Wait a minute. Stop the movie. Rewind. It seems my definition of a "Great Man" isn't succinct enough - so let's try this again, shall we? See "ADDENDUM" below. P.S. They're also the reasons I'm this close to throwing in the towel on the entire online dating thing.

What kind of a man makes my heart skip a beat?

A Great Man.

So what is a Great Man - to me?

Professional, intelligent (very) educated and literate, witty, humorous, attractive (to me), fun, risk taker (playtime is important!), willing to do whatever is necessary for those he loves, passionate and dedicated, trustworthy and loyal with a large dose of honesty.

Basically, a smart, attractive, educated and professional guy who can make me laugh - is spontaneous and loves to do things on the fly. Works hard, loves adventure and is loyal and loving with his friends and family and honest to a fault. Isn't afraid to stand with me - or up to me. Won't run when emotions run high - in the heat of an argument or in the heat of a budding relationship. He understands the value of seduction and romance and so do I.

Add a large dose of chemistry and stir...

There you have it - My Great Man.

ADDENDUM:

A Great Man understands the meaning of the phrase "Mutual Respect" - especially during the first few phone calls and initial meeting.

A Great Man understands the importance of communication and contacts me because of a desire to get to know me (see communication).
A Great Man would never, under any circumstances write his entire letter to me in CAPS - SCREAMING AT ME AND INSISTING THAT I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IS GOOD FOR ME AND THAT I SHOULD GET TO KNOW HIM BECAUSE HE WON'T BE WAITING AROUND FOR ME AND THAT I'M A FOOL IF I'M INTERESTED IN PURDY BOYS BECAUSE ONLY HE COULD MAKE ME HAPPY. End quote. Oh my. Yes, and I've received more than one and from multiple individuals.

A Great Man doesn't post a profile with completely bogus pictures of himself and "family members" along with detailed fabrications about his life and the people in them (yes, he used stock photos from a company in France and YES I discovered them. Another guy used thumbnails from Google. C'mon guys, do you really think we're stupid?).

A Great Man understands that it's completely inappropriate to request a bikini photo from a woman he doesn't know (and is someone he'd like to get to know). Honestly, it screams "I really don't care what you think, I only care about how you look." Just awful...A Great Man would understand that.

A Great Man knows that he doesn't have to put others down in order to be funny....especially if he's doing that to a person he's contacted on POF for a date. Huh? I never got that one.

And last, but certainly not least...(this one is the BEST because over HALF of the men I've been in contact with by phone or IM are guilty of doing this - it amazes me, really. Okay, are you ready for this one? I'm sure the other ladies on POF will back me on this:
A Great Man understands there's an appropriate time and place for everything; therefore, when he's trying to get to know a woman he understands that to send photos of himself in compromising positions is not only disrespectful, it's downright scary at this stage. A Great Man does NOT send naked pictures of himself on a boat, in bed, in the bathroom, with other people, in briefs, in boxer briefs, and in clothes that appear to have been ripped off or incredibly hulked off and are in shreds. Instead, he's an educated man who wants to take the time to get to know me because he understands that the way to a woman's desire and her heart are through her head. Not understanding this tells me that he's only looking for one thing and it certainly isn't a long-term relationship.

Just to drive that point home - Imagine being at a club and a friend introduces you to a girl. Within moments of your conversation are you baring your chest and pulling down your pants to expose yourself? Didn't think so. So why do you think it's appropriate to do to the ladies on POF? That's socially unacceptable behavior. For all intents and purposes, I'm a stranger and being coerced to look at a strange man's body parts doesn't do a thing for me. Sorry, if you don't get that, please refrain from contacting me.

With the right person - anything is fun.....but PLEASE...I prefer SINGLE men my age or just a few years younger who are looking for something long-term (Emphasis on the terms SINGLE, MEN, and LONG-TERM). I have kept myself in "relatively" good shape and expect the same as far as looks and appeal.

Okay, after experiencing this first-hand from the couple of dates I've gone on - one more tiny request: If you've embraced your "feminine side" and have ever been referred to or thought of yourself as a "metro-sexual," please pass me by. I have girlfriends. I am searching for my EQUAL - but please...let him be of the male species. :) (Okay...not the EXTREME end of that, either - Rambo...just a regular guy, thank you!!!)

Are you perpetually 12 - like me? Please read above and contact me.

Male
younger than 47
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
Must not be looking for Hang Out
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
Must not be married