I'll fill this in later, drop me a line for intelligent convo and someone who loves romance and will make you feel the way you should. AIM me at CARMA6969\As I sit here, I wonder what ever happened to the days of wooing. Yes, some people may not even know what I'm talking about, which in itself illustrates the very point I am commenting. It seems the days of really proving your metal and showing how you stand out from the rest have gone by the wayside. It seems that mainly the males have decided that they are entitled to what they feel women provide for them and there is no need for them to essentially earn what they get. This is proven by the inherent insecurity that now plagues most relationships, men don't earn their women, they attempt to trap them and keep them not through merit but through circumstance. Cheating, divorce, abuse, lackluster passion, and complete loss or twisting of romance has become the standard issue of society. Case in point, I went to the bar with my buddies to shoot some stick (play pool in the vernacular), and I did find myself among some quite lovely ladies. It happened that a few of the ladies were currently engaged in a relationship, but me being who I am flirted and talked with them anyway, not because I'm rude but because no harm done. Of course this is done while standing mere feet from their men, and instead of the men joining in on the conversation or showing that they had something to bring to the table, in each case they simply glared at me, as if trying to scalp me with a gaze. This continued along and the males would then later attempt to overcompensate by performing thoughtless and gratuitous displays of affection in no way directed to make the women feel anything, but more so to "claim his territory". All the while, in each case, his woman continued to smile, flirt, and look at me the whole night. Good show old boy, well done indeed. You have not only demonstrated insecurity to her but to every person in the room, and have now taken your place in the ranks of looser ****es that now makes the girl wonder "Why am I here, and more importantly, why is he still here?" How does this connect back to the wooing you ask... Well it's a two pronged factor. When a man earns the affection of a good woman, he has no need to fear other men, look, talk, flirt, give her your best game, at the end of the night all you'll have is a bar tab and a lonely car ride home, thanks for comin’ out. There is no need to mark a women as yours, you feel that she is yours not because you make others know it, but make sure she knows it and wants to be yours. This brings us to the second prong. A woman who has been properly courted so to speak, will appreciate the relationship and the man more. She too will not have a need to look elsewhere and will have the faith that her man has no need to either. A man should use his talents, be it intelligence, words, song, humor, or simple gesture to show his worthiness.

Yes, I thirst for the days of crooning, my heroes Bing and Frank knew how to get the job done. Watch any of the On the Road movies with Bing Crosby and Bob Hope and you'll see what I am talking about. Bing would sing a song, make a girl feels special and call it a day. If she gives you hassle, just give her the brush. This is what is sad to see have gone from our culture. Now everything is fast, last min, and done in a drunken haze. I've met people who've never had any sexual experience sober or with any lights on. The former shows a complete lack of passion, the latter shows the same but in the sense of making the woman comfortable. This all leads to unfulfilling and meaningless relationships which waste time, cloud the heart, and cause damage that then prevents a person to truly enjoy a good relationship, because they are waiting for the moment when the person flakes. It's not that I'm saying a person shouldn't have fun, go out and have a good time, all I'm saying is that in the words of Sinatra "We're on the road to romance, that's safe to say, but let's make all the stops along the way..." Nothing wrong with a beautiful baby who's ready to party, just gotta make sure she is taken care of properly, passion and romance wins half the battle every time. Until next time fellow dreamers...