Grab a coffee, have a seat…this is a long one.....if you DON'T have a coffee addiction before reading this, you will....
ALSO: If this sounds at all negative, trust me I'm not a negative person - just a little fed up / frustrated with this thing as most people are not who they say they are / or not really looking for what they claim to be looking for on here.
Hmmm....what can I say? I've been here a couple of times before. I’ve met some great people, made some new friends, met some NOT so great people. People who say "don't play games" when they themselves are the ones that play them. I see a lot of that in here. The dating scene is very frustrating and to he honest I hate it at times, but yet it can be wonderful with the right person if you are both on the same wavelength. It's FINDING that one that is hard. So, I'll try to give you an idea of what I'm looking for as best I can.
I am looking for someone who is fun, outgoing, great sense of humour, preferably a sarcastic goofball (NOT in a hurtful sense) but someone who also knows how to be serious when that time comes (which in my case isn't very often). I prefer someone who is also looking for a long term RELATIONSHIP! Someone who isn't afraid to wear their heart on their sleeve. Someone who has no ties to their exes (physically OR emotionally...unless you have children of course!). You are single, emotionally available, open, honest, trustworthy, not a cheater, no B.S. and no games. I'm just too old for that stuff, life's too short. I believe lovers should play together, so you should be playful, silly, childlike, have a fantastic sense of humour, be energetic sometimes and lazy other times.
NOTE: I am NOT looking for a part time / occasional boyfriend (or Online friends!)! I am looking for someone to spend my life with and enjoy my life with so that would also include during the week sometimes (or lots of times. LOL). Someone who is going to call / see me more than once or twice a week. I prefer someone who will work on a relationship instead of just bolting at the first sign of any kind of a problem. Everyone is so eager to bolt nowadays, they just don't give things enough time.
I am full of useless facts. I could tell you things, you would never ever want to know. In fact, just by listening, you will have lost valuable time in your life.
Someone who is preferably close to their family (or can at least tolerate them to some degree..LOL) Someone who knows it's the little things in life that count, a hug, a kiss, public/private displays of affection. Hey, every girl wants to be spoiled sometimes!! LOL
Someone who has TIME for a relationship, who is willing to make time for me out of your ‘busy’ schedule. I want to be a priority not an option.
You will get the same from me. Someone who can be mushy sometimes or can at least handle me being that way if we are in a relationship. Someone who is DONE with the bar scene. Not that I don't go to bars anymore, I just mean on a regular basis. Been there done that. I prefer pubs/lounges where you can hear. I have a lot of musician friends so once in awhile I'll go to their gigs. I'd prefer to be able to bring you with me instead of leaving you behind because I feel I can't be myself. I don't like 'thumpy' clubs. You are okay with going out and you are okay with staying in too. I'm good with just a bottle of wine and some movies or hanging with friends, mine OR yours.
PLEASE HAVE MORE THAN ONE PIC OR I WILL ASK FOR MORE! It's amazing how different people look from one pic to the next. Please don't give me the 'I don't have any' or 'I hate having my pic taken'. In this day and age that doesn't cut it. Nothing personal I swear! It's just that I need to make sure you don't look like TWO totally different people from one pic to the next. I've heard the horror stories from my own guy friends on how women are putting up pics from 1988 up here. LOL I assure you I look like my pics!!
Also, if you are NOT interested in having (more) children – been there done that etc. then please do not bother with me. I am looking to have at least 1 down the road. I have to say, I am weary of men with SMALL children (not that I don’t like them, I love them but I don't want to complicate things or confuse them). Sorry but that’s the truth. There ARE and ALWAYS will be exceptions, like if you are an AMAZING AMAZING person and the chemistry is too awesome to ignore! To be honest, it's the exes that are more the problem, I just don't feel like dealing with them (bad past experiences). I wanna be your number one not your number two....um....yeah....hmmm....is this thing on?? Tap Tap Tap...
It's one thing to be shy AT FIRST (we all are - infact - I ramble!), but I prefer someone who can be okay around a large crowd as I have a large group of CLOSE friends and sometimes they can seem intimidating (and so can I). So, if you are generally shy and introverted, we will not be a good match.
I'm not going to pretend I'm a chef because I'm NOT, however, if you want to try the 'cooking together' thing and don't mind me burning down your kitchen, I'm in!!! I LOVE BBQ-ing!!!
Not looking for someone who is
CONSTANTLY on here! You know who you are. Chronic POF'er's.....Hellooooo, we can see you when you are on here....LOL I want to get OFF of here for good, not visit you here!
Looks get my attention but personality (or sense of humour in my case)wins my heart.
Please don't get offended if I don't respond to you. It just means that I don't think you are a match for me, as you know, mail in here can get a little nuts at times and sometimes emails can slip through the cracks.
Happy Fishing! .....and if you think all this is TOO MUCH....then guess what? I'm obviously NOT for you!
Confidence (not ARROGANCE) is a great thing in a man......
NO PIC - NO TALK (Or I might ask you for a pic). It's only fair isn't it?
WHEW! TIRED YET?? ME TOO! LOL
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