thoughts and others despise just about everything I say because it doesn't fit into their idea of a relationship and that's okay...

I'm doing things a little different than most others in regard to relationships... look at what 90% of most people do and do the opposite... It works for me... not easy but well worth it.


I work at the fire dept and enjoy my job but like my off time better. I'd like to retire early to do the things I like on a full time schedule.

I try to look at what most people do and do the opposite and find it can be rewarding but sometimes difficult. I am completely willing to own up to my deficiencies and will also call other people out on there's because no one is exempt and we're all human.....plus its a good chance to be playfully sarcastic and make fun of situations....meaning, i'll be the first one to laugh if you slip on a banana peel in a crowd.

I see a person's age being as transparent as britney spears claim of hating drama queens. I am 30 and I say bring it on! The older I get the closer I am to retirement. I am dedicated to my job but won't miss it when I don't have to do it anymore. Another thing about being 30 is that I can eat my dessert before my dinner if I want to!

I look for certain signals that will determine what a first date should consist of....I can hang with dinner at home or go out and share some laughs over drinks. We can go alone or meet up socially at happy hour or at the beach....gotta keep your options open!