I KNOW THIS IS A LONG BIO; BUT AS I'VE TRAVELLED DOWN THE POF STAIRCASE I'VE LEARNED A LOT AND HOPEFULLY WHAT I'VE WRITTEN WILL HELP PEOPLE NAVIGATE THROUGH HERE. WHAT I'VE WRITTEN APPLIES TO BOTH SEXES FOR THOSE WHO THINK IT ONLY APPLIES TO WOMAN.. I'm looking for a good serious relationship on here; but I'm starting to have my doubts about do people really want to get off. Even have talked to those on intimate encounters thinking they may be a little more honest; nope. Not what I'm looking for; but figured I'd give it a try since I'm getting no where fast on here. But I do have one question for you ladies; why is it some of the most provocative photo's are on the dating site and there the ones who block those who have contacted someone on intimate encounters. And for those woman who don't know this most woman on intimate encounters are looking for the same thing you are; a good long term relationship..They just made sex there priority..why I don't know but they did.. Maybe they just lack the confidence they need to believe someone could really care for them..Since I seem to be finding a lot of ladies whose past is abuse; whether verbal or physical..

As I stumble through the maze of POF I think I know why so many woman are still on here; and that is expectations are too high..Your looking for fireworks and explosions on a first date. It is a blind date after all; and all you can hope for is one; is that you are physically attracted to the man and two you are emotionally attracted.. And if those are there you now have something to build on; which is what you should expect from a blind date.. And ladies we should know within the first few minutes if were attracted or not; Do the honourable thing; if you were suppose to go for dinner; change the plans and go for a coffee; if you feel nothing..be fair..there seems to be far to many woman who seem to enjoy going out for dinners..be fair to the man your meeting if there's nothing there..WE BOTH NEED TO SHOW EACH OTHER A LITTLE RESPECT ON HERE..

And the reason for all of this; is probably everyone thinks the grass is greenier on the other side..So I will share a story back in my married days my ex wife use to think Lindsey Buckingham of fleetwood mack fame was the cats meow; funny I'm in L.A acting class and Lindsey Buckinghams girlfriend is in the class; and every now and than I feel a set of eyes on me; and who can it be but Lindsey's girlfriend checking me out; for I was now the cats meow..moral of the story there is no greenier grass.

So what I can tell you is I'm a kind caring honest sincere loving sensitive compassionate man WITH A QUICK WIT great with the one liners..loves to laugh at myself or the situation..I also love to cuddle; hold hands; hugs, all the positive things in life. A hug is positive reinforcement. I want someone who likes to be physical; whether it's holding hands or hugs; lying in bed together wrapped in each others arms. In a nice loving embrace. I know as kids we were taught not to talk about these things but it makes no sense to date someone that doesn't like to hold hands or hug or cuddle. I also believe that a relationship is about us being equal were partners in life. No one is the boss; we make decisions together as one. And if I'm in love with you; you'll know it; it won't be the best kept secret in town. I also know that a relationship is not about what I want; but what I'm willing to do for my partner; and what I want to give to my partner; and recieve the same; there is no I in a relationship. I love music 60's 70's 80's 90's and now; love to dance; still young at heart and playful. I've just finished a script on the kennedy assassination that I'm very proud of plus alove story between a six hundred year old vampire and a modern Lady ....

PS Ladies one of the complaints I hear from most woman; is why did he add me to his favorites and not write. and the answer is very simple; a favorite list is like a smile: I send it out and you return with a smile back and leads to a conversation between us. Just think of a favorite list as the same; by putting me on your favorite as well it tells me your interested too. One more thing..I love to talk on the phone.As much as I do love to talk on the phone it should be about who we are not how much money is in my bank or so forth..this isn't sugar daddy.com..And I really do believe in meeting asap; talking is nice; but a meeting tells you whether your physically attracted or not. I think it's one of the things missing from this site is human contact. Your talking to a machine; and it's probably why so many people are stuck on here. There's no human contact with the person they've just met..For some it's easy to talk on here for other's it's not.. And while your talking on here.. a person can look at your site and give you the answers they think you want to hear. So are you really meeting someone you have things in common. All I can say for myself is I'm pretty much a straight shooter; no bull; so if we talk on the phone; I'll try not to impress you with stats or figures; I'll just tell you who I am and what I'm about; and hopefully you'll do the same; tell me who you are and what you want without me asking; and let; you and me decide in what we've heard; if were worth dating. Even though I've written I'd love to have a child at least one; because I do love kids. With out the woman you can't have a child. so first comes the woman to love than maybe comes a child. so it's not the end of the world if you don't want kids.

A first I think should be dinner with some fine wine and good conversation to really find out about each other... for the many Ladies who compliment me on my Bio for it's honesty..I thank you..But I wrote it from the heart; about affairs of the heart..I think It's silly as we head off into our twilight years that people are writing about traveling and this and that..and all it takes is one medical problem; for you or one of your kids; and where's your lover; whose looking to travel; now that your being held up..gone gone gone .. that's why i talk about affairs of the heart because that is what's important not i love to travel or canoe...But what I'm looking for and who i am ..and this point was made even more dramatic as this week august 25 2008; I lost a sister in law to cancer..totally unexpecting; she never found out she had it till about 7 weeks ago...brian