It seems that everyone is always looking for someone to fix them. When did we get so helpless?
Do not message me if you have kids, are with someone, are an emotional wreck, or in debt. Not trying to be mean, i just know what i don't want.

First it won't be called a 'date', i'll call it 'meeting someone'. Secondly, three things will have to come into play, leaving your judgements and past at the door, eagerness to learn something new, and the most important criteria, the will to have fun!
Lets go dancing, lets have convo and a drink, lets do something other than sit down and let an opportunity to learn something new pass us by.