I have been going to some fun social events and making new single friends.

I date a little casually, until I get something going with a very good match, I suppose it will stay intermittent.
I want to leave a void for the right one to fit right in.
Sometimes I think about giving up and losing myself in work.
Luckily, I suppose, I do not give up easily.

I think of myself as being easy going, but I am far more outgoing and adventurous than most people I meet. I could list many more interests.

Regarding children. Never had any. Wanted them, deep down I believe I still do, seems very distant right now, would consider adoption; especially older children.

May not ever have children, even adopted ones, depending on who I am with.
No kids can be fun too....? I don't know.
Seems to me to be the proper purpose of marriage and lifetime commitment.
Guess I need to start thinking a little wider or I may end up being single a long time.
I expect a decent match with mutual attraction is a good foundation.

Have considered women with children a number of times; each case is different.
Some situations possibly very good, some I can't warm up to.
I usually prefer a women that does not have children, like myself.
I have met some that do have kid(s), and if otherwise a very good fit, then I think it may be fine for both of us.


Speaking of things that complicate dating...
I am usually not available afternoons until dark. This will pass then I can enjoy weekends freely again.
Mom's up there in age and has Alzheimer's. I have it manageable now, but there is uncertainty of the future.
I do not mind sharing more privately.
I welcome a great fit match for a commitment; but I do not think it is fair to expect one under these conditions.
People should date for awhile; to really get to know a person, before anything involving commitment anyway; right?
Remember...
It is better to not be in a good relationship, and want in one;
than to be in a not so good relationship, and want out of one.


I am primarily looking for a lifetime relationship or marriage. Someone that shares my same desires for fun activities to do together. Someone I can look at and feel love for.
I do not want to be too specific on what fun activities are, because when the feelings are right for a person, things do kind of have a way of working out.

I try to be open minded in what will be great relationship.
A person can waste years waiting for that right person.
The thought of being 10 years older and still single seems wrong for me; not that I want to compromise too much.
I recognize by getting to know someone over a longer period of time, it may start to feel right and be fine.

A couple of traits I am looking to avoid are women with bad tempers and low libido.
In a nutshell the more we have in common the better.
The more different...meet up with ya at a dance, nightlife/social event, etc.
Hey; at least we meet! It could a fun time and lead to more.

I usually just write a message when interested in a woman; but if I added you as a favorite, that means I'm not so sure if we are mutually compatible,(or I'm busy) and you should favorite me back or write if you are interested.


If you are not interested, it's OK to not respond to my message.

It so depends on the person and geography.
I can be pretty easy meeting someone where I feel we are an excellent match, or where I am going to be around there anyway. Often @ La Mirada, Beach Towns, OC, Long Beach, Fullerton, sometimes San Dimas or in between.

It might be for coffee/drinks to keep it simple, or we did not get to know each other that well by phone/email.
Or better yet we did find some things in common and perhaps we meet for something a heck of a lot more fun!! Could be off to dancing, bike riding, kayak!!
Maybe just good conversation and a nice walk.

If a long drive, {and I can't think of a plan B : ) }, sometimes I may want to talk by phone a few times, that is usually a very good indicator how we may get along in person.

Of course nothing is better than actually meeting in person.

I suppose I could get a lot more dates if I put dinner, drinks, and dancing.
I am looking for fewer dates that want to get to know me.
I do not mind some emails/phone calls, but meeting one new person every 2-3 weeks is closer to my comfort speed; especially since most are not as local as I would like.
I think being able to focus on one at a time is part of my nature too.

I'm terrible at juggling and sometimes let slide some of my better matches trying to get to know others who caught me at a better time.

I'm hoping when the right one comes along it will be obvious and I won't miss her.