Divorced & happy to be so.
I am a single parent dad so my kids are the most important thing in my life & that will never change.

Please ladies- Do not be shy. It is always nice if you take the plunge to say "Hi" - You are allowed to make the 1st move.
I tend to be flirty, sometimes sarcastic, always cynical & probably talk too much at times.
If I am shown as 'IM User' chances are that I am online (yes - I know that POF does not always get it right & that the IM system has been removed)

Very laid back & would be a beach bum if I had the time! (Or should that be money?) (Available for work as an IT Consultant, PC builder, IT Tutor escort. masseuse, if any one has the need)
WELL - Can not blame a guy for trying! - Work is work & can be a safe way for you to get to say "Hi" with no expectations other than a professional persona.

Not desperate to meet or looking to a ‘life time’ relationship. I do not believe that pushing, rushing or forcing any sort of thing like that can ever work - well not with my view on life. Such things only come with time, trust and being comfortable with someone. Friendship with an open mind and being relaxed about relationships is more interesting and less traumatic than being with a lady who is desperate to find ‘Mr Right’. Friendship & fun being the important part.

Tried being married. Only lasted 20 years. So. --Been there. Done that & had the T shirt. It shrank in the wash!

MESSAGE ME - I will say "Hi" and reply if you do. Even if we do not wish to do anything other we might at least make each other smile. What could be any better than that?
Send a message & you WILL get an answer.
But please, a photo with any contact message or soon after if you will.
Even if there is not one on your POF profile it is nice to 'see' who has messaged me. You have seen me after all.
As I say, if you message me I will reply. The only messages I have ever ignored have been the odd blatant 'scam' in the dim & distant past.

Please Guys. Much I appreciate the compliments I am straight & NOT 'Bi-curious'.
I do not know who passed the info on but I am an 'Honorary Gay' only - BUT I take it seriously & I am PROUD to be so.
(And supporting my students at the time on the issue that the honour relates to almost cost me my job!!!)

Thanks guys - but No thanks.

UPDATE - "No" to guys includes any members of our transsexual community. - As good as you look - and I will be honest, many of you look fantastic. Pre-op, to me is still a guy & not a girl. - no offence taken or meant.
Best of look in your search.

To the GUY who had a go because I blocked him. A transsexual is NOT a lady - especially when said TS is pre-opp.
You really do need to check terms & conditions of your POF account before you make any threats to other users.
Finding a friend who will stand alongside you is not a thing that can be demanded. It is a boon that is earned. So – Chill guy! Be honest.

Yet another update. (Rant?)

No apologies for this causing offence - because it will.

Ladies (and guys who do not take note of the above) IF you message me using 'text speak' you will be ignored.
I may not be the most literary person on this planet but I do expect communication to resemble Queens English - or something close (You know who you are - & I still say that there is no such language as "US English or American English" - )

Anyone who employs 'text speak' for any purpose other than SMS communication indicates that they have an IQ that is probably around room temperature & that any attempt at 'conversation' would be doomed to remain at a level more suited to the mentality of the kind of individual who requires the warning on a packet of peanuts.

Have some respect for your self. Communicate as a human - not a mobile phone!
If you have difficulty with the written word then fair enough. I have difficulty in that area myself so I know what it is all about.
I am by definition 'dysgraphic'. That means I can not copy a phone number, spelling whatever & be sure it is correct. (I turned off the sound prompt or spelling errors on my PC. it sounded like morse code when I typed anything!)

Some 'warnings' / thoughts -
1) - I do NOT eat eggs, milk based foods or garlic.
2) - Night clubs are something to hit a burglar with.
3) - Shopping is NOT a sport.
4) - I pay compliments because I mean what I say - Not because it is expected.
5) - I have more respect for prostitutes than I could EVER have for the press or politicians.
( & not for the reason you might assume)
6) Why is the 'Sun' classed as a News Paper & not a comic?
7) We are all adults on here - or should be. If I say something to you that offends - TELL ME! -- I am a bloke & I do have naughty thoughts. (Might as well nail the box shut & put me in the ground NOW without those in my head)
8) If I am sometimes naughty in what I say - PLEASE - take it as a compliment that I have had such thoughts about you & I feel comfortable enough to flirt with you.
9) Why do folks on here add fishes to their favourites before they have ever messaged
them?
10) Why do those same folks add you to their favourites AGAIN if you delete them after you have messaged them & seen 'Unread Deleted'?
11) Why do some folks feel the need to send message that is 'having a go' because they misread a profile first time through.
12) Why do (those same?) folks feel the need to send an abusive message after a fishie has said (politely) "No Thanks" or "I think you misread my profile"?
( A hint for those that cant handle being told ‘No’ - You need not send me any messages as I now know that this just leads to negativity - I know what I want and if I do not feel this is you please just accept it. Don't throw your teddy out of your pram & cry about it. I will not have any change of heart just because you do that.)
13) What is the idea behind profile pictures that are on their side? Is it to remind folks what it was like to browse the bookshelves in a library?
14) When Moses parted the Red Sea - What happened to all the fish?
15) Why is there an ‘S’ in lisp?
16) Why is ‘Dyslexia’ such a b**ch to spell?
17) If a lady refers to me as a ‘Stud Muffin’ is it so strange that I am puzzled as to why?
18) Why is it wrong to refer to politicians as ‘Lying F**kers’ in court even though people in the public gallery nod in agreement & the same is said by the ‘defence’ out of court?
19) Why is karaoke not yet a criminal offence?
20) Why do I get messages from ladies wanting ‘Intimate Encounter’ who are really looking for anything but?
21) Why do threatening letters from banks always arrive on a Friday?
22) Why can you smell a Mc thingy / KFR / Wampy so far away from the actual building?

Not really what I am expecting to occur if I am honest. I am not looking for anything specific so I do not have any pre-conceived agenda.
Even tough I want to chat & flirt with other friends in cyber space if such episodes lead us to BOTH wish to meet so be it. I am NOT going to decline the privilege of a ladies company on the basis of POF not having a ‘Try Me’ option along with 'Dating', Long Term, 'Fiends' (yes I know) 'Activity Partner etc. (What ever happened to the Photo Exchange & Short Term options?)

Anyway the thoughts about any date will hold true so--------First date has got to be relaxed & for both to see if a second date is desired.
I did have the beach as a preferred place to try for a first meet but having thought long & hard it became apparent that this was not good. For later or for other meets maybe. Well, if all the beaches in the UK are not over run with other Fishies that is. Slightly frustrating when one has a beach as a 'back yard', but then, it does not seem to be over run other than holiday weekends ------