Have to update this after some experience on this site. First, thank you to all who have taken their time and energy to converse or meet. I?m not at all opposed to going out and having a swinging time (define as you will), but I would prefer at some point a deeper connection.

Priorities in no particular order follow: Having a lifestyle is important to me and that?s all a tool called money means to me. It is not a way of keeping score. It doesn?t impress me in any extreme, in abundance or lack. It?s just a lifestyle tool. For me that means having the ability to pursue a livelihood and certain physical and emotional pleasures beyond a work schedule. I choose to be in a business that brings light to the most destitute people on earth. What you do with your life is your business. One of my favorite people is an executive at a big oil company (I?m fairly certain she?s going to hell, though) and she is an amazing woman, but no more impressive than the young single mom with the beautiful tattoos (I don?t happen to have any) who waits tables. In addition to a physical attraction, our priorities have to fit for us to fit on a meaningful level. Nothing more. If we meet that is wonderful; if we go through this life never knowing each other then that is perfect too.

My spiritual path is very personal and won?t even enter into a conversation unless you bring it up. It will be transparent to you. It will mean only that I would never judge you or show up with a list of aversions and required standards (try not to bring your own?). You can be as bad as you want ? OK, maybe save that for the third date ( joking!). By all means feel free to call me on my own BS; I have it I assure you. You get the point.

We will both know if it?s working early, probably during the initial five minutes of a first phone conversation. Not always but usually. What do you think? Call me and let me tell you why you?re still single (again, joking ? mostly).

It does sadden me somewhat to see 40-something women desperately holding on to cute. It never works out, ask your friends. Why not let yourself be beautiful as you are. I have gone out with women from this site in a very broad age range. Truly. It even surprises me when I think about it, but youthful exuberance, an appealing trait, knows no age limit. The body may age but aging in the mind is an option.

No credentials are required to prove you?re inquisitive and capable of making certain intellectual effort (a big turn on for me), but I do find I have more in common (and more connection) with well-educated women, often with graduate degrees.

I live in LA , the Napa Valley and West Africa. That makes me GU to most (unless you happen to live in those places too, I suppose), and there are very few women who could make this work in the long term. I understand. Again, if it?s meant to work out it will - a connection on a deeper level.
(the headline is from a poem by ee cummings - read it and let me know your thoughts)

How about a drink after work or a coffee on the weekend. We can discuss the first date after that, maybe. You can ask me anything