Salutations!

First of all...You may be the nicest guy on earth, but...Please don't contact me if you live too far away... I don't want any 'long distance' relationships...too difficult... ok?

By now I've met quite a few people through this site. Some were 'weird', yes, but some remain pals today. One guy I had a wonderful relationship with that grew to an end - apparently I made him 'think too much'... Who the hell doesn't want to THINK??

Actually, the truth is that I DID learn from that relationship. I learned that there are ways to make people 'think' while at the same time one can limit the input to a tolerable level - sometimes I get very enthusiastic about ideas and people who aren't used to truthfully looking at themselves find that overwhelming. So, basically, I need to be more patient, I guess... Most of the friends I've met over the years - in life in general - tell me that they still do '...fill in the blank...eat better, care more or whatever' since I opened their minds to new concepts.

I am in a constant state of self-improvement: physically, mentally, spiritually. I want to learn every day and I want to not be afraid to take risks every day. I want to LIVE, to really BE in the moment. If your idea of a good time is to watch the news together or to walk and talk, or to write a letter to the editor about something that bothers you or to explore new ideas, we will probably be pals before long.

My ideal friend:

- Plays guitar and sings (it's ok if you don't...i'm just talking about 'ideal' here...)

- Is thin and healthy (this is going to sound really really shallow, and I'm sorry, but a flat stomach is something I think is really nice...)

- Has a 'boyish charm' or if you are a woman, you have a 'girlish charm.' In other words, there's a bit of a bounce in your step. You have not let the horrible things in life get you down. You pull yourself up even though it's very very hard sometimes.

- Likes to joke around with waiters or waitresses or random people while out - likes to be silly with strangers - likes to do random acts of kindness

- Will adore me and do anything for me. Will 'get' me and will see that all my motives are good.

- I like the 'look' of high top running shoes and cotton scarves (You know...the type of person who is slightly different, maybe artistic or musical, but also mature and responsible - again, if you don't, that's cool...I'm just painting a picture of a 'style' of person...)

- Doesn't eat meat or would at least be open to discussing this. For certain, the person would not eat meat in my presence - out of respect for me. (I stopped eating animals in 2004 when I found out about the environmental reasons not to as well as the factory farming that goes on. By the way, did you know that it's WAY better to buy eggs that say 'free run' or 'free range' on the package? This means they didn't have a life of torture. It means the chickens had freedom of movement without being stuck 4 per tiny cage.)

- Cares about the environment - would walk past a paper cup on the street and throw it in the trash if it was close by (wouldn't think it's 'beneath' him to clean up after someone else.)

- Loves a good philosophical discussion...a truth seeker...

- Responsible with money - (has saved for that 'rainy day' but would spend ooodles of it on me!! - I'm kidding...i'm a simple girl with no need for extravagances - Value Village is one of my favorite stores because not only is it inexpensive but there are real treasures in there and it's a great way to recycle!)

- Loves to snuggle up.

- Flosses, smells good - showers everyday and wears clean clothes

- Preferably no facial hair, unless it's one of those artistic goatie thingies and it's well-kept.

- Will dance in the kitchen as well as anywhere else ...'feels' the music...doesn't care who's watching - will dance even if there IS no music! :)

- Will understand why I lied about my age - because EVERYONE says I don't look my age and because in my heart, I AM young and I move with a bounce in my step! (I'm actually 43...yikes....) But the photos are recent so YOU decide if you can handle me!

- I will be friends with anyone - your age doesn't matter one iota to me - as long as you are relatively fit and young at heart!

My worst qualities: My nose has a bump on it, I'm not as patient as I could be, I don't floss every day (but I want to!), I am 5 lbs overweight, (I can't seem to shed it!) I'm not as well-read as I'd like to be...hum...what else...

- I don't really believe in the concept of a 'gym'. I believe that to drive a car to a place and then to ride a stationary bike in there is sort of silly. Why not just ride the bike in the first place and skip polluting the environment by driving there? For upper body exercise, use a vacuum cleaner or give more hugs. (Or keep 10 pound weights beside your computer and lift them while you read - like now for instance!) For lower body exercise, go for an aerobic walk with a friend. By the end of it, you'll have talked up a storm and 'bonded' more, breathed in fresh air, not wasted any money, seen your neighborhood (maybe waved hello to a neighbor!)and you will have left the air just a little more clean if your car stayed in your driveway. But listen, if you REALLY love the gym, it's fine... I'm open-minded and willing to accept that everyone is different.

Date? I hate that word... How about just meet and see if we can be friends? Chemistry: It's either there or it isn't - you can't 'create' it. I actually don't really even care if you're a man or a woman - I just want to meet people who are 'real'.

Do you know of any musical people from the west-island who might want to jam? I'm getting pretty decent at the drums lately and I'd love to be the drummer/back-up singer for a band... I write songs and play guitar too...

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Write me if you'd like to go out dancing...I LOVE dancing!

Live in Canada
Must not be married
Must not smoke