Read if you are interested in stepping out of Cyberspace & into reality at some time. Really, it's harmless, I kid you not, many people still do it even though they own a computer. I am a person who, when I open my eyes each morning, the first words I think or say is, "Thank you", I count my blessings every day. Yes, this is long, but really, it isn't "War and Peace" However, it does require you to have an attention span greater than that of a gnat.Ready? I'm currently attempting to stop smoking, although I haven't accomplished this feat....yet. But, it is coming along VERY nicely, I'm putting that out there, just so you know. If you can't handle it, click NEXT, thank you for stopping and don't forget to have your parking validated on the way out. If you smoke, that's fine, other people smoking doesn't bother me.

Now, where was I?....Oh, yeah....

There's some TRULY odd people on this site. 'Eh, it's a hazard of the "medium" I suppose. If some of you don't "get" my sense of humor (humour for you Canadians) or don't actually HAVE one yourself, lighten up & unclench. k?.. perhaps Wal-Mart has them on sale on the rack at the checkout. Now that that's out of the way.....

Men and Women will never figure each other out completely. Ahh, but it IS FUN exploring the adventure, isn't it? I'm expressive and have a sense of humor that sometimes can be wicked. I DO laugh at myself and there's a subtle mischievous, adventurous side to me. I can find humor in just about anything. I can be politically INcorrect at times, GASP! I even tear the tags off my pillows, but as yet never been arrested by the pillow police. I DO think for myself & if you ask my opinion, I will give a straightforward answer, so careful what you ask and I believe actions speak louder than words at times. I HAVE been known to pout, but I don't make a habit of it...really. I am a good listener & communicator & have a positive outlook. I'm not the type who thinks the world or life "owes" me something. If you're looking for an empty headed "princess" type, to place upon a pedestal along with all the other breakable objects, let's just say that's not me. I'm not a breakable object, besides, it gets dusty up on pedestals and I'm not anyone's "princess". ~chuckling to myself~

I love a man who is articulate, assertive and is straightforward. PLEASE have a sense of humor. One who possesses imagination, likes to try new things. Material possessions do not dazzle me, I don't get that "deer caught in the headlights" look, nor am I hypnotized/mesmerized by shiny objects. The man and what he, himself is comprised of...his substance & integrity does dazzle me. If you aren't with someone you can respect, love and be friends with, above all "things", well then, all the material possessions in the world won't make you truly happy in the long run. Just sayin'... I like a guy who knows himself and has confidence in who he is. And if you have an edge, all the better and I admire intelligence and wit. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to be intelligent. If you are the very shy, introverted type or fanatically religious we won't mesh.

And before you think, "Hey this one is perfect", well I truly hate to disappoint you, but I'm NOT Ms. Perfect, no one is and I don't expect you to be perfect either. I know my strengths and weaknesses and I do try to improve both. We have all made mistakes in our lives and it sucks, but hey, that's life, right? We are all flawed members of humanity and when a person begins to think that they're not, is when some serious self-introspection needs to take place. Mistakes are a part of being human and I have made mistakes over the course of these many years, but I do learn something from each and every one I have made and I did/do make the effort to rectify my mistakes. But like all humans it wasn't 100% successful in each and every instance. I'm not perfect. People should make the effort to understand each other more. I can't say that I've mastered this completely yet, but I do try. We all have pasts, it's part of what makes us who we are today.

Let it be noted I'm not looking for a "Knight in Shining Armor" to come and "rescue" me because frankly I'm no "Damsel in Distress". So if you are looking for someone to "rescue" from a dark, dank, dreary dungeon and carry her off to safety, I suggest you find someone who is looking to "complete" herself. The last time I looked,(which was just a minute ago) I AM complete, thank you very much. I see so many people who are searching for another to make them happy. It's an individuals responsibility for their own happiness, not the sole responsibility of another.

I believe Love is two people, each complete of themselves, coming together to share themselves but each still maintaining their individuality. A relationship to me is a safe, warm place for the two people to share, a 'place' where they can just be themselves, give & take equally. It doesn't matter where you are as long as you are with someone you love, respect and "get" and who "gets" you, anything, anywhere can be great and whatever you do together can be fun. There's just too many couple's living out a day to day existence who just don't take the TIME to really know each other and "get" one another. But, and here's the thing...you must first know yourself.

I am a licensed Private Investigator, have been for many, many years. However, I no longer conduct field investigations. I now limit my practice to a very small area of this profession after many years conducting various types of investigations, criminal and civil.If that intimidates you for some silly reason that would be your problem, not mine. My other job? I'm a business manager.
I would LOVE to meet:
-a ONE-woman-man type of man.
-a man who is, who he says he is, says what he means and doesn't mind if I ask him to clarify if I don't understand what he means the first time.
-A man who has a self assured attitude and knows what he wants.
-A man who has a great sense of humor -THIS,can be incredibly sexy.-grin-
-A man who will tell me what is on his mind when he feels the need and cares what is on my mind even if we don't agree. It would be a truly "Stepford" existence if we all agreed on EVERYTHING, all the time, don't you think? And too, "making up"~nudge~ is always REALLY, REALLY fun.

A date? Hmmm, well, let's just do the "meet & greet" and see if we actually want to have a bonafide first "date". Or perhaps we'll really hit it off on the meet & greet and spend some more time, who knows? Really, does it have to be some big plan? In any event, can you think of something more grueling & time wasting than to be stuck with someone, on a long, drawn out "first date", for a couple of hours that you wish would just end? Unless, that is, we've actually talked somewhat and have started some kind of "clicking". ~chuckles~

If you write and you type in "text speak"and you can't be bothered to actually type complete words, such as "you" and type "u" or "r" for "are", then I'm not going to be bothered to reply other than a quick "no thanks", IF that. You have no idea how silly this appears, coming from a middle aged man. Oh and please for the luvva God,... ~insert wry chuckle~ just to be frank, if you are young enough to be my son, go play somewhere else, I'm not interested. I most likely have shoes older than you and it's just NOT gonna happen. Trust me on that.

Please post a RECENT photograph....let's face it, does anyone even care what the other looked like 10, 20, years ago? I don't, none of us look the same now and if you think you DO, email someone else who's also reality challenged and fulla bullsh!t. Are you KIDDING me? What IS with that anyway? If one cannot post a pic of the way they look now, then why bother?I look like my photo's, they are recent, do you look like yours?If you write please POST a photo, I don't talk to faceless blue boxes unless you are a forum member, sorry.I post regularly on the forums, that's what I do when I'm logged in.

If you add me to your favorites and don't message me and are waiting around for ME to message you just because you added me, then you are going to be waiting around for a long time. Remember what I said above, "confidence". Just because you've come across me, doesn't mean that I've seen you. I don't regularly keep my eye on who's added me and who doesn't unless they message. In addition, if you are separated, pass me by and come back when you've taken care of the business at hand. k?
So, tell me...still wanna go out? That's okay, you can take time to bat that around back and forth in your mind......meanwhile folks, back to our regularly scheduled program.....