Since last years divorce I have been going to some fun social events and made new single friends.

I date a little casually; until I get something going with a very good match, I suppose it will stay intermittent.
I want to leave plenty of space for the right one to fit in.

I think of myself as easy going, but I am far more outgoing and adventurous than most people I meet. I could list many more interests.

Regarding children. Never had any. Wanted them, deep down I believe I still do, seems distant right now, would consider adoption; especially older children.

May not ever have children, even adopted ones, depending on who I am with.
No kids can be fun too....?
Always seemed to me to be the proper purpose of marriage.
I am beginning to think in a wider way so I do not end up being single a long time.
I expect a decent match with mutual attraction is a good foundation to lead to a lifetime commitment.

Have considered women with children a number of times; each case is different.
Some situations possibly very very good, some I can't warm up to.
I usually prefer a women that does not have children, like myself.
I have met some that do have kid(s), and if otherwise a very good fit, then I think it may be fine.


Something that is different...
I prefer to not be available until a few hours before dark. This will pass, then I can enjoy weekends freely again.
Mom's up there in age and has Alzheimer's. I have it manageable now using Dimebon, but there is uncertainty of the future.
I do not mind sharing details privately.

I welcome a great fit match for a commitment; but I do not think it is fair to expect one under the above conditions.
People should date for awhile; to really get to know a person, before anything involving commitment anyway; right?
Remember...
It is better to not be in a good relationship, and want in one;
than to be in a not so good relationship, and want out of one.


Don't get me wrong; I am primarily looking for a lifetime relationship or marriage.
Someone that shares my same desires for fun activities to do together.
Someone I can look at and feel love for.
I do not want to be too specific on what fun activities are, because when the feelings are right for a person... things kind of have a way of working out.

I try to be open minded in what will be great relationship.
A person can waste years waiting for that right person.
The thought of being 10 years older and still single seems wrong for me; not that I want to compromise too much.
I recognize by getting to know someone over a longer period of time, it may start to feel right and be fine.

A couple of traits I am looking to avoid are women with bad tempers and low libido.
In a nutshell the more we have in common the better.
The more different...meet up with ya at a dance, nightlife/social event, etc.
Hey; at least we meet! It could a fun time and lead to more.

I have been told my profile contradicts itself.
They are just guidelines. I could meet someone and toss the rulebook out, thinking this is the one. I found her and I'm happy.
What's the point in having a lot of conditions if the best love is unconditional?


I should just write a message when interested in a woman; but if I added you as a favorite, that could mean I'm not so sure if we are mutually compatible,(or I'm busy) and you should favorite me back, or write if you are interested.
I did give your profile some thought if I favorited you. Would you like to know what I found most appealing?


If you are not interested, it's OK to not respond to my message. Wish you the best.

It depends on the person and geography.
I can be pretty easy meeting someone where I feel we are an excellent match, or where I am going to be around there anyway. Often @ La Mirada, Beach Towns, OC, South OC, Fullerton, sometimes San Dimas or in between.

It might be for coffee/drinks to keep it simple; if we did not get to know each other that well by phone/email.
Or better yet we did find some things in common and perhaps we meet for something a heck of a lot more fun!!
Could be off to dancing, bike riding, kiyak!!
Maybe just good conversation and a nice walk.

If a long drive, {and I can't think of a plan B }, I may want to talk by phone a few times, that is usually a very good indicator how we may get along in person.

Of course nothing is better than actually meeting in person.

I suppose I could get a lot more dates if I put dinner, drinks, and dancing.
I am looking for fewer dates that have longer term potential.
I do not mind some emails/phone calls, but meeting one new person every 2-3 weeks is closer to my comfort speed; especially since most are not as local as I would like.
I think being able to focus on one at a time is part of my nature too.

I'm terrible at juggling and sometimes let slide some of my better matches trying to get to know others who caught me at a better time.

I'm hoping when the right one comes along it will be obvious and I won't miss her.

If we are close but likely best suited for just friends.....well I do have those too.
I usually meet up with a group of them for dancing, happy hours, or something outdoorsy.
If compatible I'd be glad to have you join us and introduce you around.