| sometimes-miss The Starfish:
Available: One decent guy. |
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| City |
Parsippany New Jersey |
| Area |
United States |
| Ethnicity |
Caucasian |
| Sign |
Aquarius |
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Height | 6' 4" (193 cm)
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| I am Seeking a |
Woman
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Who is Looking
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Friends |
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| Smoker? |
No |
| Do you drink? |
Socially |
| Marital Status |
Divorced |
| Profession |
Mad scientist |
| Smarts |
Some college |
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| Do you want children? |
Undecided/Open |
| Do you do drugs? |
No |
| Do you have children? |
No |
| Do you have a car? |
Yes |
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| | About Me |
| | Disclaimer: I'm not great, but I'm decent. And I really am just looking for friends right now; sure, I'd like more eventually, but I'm not ready to jump in with both feet yet.
First, I will send you a picture privately but will not post one here. If your mail settings require a picture, I cannot email you unless you email me first; a hello is all it takes. I'll explain why I don't have a picture up a bit further on. So let's move on a bit.....I've got a great steady job, the kind where I'll never be unemployed, make enough to live quite comfortably, can relocate if necessary, only work 3 12 hour shifts a week and have a flexible schedule so I have lots of free time when I want it. I'm kind of tall, average looking (hey, there's nothing wrong with that, most people are). I'm reasonably bright, patient, considerate, tend to remember dates and other sometimes useless trivia, and I know how to dance should the occasions arrive so it would be nice if you do as well. I tend to lean towards traditionally classic styled clothing (mostly because when you're built like a football lineman, you can't just walk into a store and buy stuff that's on the cover of this month's GQ). I like kids and animals of all kinds (although if your kids ARE animals, well that might be a bit much to take!)
I love speed; I drive a sports car, and an SUV, but at this point have given up on my beloved motorcycle, after my knee injury doesn't make it a real good idea anymore. So, I often take the car out for a long drive 'to nowhere in particular' on a nice day or train rides just for fun, and look forward to searching out some really good roller coasters to quench my desire for going fast.
If you drive a sports car, that's a plus, especially if I can fit into it 8>). But at 6'4" I can't even get into a Miata, much less drive one, being tall does have it's limitations sometimes too.
Surviving the emotional trauma from many years of sexual abuse when I was a kid left me with a seriously warped sense of humor, and as a result, I'm often able to find a humorous side to even the most serious issues. They say what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. I don't know about that, but it often makes you funnier. When life's difficulties seem unbearable, you can either laugh, or cry. I prefer to laugh. Even if people think it's crazy. I know some people will think it strange that I share the knowledge of being molested with the world; but I think the greater tragedy would be to try to pretend it never happened, while some child somewhere is being abused every day. For all of you who read this; please watch your children, well, watch all children. If something seems not quite right, examine it closely; because if something seems 'fishy', it probably is, and should be checked out.
O.K., now for the section that usually scares the uneducated away. I don't have a picture up because I've been blackmailed over this in the past; I've been cursed, or blessed depending on how you see it, with a penchant for crossdressing. Yes, I like to dress up like a girl sometimes. It's something left over from what happened to me as a kid. It's not my fault, and I didn't choose it. And, it's really not a big deal, it's not like I do it all the time. They're just clothes, and we all like to try on other roles sometimes, but as adults we seem to lose that willingness to try different things. Besides, it doesn't define everything that I am, any more than the fact that I like to race cars does. It's a part of my life, but not a major part. But it's still something that you should know about before we get to know each other better, because if you're one of those unenlightened people who think I'm some sort of freak then we probably won't get along anyway.
So if you're a woman who can accept a guy who likes wearing pretty clothes as much as you do, please write. After all, you've probably been wondering where you can find a guy who: 1. Understands why you spend so much time working on your looks, 2. Knows why you need 200 pairs of shoes, 3. Is willing to go shopping with you without complaining, 4. Actually does housework, 5. I'm willing to listen to you if you're willing to listen to me. Communication is the most important part of a relationship, and I don't get why people don't understand that. (Oh, and please, no men. I don't like men, am not attracted to men, and I certainly wouldn't want to have any kind of romantic relationship with any. Thank you for your restraint!) I'm looking for friends as well as a potential wife, but you don't have to be both. Having either will be a wonderful change. Although, you might find it rather interesting to have both boyfriend and a girlfriend in the same person.
What do I need out of a relationship? Well, to start, a very good friend. One who's not bothered by my penchant for crossdressing, who's willing to discuss it when necessary, perhaps answer my questions about fashion, style, make-up and such when the subject comes up. One who's also not too critical of me when dressed, because, well, I'll never be 'beautiful'. I'll always look like a guy in a dress, my physique is such that there's no hiding that. I won't expect you to take me out 'dressed up', but there will be times when I will want to dress up at home, and it would be nice if you would treat me as normally as possible when I do. No one wants to feel grotesque. Even as a friend, I will want to hold your hand at times, hug you, and if possible sit close together when we are alone. I need affection just like everyone else does.
What would I like? Love. Romance. Affection. Sex. The same thing everyone wants out of an intimate relationship. But at this point, I'm not sure I expect to ever find a woman who will be able to accept who and what I am, so I'm willing to compromise on a lot of those things. And, if there's something about you or your past that you think will be unacceptable to a man, well, you just might be pleasantly surprised. Living with this all my life, I've learned to be extremely tolerant with the circumstances of others. Unless you're a serial boyfriend killer, I won't hold it against you.
So, I'd really like to meet an interesting open minded woman willing to explore all that life has to offer; it's way too short to miss out on anything. Oh, and I'm willing to try most anything you can think of, at least once (as long as it won't kill me).
Hope to hear from you. Thanks for reading my ad. So, if you could, and would be o.k. with a guy who's an occasional crossdresser (and no, even though it might happen by chance, I don't have any compelling need to dress up when you are around, in fact, the more a woman in my life had been around, the less I needed to do it), even as a friend, let me know. We can be friends even if romance isn't in the cards.
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There. That wasn't so bad was it? Hope not. Write and say hello. I'll write back. |
| | First Date |
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I tend to eat out a lot, if you'd like to join me. So, lunch or dinner is fine; I love Italian food, so lets start there! If there's a great Italian restaurant near you, I'd love to try it. And, we can always add more afterwards if we get along together well. Jazz, comedy, movie, theater, music, or maybe just a stroll on the waterfront somewhere if it's warm outside. |
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