After spending some months reading and posting in the forums I have come to a conclusion. It would seem to me that most if not all problems with relationships and love all boil down to the breaking of transgressions which are fatal to spiritual progress. What am I talking about? Why the seven deadly sins of course. Lets have look.

Envy: The desire for others traits, status, abilities or situation. At the heart of most failed relationships, we desire a different life or partner and this leads to thoughts of life changing decisions, usually not including the partner we are currently with. Could also be called, "The grass is always greener syndrome."

Greed: The desire for material wealth or gains. While this usually becomes clear in a divorce battle, the imbalance of the need for material wealth during a relationship from one partner to the other is a large strain on the relationship itself.

Sloth: The avoidance of physical or spiritual work. The imbalance of energy between two partners, regardless of if we are talking about the ability to keep up the chores or the laziness behind supporting and nurturing our partners love, this is definitely a big one that ends partnerships.

Gluttony: The need or desire to consume more than one requires. Usually associated with food it can also expand into many other things. Video games or time spent on the internet for example, the point being that it takes time away from being with our lover. Or it just simply makes you to fat because you can’t keep away from McDonalds.

Lust: Overpowering craving for the pleasure of the body. Selfish in nature, often mistaken with love and usually the final sin which leads us to stray.

Wrath: Sometimes initiated by anger but not always, the overwhelming need to get even with someone. Generally doubling the original sin and the original problem.

Pride: The hardest of all the sins to understand and avoid. Also known as Vanity it is the excessive beliefs in ones own abilities. It generally manifests itself in an overwhelming confidence in our general appearance, regardless of its an inability to get away from a mirror or the need to wear, drive or live in a style that is beyond our own ability. Generally seen as arrogance in others it can also manifest itself in a persons belief that his or her mind is also superior to others as well.

There you have it, the seven deadly, avoid these within yourself and you may even find out what love really is, not to mentions save your next relationship....

From the forums:
Must love hurt to be real?
Answer: It's a good question and something that has been pondered over since Adam and Eve. The thing is, is that it is not love that hurts, but our expectations of others that cause the pain. We expect to have our love returned and when it is not it hurts. We expect the other to be faithful, honest, kind and a whole host of other things that we form a picture of in our mind about what love is. When these things are not met, returned, realized we hurt inside. In the end what it is we do is hurt ourselves from our expectations.
True love has no expectations and there for no pain. Love is something to give, give it when you are able, take it when it is given to you, but never expect it...

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