I'm a guy with a great heart and a great life. I have great friends, dreams, good goals, blah, blah, blah....I've loved many women....but only been in love twice. One I married and failed....the other can never truly be mine. I'm hoping to meet number 3 and I'm feeling frustrated because I'm getting older...

I have many, many hobbies and interests. I still have a few things I want to accomplish such as learning a martial art, learning to speak Russian, travel to Russia, and getting my book published. ( Still writing it!)

I'm smart, charming, and funny. You'll probably like me and probably leave with a smile on your face even if we never go past a first date. Which.....happens sometimes.
In my experience...honestly....the ratio of online connections to relationships with people who will stay in your life is about....50 to 1. And that one person is usually a gem ! Actually, so were many of the others..we just werent cut out to be each other's gem. :) Advice ? Keep fishing! Play the numbers. Sites like this one are awesome ! Sooner or later you will connect with your prince. You'd have to live to be 568 yrs old to pull that off trying to meet men in Starbucks or the grocery store.

I've noticed that a lot of women have checked my profile....and not a single one has emailed me. :( One has added me to faves, which is a little hopeful I guess. But only one ? :(



Please take a moment and read this poem. If it speaks to your heart like it does mine, then maybe we need to talk.

The Invitation

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals, or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it. I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true, I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.

I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore trustworthy. I want to know if you can see beauty, even when it is not pretty every day, and if you can source your life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours or mine, and still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, "Yes!"

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done for the children.

It doesn't interest me who you are, or how you came to be here- I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

Ladies, I'm not nearly as perfect a guy as I look like on this profile. But who is ? What I am is sincere, compassionate, wise, and understanding. I've gone through a lot in life and suffered mightily. And it was all necessary to make me the man I am today.I've made mistakes. Huge ones even. Some more than once. I'm not the best looking guy in the world, nor the richest, but what I do offer, money can't buy and you can keep your pretty boys if that's what you really think you want. My mistakes and my flaws make it possible for me to allow you to be human and to have yours and like you all the more for being perfect in your own imperfection. I can overlook or forgive just about anything. I know because I have. ( However, I'd rather not have to. ) I'm very....spiritual, but it's something I keep to myself largely. It's personal to me, my outlook and how I arrive at it. I do believe in God, but I'm in no way religious in a way that can be put in a box and named with a label. I'll attend church now and again, if someone invites me, and I'm repectful of other's beliefs, but church isn't where it's at for me. I do however like to listen to other people's take on these matters. I learn a lot. I admire people of faith, any faith. I secretly wish I could be more conventional but I am who I am and I can't be anyone but who I am. I'm true to myself which allows me to be true to you. I support my people....which could include you....even when theyre wrong. I'm a 100% stand up guy. 150% if that's what's called for. 1000% if that's what you really, really, really need.I'm sort of like that old FTD flower commercial, " When you care enough to send the VERY best. " Ask my friends. There are people on this Earth that are alive today and not dead because I went to the wall for them. And they have for me too. What an amazing bond THAT is.

I don't know why I'm tossing this in but I have an amazing and eclectic bunch of friends that I'm very close too. People that won't let you fall, nor do I let them fall. Acquaintances ? Got a bunch of them too. Too many !

PS: I recently updated this profile after 1 1/2 years or so. Pictures are still old though as I do not have a camera still. I'll have to see what I can do about that.

For me a first date would likely begin casually....like coffee or lunch. See if we click at all, see if there is any attraction...and go from there. I'm pretty likable and I like most people, so anything is possible after that point. Anything at all. I hereby swear that I'm not a stalker, crazy, or going to propose marriage in reply to your second email. :)Ideally, I like to email, chat, or phone a little before we even get to the "date" part. Not forever, but for a little while anyway. It makes everyone's life a little easier and makes for a little less pressure. Find me. I know you're looking for me. Come prepared for an awesome journey through life.