Yep, I give away my roses all the time. Why keep them? They don't make me any money, they aren't here for my enjoyment! They are there to make others happy, so give your roses away today! Make someone's day.

Hi there! I guess I never wanted to write this, but I'm now a veteran of POF, passed 1 year here. Perhaps because like every one else I long for the same things. Stability, quite times, family, love, kindness warmth of a guys arms around me when I'm facing good times and bad. I'm not willing to accept anything less than the man who excites me in all ways. These are some of the things I've found in the last year:

Some amazing profiles, some well written, some moving, some with spelling errors but yet moving and well written. All of which I've enjoyed and taken several hundreds of hours to read.

Some of the best phone calls ever, some repeated, some not.

Some of the nicest people in the world, and yet .... well lets keep it positive.

I have found the favorites becomes more of a "rating" system, than a useful tool. I personally was up over 100 till I went through each and every one checking to see if they had written within the last week or so. Down to 6 or 7 now! I've also found that the favorites being a 'rating ' sends a wrong message. If you have too many, men will not write, if you have too few men will not write. If you haven't written don't bother to put me on your favorites, you'll find I maintain my list of friends.

Does this make me a "player"? To some I suppose. I flip flop between dating and long term. Don't we all date and it turns into long term if it's right? I've expressed a serious interest in two people over the past year, been shot down by both. I would rather be single than to wish I were (stole that from one of the well written profiles I've read). For now I'm doing what my mother told me to do "play the field". Although like most women and maybe some men, I was very uncomfortable at first "dating". With all the scary things out there in the world. Now I've slipped quietly into knowing I'll be ok, and I'm happy with myself and these dating times. I know they probably won't last forever. I'm good with that too. But each new person I meet is exciting and fun!

And "he" still eludes me. He doesn't have to be all the ideal things below, but he will possess some of these traits. It will take us a long time to get to know one another, that's the exciting part of getting to know you. I may have very well already met him and just don't know it yet. Sometimes these things creep up on you. And sometimes it's instant. But I am human and won't give up hope. I will keep up my search and countless hours till I find you.

I'm a 40 something tall attractive blonde with an amazing smile, a keen wit and sense of humor, and the ability to set a person at ease. I am fun, intelligent,active woman who loves many things, from the arts to all kinds of music, to children and animals, and the outdoors. I enjoy discovering new restaurants and experiencing fine food, and well-made drinks. I also love conversation in cozy places like coffee houses or alone at home on the couch. LOL I'm a great animal lover, dogs, cats, rabbits all occupy my life right now.

As refined as some of my tastes are, I also have a taste for the completely silly and off-the-wall, hence my crazy sense of humor. I do have a very serious side also, one I don't always like to show, unless I am completely at ease with the right person. I am looking for an open-minded, patient, attractive, body type unimportant, and kind man with an equally great sense of humor, who is goal-oriented, grounded, yet has a sense of adventure. Someone who can make an ordinary day exciting, and someone who would be content just to lay back and relax with me, letting the day waste away. I would like to meet someone who is comfortable with himself, with what he does for a living, his beliefs, but also who is willing to grow and learn new things within himself as well as with a partner.

I think life is a journey, where we are constantly growing, and discovering new things about ourselves. I would like to meet that person who would be willing to teach and learn new things with me. Maybe this is a tall order for some, but you have to at least ask for what you want, don't you think?

What I am looking for in a man...

I'm looking for a strong man, not muscles (although that's a perk)Someone who will make me feel safe and secure when I'm with him and know I'm safe and secure when I'm not with him too.

A man who is passionate about everything he does. Passionate about life, his spouse, his family, his career. A man that with a glance will let you know he belongs to you and you to him.

A stong leader with vision, guidance, compassion, wisdom, intelligence. Someone who is confident, but not arrogant. Someone who is generous, but not beyond his means. Not a control freak, or a micro manager. I know how to run my life, just someone to steer the ship. Someone who will listen to the day to day and be truly interested, but also wants to be a part of the decision making process. Someone who will probably write to me first to get my response.

I want a man who is a good role model for my son, he's the most important person in my life, and part of the package.

I am looking for a man who will cherish and love me every single day unconditionally just as I would cherish and love him unconditionally each and every day.

The man of my dreams is accomplished in his field. He's lonely, but knows how to handle it and is just as happy being single as he is in a couple. (Disclaimer: I don't care how much money you make, I've walked away from millionaires/bijillionairs)

And last, and probably the most important secret you need to know about me. If you really want to be a part of my life, or get a chance to meet me, you must be persistant. I'm a very busy woman, if you wrote to me a few days ago ... I've probably filed it by now. If you write to me everyday, and try to pinpoint me, you'll get my attention.

A friend of mine told me "Its the level of crazy your willing to accept". I've seen a lot of both crazy and sane around here in this last year, and made some dear friends I know will last a lifetime. For all these blessings I'm thankful.

I would love be swept off my feet. What woman wouldn't??? Doesn't have to be expensive, or extravagant. You'll just know how to make me feel special, and I will know how to make you feel special as well.

Male
Age between 40 and 54
Must not be married
Must not smoke