why does sea world have a seafood restaurant??? i'm halfway through my fish burger and i realize, oh man....i could be eating a slow learner


born in berlin. healthy, happy and content. spontanious and unexpected moments are meaningful to me and if you happen to like bill maher or jon stewart, chances are we're getting each other.

immigrated canada as part of a crazy bet/idea when i was 20. lived among other cities in london, stuttgart, toronto, santo domingo and montreal.

although i usually don't make a habit of it, but should you accidentally catch me in your favorites, and i do respect some of your area code like connexions even so they are no longer listed here, p l e a s e, do not panic as i will eventually remove myself again. i only use it as a temporary bookmark til i'm finished 'studying' your profile as there must have been some part, rightfully or not, that caught my eye/interest.

here's some food 4 thought though on the reality of online dating from my perspective.....

we don't see things as they are, we see them as we are;

some years ago, the drama critic and author walter kerr devoted an entire book, the decline of pleasure, to the subject of our modern day obsessive pursuit of enjoyment.

from what i remember, his theme was a simple one: pleasure, like relationships, can never be hunted down like a trophy or planned and scheduled to occur precisely in synchronization with our 'two-week cruise vacation'.

pleasure is a spontaneous happenstance, a sort of happy convergence of seeming randoms. all we can do is remain open to it, welcome it when it comes and accept, as with the butterfly analogy kerr used, that it is a rather infrequent event.

pof or online dating in general could proof to be such convergence; that delightful discovery that another person somehow carries with them the substance of pleasure, enjoyment and delight.

pleasure comes, of course, in many forms: recreation, shared creativity or interests, exchanges of sensual experiences like seeing a movie or dining together and, quite obviously, sex. yeah, i know i know, a touchy subject on here. though made without the reference of carrying around a pocket book of unfulfilled fantasies.

an energetic overlay always triggers a role casting by each person which defines the other person potentially as someone with whom enjoyment can be derived and shared.

some things we gather in with our senses give us pleasure and enjoyment simply because of what they are; some mysterious amalgam of symmetry, balance and grace which pleases us.

we can feel this in the presence of a picture, a work of art or nature, even for a mundane product such as a car or piece of furniture.

beauty defies analysis because it touches our sensory perceptions and seems to proceed directly to the right side of the brain, our intuitive storehouse.

as a bit of music, the scent of flowers or the feel of grass on our bare feet pleases us, another person can engender this sensory response.

we enjoy their presence because they please our senses; we find them beautiful.

despite the delight we feel though, this connection may not be in itself a solid base for a partnership in the full sense.

it can of course be fun to be seen in such a way; being admired or adored at any age is a very rewarding sort of feedback. but this response is, as noted, a sensory one which functions independently of any other capacity to share space or harmonize personalities.

while it contributes a lovely romanticism or at least, a sort of tender blindness to any relationship, it can also overwhelm our senses where as other, more basic discordancies may be ignored or sublimated; discordancies that can eventually break through the fog of fantasy and cause any relationship to erode away again and again into disappointment and bitterness.

hence, us being here, it will be an adventure to see if such underlying incompatibilities are being temporarily ignored or not.

having said that, let the casting process begin...let the possibilities here be endless and lets experience'em in this lifetime, facing the world in the end side by side, back 2 back and hand in hand....though without handcuffing our souls, so 2 speak.

good luck with judging this or any other book on here by its cover for the question of paperback vs. hardcover version will only be answered when we make real time eye contact.

ps: knowing and understanding how busy, uninterested or inundated with mail some of you are, this invitation here is yours to go after subst.....

genetically engineered food/coffee and parking lots are not on my to-do list...where ever it takes us, i believe in an unrushed and mutually enjoyable time which allows us to share what makes us unique, how we decompress, goals/aspirations, hobbies, taste in music, etc etc...