I believe in bouquets of hand-picked flowers, tiny candle- lit bistros and silk stockings. I believe in whispers. I believe one act of kindness can change the world and is of infinite value in this 5-second sound byte fast food compassion deficit society.

I believe in holding open doors, pulling out chairs and eye-contact. I believe in laughing till it hurts. I believe in living on the edge. I believe risk is a gift of God, for without risk there can be no exercise of trust.

I believe in the timeless nature of honor. I believe violence is the last refuge of the incompetent, that freedom and love are the only things worth fighting for, and that they are inseparably linked.

I believe in moonlight, fireplaces and...elevators. I believe there are moments when time should stop. I believe the mind of a woman in love is the sexual center of the universe. I believe geometry is just as important as chemistry and that lovemaking should begin with ankles and end with earlobes.

I believe in sandalwood incense, mirrored ceilings, scattered pillows, chocolate, bubble baths, and the power of poetry. I believe a great kiss should make your stomach do slow back-hand springs. I believe a glance can have the primal force of an ocean.

I believe in taking off my armor. I believe in destiny. I believe that for every human being there is at least one perfect other, one exact fit that cannot be denied and when all else fails, gravity itself will inexorably draw them together. In the mean time, I believe in having fun.


WHO ARE YOU?

Have you ever connected with someone on a primal level? Have you given yourself to them completely and selflessly? Passionately and poetically? Have you lived long enough in this world to understand how rare and valuable that connection is?

Have you ever been moved to tears by a piece of music? Or the simple, yet incandescent beauty of a single cherry blossom? If you were given the gift of another's heart, how far would you go to protect it?

Have you been beaten into powder by tragedy, and resurrected yourself by main force of will, because some part of your spirit refused to accept being defined by loss?

Would you rather see Annapurna on a cloudless day, or experience forgiveness? The Taj Mahal, or compassion? Would you prefer kissing all afternoon in a field of alpine flowers or receiving an unexpected love letter?

Have you hurt someone you cared for? Did your disappointment in yourself cause you to change your life, because you never, ever wanted to hurt someone like that again?

Do you listen as much as you speak? Would you trade a child's laughter for diamond ear-rings? Have you ever helped a stranger when it was inconvenient to do so?

What books have you read that had a powerful and profound effect on your perspective? Have you ever been physically aroused by a poem? Are you shamed by tears?

Have you witnessed behavior that outraged you? If so, what did you do about it? How would you define integrity? Have you stuck to your guns when your friends and family sided against you, because you had more trust in your heart than their advice?

Do you have the courage to be honest under pressure?

Given the choice, would you rather listen to opera or birdsong? Are you content with your body, or do you wish to change it? What is the softest thing you have ever touched?

What are your dreams and goals? Do you have concrete plans to achieve them? How do you feel about public displays of affection? Would you describe yourself as a sensual person? What brings you joy? Are you drawn more strongly to beauty in nature, or human creativity?

Would you like to discuss these things and more?

I am not perfect, neither am I ordinary. God did not design a heart like mine to remain alone or to be watered down by multiple relationships that lead no-where. The love I have to give will find its home in one very unique and priceless heart. I KNOW you're out there... we belong together! How long do you intend to keep us waiting?

That would depend entirely on the wishes of the woman I am with, but I would hope that it would include really good food in a quiet setting, deep, heartfelt communication, and some activity that is enjoyable to us both- preferably something previously not experienced by either. I like physical activity, but I am just as comfortable in a more laid-back atmosphere. No sex on the first date. Even if the chemistry's smokin hot, waiting until the moment is exactly right only makes it better. If we're both really looking for a serious long term relationship, whats the rush? How we connect defines everything else. After that, the growing understanding that something powerful, electric and vibrant is happening between us; that James Brown "I FEEL GOOD!" sensation at a cellular level. A date that ignites a connection that will not end until my heart stops beating... and then finds me in the afterlife...