November 19 2009

I think it's time for another update. I'm feeling a little more serious this time. Another birthday has passed and naturally that can make you stop and take stock. The dating scene really is THAT bad here in Vancouver - it makes me shake my head frequently, but you know I have an appreciation for it as it is making me stronger and much clearer about what I want for myself. I am looking for friendship as it should be the foundation of any potential relationship but I AM looking for someone who has a relationship as the end goal.

What am I bringing to the table? I am honest, genuine, kind, don't take people for granted, strong and independent with the right mix of shyness and vulnerability. I sometimes will buy your coffee or drink. I am athletic and tomboyish but love to rock heels and a great outfit when warranted. I am interested and love to learn and to listen, but can hold my ground in a debate. I love to snowboard and get along well with guys, but am quite content to do my own thing. I can't wait to find someone to hang out with and to make meals together while we drink wine. I will likely amuse you. I know that I am responsible for my own happiness but am willing to let you make me happy sometimes too.

I'm feeling rather Koi.... ha ha I kill me, I'm so punny!! Yes I will most definitely stop right there. Seriously though, good thing to use points on, a new profile theme to go with the imminent editing...

So lately i've seriously been pondering becoming a vegan or vegetarian at the very least. If you like your meat, DO NOT read any PETA materials and keep your head firmly buried in the sand about where you food comes from. Seriously, it made me cry, and I don't think I can continue to cause suffering in another living creature just so I can cook and eat it's flesh. Not only animal cruelty is at issue though, the toll it takes on our environment is pretty heavy and not one we can afford. I really do like a steak though here and there.. i'm thinking if most the time i don't consume meat but when I do I ensure it's free range organic by a small farmer that would be a good compromise... Hmmmm. Yes I'm aware I probably just scared away 80% of guys out there, but I'm willing to take that risk and I think you should also do some research and think about the impact your choices have on our world. I probably wouldn't get along well with someone who doesn't care about these matters anyway.

POF is great fodder for procrastination, but I'm sure most of you are well aware of that. Ugh! I'm going to have to ground myself soon...

Recently, I realized that in my profile I probably come across as pretty bookish and serious. I'm compelled to state that I am not all book stores and cafes, in fact I like to rip it up with good friends and see the sunrise on the beach when indicated. I had a lot of responsibility when I was younger and so now I'm living life how I want. I just don't want to misrepresent myself and feel like someone would be surprised to meet me and find out I have a completely different side to me. I am many things... and I will at times, engage you in serious current event/environmental talk whilst getting a few sheets to the wind! Ha! I also really love the 'techno' community here in Van and one of my favourite things to do is to go dance my ass off for hours to a great dj, so it helps if you don't have to be in bed by 10 pm. Not that I always go out, I do really like to read and chill out, hang out at the beach, watch movies, dine out etc... I like to think I'm well rounded.

June 2009
One of two things is about to occur - I am either going to delete my profile or completely overhaul it. I'm pretty on the fence, not sure how much time I want to invest in searching online, it's summer after all and the sun and all the good things that go with it, beckon. I was playing Ultimate last night and realized how much more I'd rather meet someone on the field, or as I ran along the beach, or as I dragged myself up Grouse Grind. (ha to find someone on the Grind would be awesome, I would be at my worst, if someone could dig me red faced and drenched in sweat... that would be saying something!) That would mean though, we would all have to be a lot more courageous, i'm working on it. I hope everyone is enjoying this so far fabulous summer!

April 2009
Some of my friends say that I'm too independent, that a guy needs to feel needed. I think they think I should adjust some of my behaviour, but I think that I need to be completely who I am and wait for the right guy that appreciates me as I am. This is where my stubborn streak comes out and I refuse to change who I am. I want a man that is confident enough in his own right to not need me to build him up, especially not to pretend to be weaker than I am to do so. I'm not really into stroking anyone's ego, but i'm more than happy to give genuine credit where it is due; I know how to show appreciation! If I was a guy, I would want to be WANTED not NEEDED. As a woman I want a man to do things because he WANTS to not because he has to or feels obligated. To me there is something so freeing about being self sufficient and knowing that you are such without a doubt. That doesn't mean that I don't ever have vulnerable moments; in fact I look forward to a partnership where there is a beautiful balance between looking after your own business and having someone else graciously take some of the weight off your shoulders; just because they want to. Thoughts? Feel free to weigh in on this...

February 2009 - Wow...POF is working it's way to a becoming a commie fish pond. Evidently one is not allowed to 'prefer not to say' anymore or it will list you as a smoker, drug user and drinker by default. I see my profile falling into some void somewhere if this keeps up.

Bastids!! Is there really a limit on characters here? Most people have the opposite problem they can't reach the limit, evidently I excel at exceeding it... ugh, come on...*goes back to editing*

Short version profile below, or just to add to what I already had before.

~I'm a thinker, love to read, love to debate and love to learn.I'm a contradiction, and even downright contrary; I drive myself crazy regularly! At times the goofiest girl around and other times one of the most serious. Feminine, and yet a tomboy - i'll carry my own damn tv up the stairs, lol. Very independent, yet enjoy very much my time with others.

~Being active; snowboarding, trail running, Ultimate, gym, blading, dancing for hours... Whatever I do I love to feel my heart pounding, my skin grow damp with sweat, the pain (yay for endorphins!!) and the rush you get when you challenge yourself.

~I love the city, but i also yearn for the wilds. Every time i get away from the city, i am overwhelmed by the beauty and brightness of the stars. Fresh air and natural beauty can transform your world, your

A few hints:

I hope you can understand if I do not reply due to time constraints, I mean no disrespect whatsoever.

I do have my mail settings set to 100+ characters, because i would hope you really have something to say. Not that it need be a long message, but i hope you are contacting me because you actually were inspired by something and think we would enjoy a conversation. Copying and pasting five words to meet this criteria just makes me laugh as you thwart my intent... *rolls eyes*


About dates..

Honestly, dates make me a bit nervous, so appealing ideas or just low pressure situations have the best chance of an un-date. If we like each other enough or find there is crackling chemistry you may be able to talk me into a traditional date. We'll both know if there is an undeniable connection outside of that, so let's not make it anymore complicated than necessary.