For dinner one night recently, I made a rare beef steak with onions and cremini mushrooms. I served it with a reduction of merlot with a side of spinach sautéed with butter and a croissant. ...For one. When I finished eating, I curled up in front of the fire with a good book - Madame Bovary, I think. Then I spent some time working on a volunteer project and possibly returned some emails.
I am eclectic, stable, smart, forthright, happy, well educated, sensual, , outdoorsy, indoorsy, DEFINITELY NOT A COUCH POTATO, well read, a bit geeky. I’m full of dichotomies, analytical and intuitive, shy and outgoing, spiritual and skeptical. Gray matter is something I understand well. I am well connected in the community, artistic, fiscally conservative and socially liberal. Despite a fairly impressive list of professional accomplishments gathering dust, I consider parenting my 2 incredible (young) children my most important accomplishment. This is barely the pinnacle of the iceberg of who I am.
I am an INFP on the Myers-Brigs Type indicator. I am not a shrinking violet or a wall flower, but I am not a center stage person. I love to entertain, and my ideal co-host will be more of an extrovert and the host of party. I am perfectly content to take my kudos in "yum, this is fantastic!" Trust me, whether it's the steak above or a birthday cake with French butter cream, you better have a metabolism that doesn't quit, know how to control your portion size or exercise a lot, or you will gain weight around me. It's not that I cook unhealthy food. It's just that it's REALLY very good. I have a friend who threatens to leave her husband for me. Though, neither of us is inclined that way. There are lots of vegetables and a huge variety. If you have a very narrow list of the foods you will eat, please don't call. Food is an art. I am a bit of an artist, though my medium of choice for the last 15 years or so has been food. Maybe I ought to pick up a paintbrush again for something other than a wall or woodwork!
So in answer to why is an attractive woman dating online; I telecommute and work freelance. My colleagues are mostly in New York, Chicago and Washington DC, so I don't meet many people through work and need to broaden my horizons a bit. All my good friends are married and have married off all their eligible bachelor friends. Most of their newly divorcing male friends are basket cases or worse.
Compatibility in our maturity is more important than age. Mr. Right is roughly 37-42, nice, well educated, professional, stable, someone who would enjoy many of the same things I enjoy: travel, art, great food, good books, learning, hiking, camping, kayaking, great conversation, experiencing life, being involved in the community, cooking, entertaining, walking, swimming, music - most types, being analytical, passion, a great belly laugh.
He should not be rigid and closed minded. Not prone to hatred. His sports interests involve running, throwing, kicking, batting, etc, and less steering and accelerating. He may not be a season ticket holder to the symphony, ballet, etc, but he doesn't think this is "stupid." (ok, hammer time, gentlemen. If you get this far and haven't understood that the whine of autoracing would drive me nuts, then you now know. He does not put forth his form of transportation as a statement about himself, I don't care what he drives unless it perhaps gets better than 90MPG and can safely transport children - That might be a vehicular statement worth discussing. He does not take pride in being a redneck. He may enjoy a glass of wine or a beer, but knows when to stop. I tolerate no drugs whatsoever.
I understand and appreciate luxury. I enjoy champagne, caviar and truffles but happily live within my means. How about you?
Forgive my negativity. I have a bit of a negative template for this process. I settled once, which landed me here and will not repeat that mistake. I am judging prospective suitors against what they shouldn't be. I have a pretty good idea there, but I don't know what he should be, so I'm working with the knowledge that I have and using a process of elimination. I, like every true adult, have some quirks that make me interesting.
I have circumnavigated the globe and have passport stamps from every continent predominantly in the northern hemisphere. I correct my kids' grammar and they will speak proper English come heck or high water. They can set the table and clear it off. They say please and thank you, travel, know which fork to use and have attended the symphony, ballet, live sporting events, art, history and science museums. I do the same.
I make very strong coffee in a French press, every morning. Breakfast may be my favorite meal of the day, though I don't care much for the morning rush. Very few things in my house come out of a readymade box. I take the time to do things the right way. This is how I am searching for Mr. Right. I am taking my time to do it the right way. I will fish until I am an old and lonely woman if I have to. If you visit my profile more than a couple of times, drop me an email. You may find an interesting and verbose (who me?
) return email. Tell me what you're reading, currently.
If you lead with sex in your initial contact I will not return the email! Forget it! It doesn't matter how sexy you say I am. To those of you who are mildly shocked that I have to add this codicil, so am I. But frankly, those of you who will do that probably haven’t read to the bottom paragraph.
Surprise me. Give me a hint on what I ought to wear, though. I don't want to show up for rappelling in an evening dress or at a semiformal party in jeans! Make it somewhere we can talk and get to know each other.
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