I'm a not so worried about being 43 yr.old woman, a Mom, friend, daughter, sister and neighbour. My son tells me I do a pretty decent job as Dad, too. I have a small farm, own horses, train them well and do a variety of work to keep the ends together. Priorities in life begin with the Mom part. Life is happy, full, with no desire for dramatic change, although there is room for the right sort of guy if he can understand and mesh with our world. "Our" or "we" is my son and I - a set-in-stone deal until he's ready to use his own wings.

My boy is a young athlete; passionate about hockey, lacrosse and track and field. He's developing skill at these pursuits. These, his academics and citizenship often see him picking up acknowledgements. He's not an over-achiever, but has high expectations for himself. I mention these things because of past experience. I like kids and would not shy away from a fellow who has similar aged kids. But, there has to be emotional maturity and self-confidence in others coming into our life. My son is social, happy, helpful and gregarious, but for kids maybe not feeling so good about themselves, he can be tough company. Last thing I will ever do is suggest to my son that he not work so hard at what he does in order for somebody else to not feel left behind. Others need to be on top of their own level of "okay".

Alcohol, drugs (street or prescription), other addictions or mental health/personality disorders are not issues in our world. The way I see it is if we are not currently tolerating these problems of our own creation, why would I be willing to bring them into our world by tolerating them in others?

I keep quite fit with work and help my kid practice and train for his stuff where I can. This doesn't mean I'm ready for or looking for somebody living life like a prep for Iron Man competition. We bowl, spend time at the beach or river, like to get out and hike the back country some, do some fishing and don't shy away from recreational sports/activities. I tried golf a few years ago and really enjoyed it. We don't watch much TV, something as simple as a evening fire or occasional movie is good fun.

I don't like that I smoke and don't do so much around people who don't. I could likely be talked into quitting with the right attitude around me; don't do well around people who whine or complain and I don't like high stress people - makes me want to smoke!!

I prefer men somewhat taller than myself. You don't need to be 6 foot 2, but something to think on; my 12 year old is 5 foot 9. Do you want some woman's 12 year old towering over you? I like men who take care of themselves and find a beer belly extremely unattractive. I think I'm too old to expect an Adonis but guys, we women are not so different from you - we need to feel that attraction too.

Qualities I value in people, insist on in a man are integrity, maturity, honesty, responsibility, reliability, genuine sense of humour, cheerfulness, intelligence and emotional security. I don't mind laughing at myself. My kid's okay with a good laugh on his own account. So a guy who is secure enough to do likewise would be kind of nice. There are still things I want to build and accomplish in life, so somebody with some ambition, drive, goal orientation would be nice. Somebody alive and wanting to see life progress and unfold works for me.

I'm a bit wary about men looking for "Dating". I've learned for some "dating" is a euphemism for "short term fling". If that's what you want, hire out and don't waste my time. Those willing to mislead others for their own gratification make me sick. Meeting somebody this internet way, it takes time just to figure out if you want to meet in person. If that works, a realistic period of time dating, really getting to know each other would follow. You don't just start at long term. I'm not interested in anybody who wants to go on dating for the rest of their life either. At some point things either move forward or you move along. Endless dating often ends up way too convenient for one party. It also ends up holding people like me back in life and I am so tired of that. I'm still optimistic about meeting somebody worth building the rest of life with.

I don't like liars, rude, moody, grumpy or disrespectful people. Huge egos, narrow minds or arrogant, self-absorbed people don't fly either. Crappy things happen; talking about it isn't the same as being hung up on it. Being so troubled by something of old that you see those same negatives in everyone else you've ever dated or talked about is a hang-up and I would like to find somebody truly past their past. Somebody nice, sincere, real and getting on with life, without acting out Superman would be so cool.

So, if my straight-forward frankness hasn't scared you silly and you want to find out who I am, don't be afraid to drop a line. Don't get bent if I'm not instantly back in touch with you. Life can be very busy. A lot of my work is at home and I do make flying trips onto the internet several times a day, but seldom sit around for very long. Something I insist on this time - don't contact me without a good, RECENT picture of YOURSELF . Good luck searching!

A first date??? How 'bout we just meet first??

Male
Age between 40 and 48
Live in Canada
Must not be looking for Hang Out
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
Must not be married