Rolling the dice, because that's what life is all about!

I'm a single guy who grew up in Los Angeles and New York. I love to travel. I believe everyone dies but not everyone really lives. I am very passionate in all that I do. In relationships I prefer to roll the dice. I would rather feel deeply and hurt then to never feel at all. I'm all about good friends, good conversation and good food. I'm high strung with a quick tongue. I very much enjoy my work and I try to maintain a healthy balance. I believe in accepting and loving someone for who they are and not trying to change them into someone else. In regards to what I am looking for, CHEMISTRY IS KEY. Character is far more important than appearance, let's face it, we're both going to get old someday and gravity will take effect, ha. Besides it’s easier to change ones appearance than it is to change ones true nature. Sarcasm is a fabulous thing. For the most part I'm pretty open, want to have some adventure and see where it leads.

Cooking is my single favorite hobby. Traveling spontaneously is a great feeling. I enjoy the ocean and the mountains. As far as music and reading go my interests are very diverse. Good ethnic restaurants are my favorites. Running with my dog is always relaxing. I'm not one to sleep in, but sleeping into the late morning with that special someone can't be beat.

I am very positive and outgoing with a good sense of humor which is a little off-beat at times. I am not into watching sports or the news. Regarding the news I usually scan the net to stay updated, but watching the news on TV I find discouraging because so many horrible things seem to always be the focus. Don’t get me wrong about sports, I like sports and played plenty growing up, going through university and beyond. Even played professionally, but I am definitely the kind of person who would rather participate than spectate. For example, if I had kids I would be the coach. Armchair quarterbacks irritate the hell out of me because they are generally lazy beer belly guys sitting around criticizing the players and coaches without a clue as to what it is really like to participate, let alone compete professionally, yet they tend to think they can do it better.

I try to be very open and nonjudgmental and always keep in mind that I couldn’t possibly fully understand what another person is going through because I am not them, and their feelings are their reality, not mine. I love to work and I most certainly work too much but I am getting better at balancing. Outside of work I also like to stay busy. I am not sure how to answer “what are my aspirations”. I’d like to have a nice home and a lot of fun. I moved to Charlotte a couple years ago and took all my stuff out of the house and put it in storage, where it all remains. The company I work for put me up in an apartment here and I’ve been there ever since, hence I live more like a bachelor instead of really feeling settled in. I can only think of one material desire I have. I want a house with a big back deck under the stars with a hot tub. Maybe that seems silly but I don’t have a lot of material desires. As long as the people I love are well provided for I don’t really care about anything else. I like long drives. For example, driving out to the coast for the weekend with the windows open and good tunes. This I find very relaxing.

Regarding relationships I think honesty and communication are most important. Relationships take a lot of work at times if two people are truly committed to one another. I would like to meet someone with whom I have great chemistry, which should be obvious by the end of a second date at the latest and within the first 5 minutes of meeting someone a lot of the time. I’m not into games or a serial dater. If I have gone on a couple dates with someone and things are going great then that is usually the person that gets my full attention until we see where it leads. I do not have the time, energy or desire to do what it takes to juggle dating multiple women at once.

Simply put I am very honest, successful and confident, and hoping for the real deal. It’s all about sharing.

A first date is a tough one since everyone is different. My ideal date would be to start by meeting for a couple drinks or coffee to relax and get to know each other a little, then off to do something with a little more distraction like walking around downtown, playing pool, just something instead of just sitting. If that goes well, then maybe we could share one of those long, soft, passionate kisses that seems to never end...